The best strategy for a young BM...

The worship of celebrities and young entertainers has corrupted our women to think that money is necessary for happiness. Seems no one can think for themselves until it's too late.
 
Well, Well, Well.........

The infamous topic about money, hmmmmm....
Now you know that I gotta put in my two cents because this is something else that I am having experience in as we speak.

To make a long story short, sunstorm and choco hit the money right on the head. There are some that are denying the reality of the times we live in and there are girls that are genuine who don't really care about the money, but that percentage is completely low.

So here is what I have to say in addition to what sunstorm and choco said. There is something else that a black man wants to do when he acheives his financial goals. This may sound harsh to the women (and some guys too), but to ensure minimal casualties and to play it strategically, please make sure that the woman brings something to the table. Women who are deemed somewhat attractive in our society get a sense of entitlement and think that they should be able to get any man because they are pretty. Well, here is what I have to say about that.......Men should raise their standards and not just take a girl because she is white or whatever. Here is what I mean: women say that they won't date a guy unless he has this, that, a lexus, and whatever.

OK :roll:. Well, how many women do you guys know who can contribute the same thing? Not many, my young jedi's, not many at all.....

So to bring it home, both sunstorm and choco have provided good instructions for a black man in this country who wants a variety of women to choose from and just having a decent woman. At the same time, when you guys do reach that level of success, make sure that you also go for women who have reached (or are reaching) for something because (as choco said) when a man has money, that only increases the chances that an ordinary girl will try to use you instead of love you in a genuine way.
 
This is going to sound naive, but most women (most, not all) who are interested in wealthy men or rich men (there is a difference) seem to be interested in the qualities that created that financial prosperity in the first place. Now, this can get complex because there are different types of rich/wealthy people. But speaking to those who actually built their fortunes through creativity, leadership, versatility, vision, flexibility, open-mindedness, charity, and foresight...the women who they attract seem to be attracted to their qualities rather than the money itself. Perhaps it's the man's integrity, his genuine care and concern for his fellow man, his vision and perseverance in the face of challenges in business or investing or areas like his personal life and how he handles them, or something else. You all are right in acknowledging the gold diggers, but in some cases, what may seem like gold digging on the surface, could be an appreciation for quality underneath.
 
Pinnacle23 said:
This is going to sound naive, but most women (most, not all) who are interested in wealthy men or rich men (there is a difference) seem to be interested in the qualities that created that financial prosperity in the first place. Now, this can get complex because there are different types of rich/wealthy people. But speaking to those who actually built their fortunes through creativity, leadership, versatility, vision, flexibility, open-mindedness, charity, and foresight...the women who they attract seem to be attracted to their qualities rather than the money itself. Perhaps it's the man's integrity, his genuine care and concern for his fellow man, his vision and perseverance in the face of challenges in business or investing or areas like his personal life and how he handles them, or something else. You all are right in acknowledging the gold diggers, but in some cases, what may seem like gold digging on the surface, could be an appreciation for quality underneath.
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Now, just to pacify the argument: "Are you saying that you have to be rich or 'wealthy' just to be a quality person?"

There are millions of quality people in this world, who contribute wonderful things to this world regardless of personal economic circumstance. I'm just mentioning those quality people whose characteristics and values resulted most notably in money and/or wealth because the sub-topic of this thread is men with money.
 
Pinnacle23 wrote:
This is going to sound naive, but most women (most, not all) who are interested in wealthy men or rich men (there is a difference) seem to be interested in the qualities that created that financial prosperity in the first place.

You are right about the SEEMS to be interested part when in reality, they see the dollar signs, but as you say, there are exceptions to the rule.....

Now, this can get complex because there are different types of rich/wealthy people.But speaking to those who actually built their fortunes through creativity, leadership, versatility, vision, flexibility, open-mindedness, charity, and foresight...the women who they attract seem to be attracted to their qualities rather than the money itself.

Perhaps it's the man's integrity, his genuine care and concern for his fellow man, his vision and perseverance in the face of challenges in business or investing or areas like his personal life and how he handles them, or something else.
:smt043 :smt043 You are a good man, but this is AMERICA my brotha. To a majority of women, money talks, bullshit walks

You all are right in acknowledging the gold diggers, but in some cases, what may seem like gold digging on the surface, could be an appreciation for quality underneath.

HA! :smt102 Where was that appreciation for redeeming qualities in guys like Dennis Rodman, Wesley Snipes, and others who are deemed, not-that-good-looking, BEFORE coming into money?
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Pinnacle23,
I really love people like you because you have the ability to give people (women in particular) the benefit of the doubt. It is a quality that I truly wish I had, but I don't (not in the least). If a woman finds out beforehand that you have money, then I HIGHLY doubt that a majority of women in the U.S. would genuinely appreciate you for your qualities. I have seen and been through too much to let my guard down on this issue.

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Hey!!

Maybe this is because I'm young...but I still do believe in love and I don't care about the money. I must admit that if I am not physically attracted to him then I would not be with him no matter what. Now I am not saying he'd have to have straight teeth, a muscular body, be tall, have hair....
I prefer men who are honestly very good looking but not stereotypical..I prefer slim men to muscular ones and I actually prefer men at about my height (5'5).....I know this seems to have absolutely nothing to do with this but I am just saying that in some cases money isn't as important. I honestly have no idea how much money my guy has....I know he has debt in Canada but I don't know much about his life in Senegal. If he had money it wouldn't change my view of him because I was attracted to him first and we clicked.

I will agree though that money can sway relationships. My father was going through his second divorce.....until he came back from a 3 week selling trip(insurance broker) with $50,000. He had also just bought a new car and a house. Then he paid for her trip to Russia(she's a mail order bride) and gave her $10,000 spending money!!! Well he also took her shopping and they went to the Carribbean.....and guess who came back??? I mean this is obviously a scenario where money will win a person over. But I think it depends on the type of person they are. She obivously favours money and will sleep with a man cus he's got some cash......

Some women who prefer men with money, it's ok. But I mean if that is the basis of your relationship then you need to re-assess your judgement. Money can only go so far in a relationship.

I do agree with my other posters though. Money does do wonders and it really doesn't just talk it SCREAMS! In our society we are prone to overdoing everything.....especially materialism. I mean I like nice things but I have no problem working for those things myself or helping and supporting my man achieve his dreams and goals so if he does get money, we can purchase those kinds of things together. I want a partnership based on love, trust, respect, honesty, support and commitment. The rest is extra which I do not require.

Well I guess I just wanted to tell you guys from my perspective and I hope I haven't offended anyone..... :D :lol:
 
sunstorm said:
In my opinion, the best strategy for a young bm to ensure you'll find the woman you want of whatever kind, is simple -- "git the money."

If I were to advise a 20-something bm on women and romance, I would say don't be affected by what's happening to you now, just focus on building a career (or business) and building that cash --and don't have any kids! -- and by the time you're in your 30s things will be much, much easier.

Put off being the romeo; git the money and the rest comes easy. Wealth is the one thing that trumps the racial equation...
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Real Talk
 
I hate to agree but I too think that money is important. Not necessarily the love of money but all the things having money allows you do. If your a woman and your looking for the best mate, not only for yourself but for any future children you may have, a 'man of means' would be the best choice. Your kids would go to the best schools and give themselves a great chance of success in this ultra-competitive world. You can live in the best neighbourhoods, and travel the world experiencing other cultures.

Having money is not all about flash cars and easy women. More so, it's about the power you can yield. The power to create jobs, live anywhere you want. And also the power to navigate the hardships of this life. You can't escape racism. But the man with money can create the type of working environment he wants to be in and can choose his neighbours. I remember Warren Buffett saying in an interview that the best thing about what he does is that he goes to work with people he likes and never gets to see anyone that 'turns his stomach'. How many of us can say the same?

If you want to improve your wealth knowledge, visit and google the following sites: Forbes, Fortune Magazine, Bloomberg, Wealth Bulletin, Nayland House Blog, Black Enterprise Magazine, Black Entreprenuer Profile, plus many more.

Good luck all.
 
quantumblack said:
I hate to agree but I too think that money is important. Not necessarily the love of money but all the things having money allows you do. If your a woman and your looking for the best mate, not only for yourself but for any future children you may have, a 'man of means' would be the best choice. Your kids would go to the best schools and give themselves a great chance of success in this ultra-competitive world. You can live in the best neighbourhoods, and travel the world experiencing other cultures.

Having money is not all about flash cars and easy women. More so, it's about the power you can yield. The power to create jobs, live anywhere you want. And also the power to navigate the hardships of this life. You can't escape racism. But the man with money can create the type of working environment he wants to be in and can choose his neighbours. I remember Warren Buffett saying in an interview that the best thing about what he does is that he goes to work with people he likes and never gets to see anyone that 'turns his stomach'. How many of us can say the same?

If you want to improve your wealth knowledge, visit and google the following sites: Forbes, Fortune Magazine, Bloomberg, Wealth Bulletin, Nayland House Blog, Black Enterprise Magazine, Black Entreprenuer Profile, plus many more.

Good luck all.
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I couldn't agree more. Money is the biggest aphrodisiac.
 
Athena said:
A giant penis is the biggest aphrodisiac for me. And flowers.
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I will go by the graves tonite for the flowers and will be getting penile implant soon, so I think I should be ok by you then.....
 
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