Thank you, GirlieGirl, and everyone else who has responded. I am sorry to be so negative, but I just feel so bad. So sad. At least over the weekend I was angry, but now the adrenaline rush is gone and all I want to do is cry, and I have been (apologies to the guys and anyone else who hates tears). I know its stupid, but I just can't believe he could do this; that I actually bought into all the crap he said about a future together, and how I was so special and important to him and his son. I have been married and been in a relationship or two, I'm not a fool, and thought I was a pretty good judge of people. I'm not saying he was "the one" but I love him and even though I know he is a loser and doesn't deserve me, that doesn't really help too much right now cause I just feel so bad. Despite my bravado of the earlier posts, I would never confront,not my style. Who knows if I will even go back and get my stuff? Again, apologies to all for my personal pity party - as usual, I am not really posting on the appropriate thread, but I didn't think "Karand found out her man is a cheater" would get a lot of hits. You guys are all great.