Why Black Women Are Alone Book

Nouharel said:
Well I don´t know where I was reading, but yes there is a significant number of black women staying single in the US.
This are mostly educated women who have trouble finding a partner on their level.
Black women are more likely to get a good education then their male counterparts. And like all women ( Thats is human nature) they look for guys with a high status.
Black guys who have higher education are more likely to choose a white woman.
But Black American Women don´t choose WM due to their history. They cannot find a BM who can compete with their status. So they stay alone in much higher rates then white women with a good education.
That is on aspect of lonly black women. there are be others too.
Click to expand...

I read that too. I think it was this article:

http://www.theroot.com/views/successful-and-still-unmarried
 
Jaybee in WWBM said:
Black women are in a damn tight spot; the proportion of WM men who find them attractive is far lower than corresponding numbers of WW who find BM's attractive. That, because - they simply aren't as physically appealing, overall, nor as feminine in personality. So, they are competing with WW for BM's - and losing badly.
Click to expand...

There you go generalizing again Jaybee. My cousin is married to a black woman and she is not only very beautiful, but far more feminine that I. IMO there are just as many attractive black women as there are attractive white women. I think every individual has their own personal definition of beauty and so what one person finds attractive, another may find unattractive. To each their own.

As for the concept of lonliness, being alone doesn't imply one is also lonely. Some people are perfectly content alone, and for many it is a choice.
 
Loki said:
While it is true that more Black women have degrees than Black men, Black men still earn more $ than Black women on average according to the last U.S. census. Thus, I never bought the whole "I can't find anyone on my level" nonsense. I am a huge proponent of formal (degree) education, however it is not the sole determining factor of a person's knowledge/worth.
Click to expand...
Men always earn more then women do.
Plus women no matter wath color, the better education they have and the better jobs they have, the more they stay single. Just BW do it on a higher level then ww.
plus BW in the us ( stat is specific to the us) are more into BM they don´t date outside their race so easy.
 
Nouharel said:
Men always earn more then women do.
Plus women no matter wath color, the better education they have and the better jobs they have, the more they stay single. Just BW do it on a higher level then ww.
Click to expand...

Agree with what you are saying here, I just get tired of the same old story being trotted out in the mainstream media that there are "not enough good Black men" which is the false point that many of these types of articles are hoping to perpetuate. In other words, Black women have their act together, but those lazy, criminal, (insert any one of many negative stereotypes about Black men here), Black men are letting them down, so the poor Black woman is single not by choice, but due to a lack of viable options in Black men.
 
Loki said:
Agree with what you are saying here, I just get tired of the same old story being trotted out in the mainstream media that there are "not enough good Black men" which is the false point that many of these types of articles are hoping to perpetuate. In other words, Black women have their act together, but those lazy, criminal, (insert any one of many negative stereotypes about Black men here), Black men are letting them down, so the poor Black woman is single not by choice, but due to a lack of viable options in Black men.
Click to expand...

And all the good ones are stolen by White women! :rolleyes:
 
Nouharel said:
Well I don´t know where I was reading, but yes there is a significant number of black women staying single in the US. This are mostly educated women who have trouble finding a partner on their level.
Black women are more likely to get a good education then their male counterparts.
Click to expand...

This is the 2004 US Census report that shows marital status by race in the US. It was the most current that I could find.

http://www.census.gov/population/www/documentation/twps0483/acs04_ms_table2.pdf

It does show that a smaller percentage of black women are married, as compared to white, asian, or hispanic/latino women. Although the gap isn't as wide, the lowest percentage of married males are black men. What surprised me is that 42% of black women, and 43% of black men have never been married, and that's double the percentages for some other races.

As for educational attainment, that same census survey shows 18.4% of black women have a bachelor's or advanced degree, while 16.6% of black men do. There really isn't much disparity there.

http://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/race/black/ppl-186/tab7b.pdf
http://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/race/black/ppl-186/tab7a.pdf
 
Loki said:
Agree with what you are saying here, I just get tired of the same old story being trotted out in the mainstream media that there are "not enough good Black men" which is the false point that many of these types of articles are hoping to perpetuate. In other words, Black women have their act together, but those lazy, criminal, (insert any one of many negative stereotypes about Black men here), Black men are letting them down, so the poor Black woman is single not by choice, but due to a lack of viable options in Black men.
Click to expand...

Well in some point it is true that the BW has fewer choices, but mostly because she is limiting her to BM. If she would date more outside her race, that would look diffrent.

But this is a phenomena in the US. And it has to do with the white master man and the raped black slave women I guess. Or at least it was explained in this book.
I was reading this in a book about dating habits... woman in general try to get a mate in a higher social class. And if this means to cross a race line or so, they do it no matter what. The only exeption in this are bw in the us, who don´t date so easy outside their race.
 
Nouharel said:
Well in some point it is true that the BW has fewer choices, but mostly because she is limiting her to BM. If she would date more outside her race, that would look diffrent.

But this is a phenomena in the US. And it has to do with the white master man and the raped black slave women I guess. Or at least it was explained in this book.
I was reading this in a book about dating habits... woman in general try to get a mate in a higher social class. And if this means to cross a race line or so, they do it no matter what. The only exeption in this are bw in the us, who don´t date so easy outside their race.
Click to expand...

Or maybe alot of BW just don't find WM attractive, I can understand that as I feel the same way on that front. Surely it can't all date back to the days of slavery?
 
Bex said:
Or maybe alot of BW just don't find WM attractive, I can understand that as I feel the same way on that front. Surely it can't all date back to the days of slavery?
Click to expand...
Well I see here many black and mixed women dating white guys..... and even when I cannot understand thier choice, they find thier mates atractive.
Atractivity is a very personal thing and sometimes u cannot judge from the outside lol
 
EspyInHeels said:
There you go generalizing again Jaybee. My cousin is married to a black woman and she is not only very beautiful, but far more feminine that I. IMO there are just as many attractive black women as there are attractive white women. I think every individual has their own personal definition of beauty and so what one person finds attractive, another may find unattractive. To each their own.
Click to expand...

Firstly, I sometimes get the nagging feeling a raised-bar intellect like yours would take delight in playing 'devil's advocate' with me....but I'll play along nonetheless.

:)

I may have forgotten to write 'most' again, but the fact is, I've got first-hand, street-level experience of this one, having both worked and lived in majority-black areas in a city of 8 million. I'm not hypothesising or debating an unknown, I'm merely relaying what IS. Add the fact that I'm a man, and the crux of what I'm talking about is how much we as a gender feel attracted, or rather how little, to black womanhood. Which is something a straight woman can only ever theorise about. As for definitions of beauty, the preponderance of BM/WW matches over the reverse, speaks for itself.

Kudos for trying to get hold of some census figures. I think it would finalise my case if those stats yielded the percentage of mixed-race children whose fathers were black, as opposed to mothers.

As for the concept of lonliness, being alone doesn't imply one is also lonely. Some people are perfectly content alone, and for many it is a choice.
Click to expand...

D'accord.
 
Tony Soprano said:
2dshauh.gif
Click to expand...


:smt042
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom