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One note about being your kid's friend, especially as you get older.

My best female friend is my Mom. I'm a good kid, and I was well behaved as a child. She NEVER would have let me do something like this. But part of how she kept me in line was the fact that I never wanted to let her down. I always wanted to become the type of Woman she would want for a friend. I still strive to live up to her standards, and I totally never will, but the trying keeps me on the right path. I talk to her every day, about almost everything. She never lied to me while I was growing up, always supported me, always had my back, always encouraged me, always was interested in my life. I cannot think of better traits in a friend.
 
chicity said:
One note about being your kid's friend, especially as you get older.

My best female friend is my Mom. I'm a good kid, and I was well behaved as a child. She NEVER would have let me do something like this. But part of how she kept me in line was the fact that I never wanted to let her down. I always wanted to become the type of Woman she would want for a friend. I still strive to live up to her standards, and I totally never will, but the trying keeps me on the right path. I talk to her every day, about almost everything. She never lied to me while I was growing up, always supported me, always had my back, always encouraged me, always was interested in my life. I cannot think of better traits in a friend.
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Wow, sounds like you have an exceptionally fantastic mom. I would like to be like that to my kids.
 
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chicity said:
One note about being your kid's friend, especially as you get older.

My best female friend is my Mom. I'm a good kid, and I was well behaved as a child. She NEVER would have let me do something like this. But part of how she kept me in line was the fact that I never wanted to let her down. I always wanted to become the type of Woman she would want for a friend. I still strive to live up to her standards, and I totally never will, but the trying keeps me on the right path. I talk to her every day, about almost everything. She never lied to me while I was growing up, always supported me, always had my back, always encouraged me, always was interested in my life. I cannot think of better traits in a friend.
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This is the type of relationship that I plan to have with my daughter as she gets older.

But for now, she's too young to be my "friend". She needs discipline and direction in her life.

There's a point when your child becomes old enough to understand the difference between having a parent and having a friend who just so happens to also be your parent. When my daughter gets a bit older, she'll know that she can come to me about anything and everything and I won't judge her for it. Until then, I'm her parent only.
 
Bookworm616 said:
This is the type of relationship that I plan to have with my daughter as she gets older.

But for now, she's too young to be my "friend". She needs discipline and direction in her life.

There's a point when your child becomes old enough to understand the difference between having a parent and having a friend who just so happens to also be your parent. When my daughter gets a bit older, she'll know that she can come to me about anything and everything and I won't judge her for it. Until then, I'm her parent only.
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well said joanie, and exactly what i plan for my children and i as well. i consider my dad as one of the most remarkable people in my life. i can come to him for advice, support, love, guidance as i do with my friends, but he'll always be my dad first.
 
Tarshibear said:
well said joanie, and exactly what i plan for my children and i as well. i consider my dad as one of the most remarkable people in my life. i can come to him for advice, support, love, guidance as i do with my friends, but he'll always be my dad first.
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That's awesome about your Dad.

I never felt comfortable talking to my parents about serious stuff. They have always been so controlling and judgmental. In fact, my whole family is like that. D'oh!

They always told me I could come to them with anything, but their words didn't match their actions.

So, I plan on NOT being that way for my daughter. I want her to always feel welcome to tell me anything. She knows now that she can tell me anything, but she's too young to fully grasp the concept of that.
 
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