erictbrown1
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That just don't make any sense, I had a talk with my Dad and we both thing the 70's messed our people up with being cool a mack daddy etc.
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That just don't make any sense, I had a talk with my Dad and we both thing the 70's messed our people up with being cool a mack daddy etc.
erictbrown1
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a man in a suit and tie. Nothing sexier in my opinion.
Agreed. I've introduced a few guys to things that they have never done and vice-versa. Most, if not all, had a blast doing things that were not the norm for them.
One of the most popular black guys in our school was big on country. Drove a Ford Explorer and had his country music so loud you could here it inside the building most days. I personally watched him turn down black girls constantly. He was very smart and a good football player. He is still a great guy, works his butt of doing what he loves, and still listening to his country music ... lol
Personally, I don't want my man's drawers showing. It's just not a good look. For anyone. Keep 'em pulled up. No-one cares if your wearing Hanes or CK.
Baby mama drama isn't good for anyone. Nerd or not. It puts someone is a not-so-good position when they get with someone who has it. I've seen them become the target of the baby-momma (and sometimes vice-versa). Too many young people are having kids, and their is so much drama involved it's nuts. I can't count how many times I've gone out with friends only to have the night ruined because they just have to stir up some drama with their baby-daddy.
I don't automatically think an older man with no kids is gay. I think he is smart! Good for you for being smart!
Thank you very much, I never wanted baby mamma drama if I want kids I will get married first.
erictbrown1
Member
And what gets me is people think just because you are a nerd that you are a wimp. I just got my 5th dan black belt a few weeks ago I am a golden gloves in boxing and I am all nautal bodybuilder.
erictbrown1
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and eric - seriously if I meet a guy who's between 30 & 40 and has no kids, I AM REJOICING. NO BAGGAGE, NO BABY MAMA DRAMA!! NOt having kids with one or more people DOES NOT determine you are gay!! YOU ARE SMART AS HELL.[/QUOTE]
Thank you pretty lady.
and eric - seriously if I meet a guy who's between 30 & 40 and has no kids, I AM REJOICING. NO BAGGAGE, NO BABY MAMA DRAMA!! NOt having kids with one or more people DOES NOT determine you are gay!! YOU ARE SMART AS HELL.[/QUOTE]
Thank you pretty lady.
erictbrown1
Member
ARe you single marry me LOL. You are on point with this.
karmacoma.
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*dingdingdingding* We have a winner.
Turns out her fat ass (Sherri Shepherd) actually had the gall to turn Hill Harper down back when they were both still struggling 'cause he didn't have a car. Hill broke it down right onstage. BW should thank their lucky stars a cat like him is still interested in them.
Ah, the Blaxploitation-Era.
Very, but I plan to stay that way! I'm good taking care of myself, I really don't understand this 'save me' mentality some people have.
I'll bet she's rethinking that now. He was 'goofy' back then, but he don't look so damn goofy now, does he. LOL!
That shit just got worse the longer I watched. BW are stronger than everyone else, they persevere when other women commit suicide... WTF is that? I want to see some statistics on that phenomenon, cause if that was the case then maybe they should be teaching the rest of the women on the planet those awesome coping skills they apparently have.
Oh and that comment about BM who aren't interested in BW being flawed, that's just out of line. People are attracted to who they are attracted to, I don't recall anyone saying that these women who only want a high-earning man with current potential are flawed because they're shallow. This all boils down to holding other people to a higher standard that you hold yourself, and that's just unfair to the guy who has to strive to be Mr. Perfect, while you are allowed to just be your mediocre self.
I would hope these women are just setting a poor example, and that they are the exception, rather than the norm. If they aren't, that's just damn sad, though it does explain why they remain single.
tuckerreed
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i know, nerd doesnt mean you are a wimp, it just means you are serious about books and ideas, using ones brain for more than a hat rack. and not worried about what the mass of people think and do, not being a sheep and following the crowd.
tuckerreed
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Very, but I plan to stay that way! I'm good taking care of myself, I really don't understand this 'save me' mentality some people have.
I'll bet she's rethinking that now. He was 'goofy' back then, but he don't look so damn goofy now, does he. LOL!
That shit just got worse the longer I watched. BW are stronger than everyone else, they persevere when other women commit suicide... WTF is that? I want to see some statistics on that phenomenon, cause if that was the case then maybe they should be teaching the rest of the women on the planet those awesome coping skills they apparently have.
Oh and that comment about BM who aren't interested in BW being flawed, that's just out of line. People are attracted to who they are attracted to, I don't recall anyone saying that these women who only want a high-earning man with current potential are flawed because they're shallow. This all boils down to holding other people to a higher standard that you hold yourself, and that's just unfair to the guy who has to strive to be Mr. Perfect, while you are allowed to just be your mediocre self.
I would hope these women are just setting a poor example, and that they are the exception, rather than the norm. If they aren't, that's just damn sad, though it does explain why they remain single.
funny, i met a girl in college at freshman orientation. she was from southside chicago and really cute. she was my first college gf, and i thought we hit it off really great. but everytime she was with her sistahs, she ignored me and acted like i wasnt even there or important. she was cool when i was taking her on dates, paying for it, helping her with schoolwork, and treating her with upmost respect. but as soon as she was around her ghetto girls, she acted as if i was scum. I finally told her that i wasnt going to put up with it and dropped her. well of course, being with her friends who were all from the same background and needed economic and academic help, they all dropped out and went back to their hometowns.
about 4 years later, after i had completed University and my first grad program, i get a call, funny because i was living half way across the country and wondered where she got my number. anyway, she called and asked if i was dating, what i was up to and then when i told her , she went silent and then said "im sorry for treating you that way, and could we connect again" i was like, all's forgiven but NO!
wow, i was cool enough to be used but not cool enough to hang with the black crew!
erictbrown1
Member
I think that era messed out people us.
erictbrown1
Member
Very, but I plan to stay that way! I'm good taking care of myself, I really don't understand this 'save me' mentality some people have.
I'll bet she's rethinking that now. He was 'goofy' back then, but he don't look so damn goofy now, does he. LOL!
That shit just got worse the longer I watched. BW are stronger than everyone else, they persevere when other women commit suicide... WTF is that? I want to see some statistics on that phenomenon, cause if that was the case then maybe they should be teaching the rest of the women on the planet those awesome coping skills they apparently have.
Oh and that comment about BM who aren't interested in BW being flawed, that's just out of line. People are attracted to who they are attracted to, I don't recall anyone saying that these women who only want a high-earning man with current potential are flawed because they're shallow. This all boils down to holding other people to a higher standard that you hold yourself, and that's just unfair to the guy who has to strive to be Mr. Perfect, while you are allowed to just be your mediocre self.
I would hope these women are just setting a poor example, and that they are the exception, rather than the norm. If they aren't, that's just damn sad, though it does explain why they remain single.
yep that is why they are single the choices they make in looking for men
erictbrown1
Member
Please tell me you are joking about this WTF? That is some crazy mess right there.
tuckerreed
New Member
i wish it was a joke. she found a job back in chicago as a receptionist and i hope she is doing well. of the 7 black women i dated, i had that issue with 5 of them. 2 of them were African and Carribean and they didnt buy into that image over character and substance thing and we had excellent relationships.
erictbrown1
Member
The one from other nations are cool I dated one from Africa she was so sweet.
tuckerreed
New Member
i know, i dated one from Burundi, ohh man she was beautiful, super intelligent, great morals and standards, character, a real keeper. i wish that i had pursued her more but i was working too much on my MA and let her get away.
you have probably seen the Interracial dating videos on YouTube, where the sistahs talk about not finding good black men and why they are alone. what i found sad was that the women talked more about the position and money and degrees they acquired and not about love, passion, committment to a relationship. Its almost as if bw think its a business transaction to date and marry.
leaving smart, educated, good, kind, loving black men alone to pursue other women who are looking for love, not a business partner
erictbrown1
Member
I just don't get it there are some bad ass sisters I would love to get with but all they care about the money you have in the bank and the car you are driving. What about my heart, what about how good I treat you, giving foot massages after work, drawing your bath taking you out for dinner when you don't feel like cooking what is wrong with that. Some think I am a punk casue I bring flowers and candy on a date I mean WTF
they dont care about that. i was married to a bw ( BITCH WOMAN) and I would come thru the door tell her fine she was and how much she meant to me ect... but she was cheating and then when I went into depression. she started stealing money and then divorced me. that was almost 3 - 4 yers. I have not seen my daughter since because She stole 17G's so i dont habve the money for a lawyer. I lost both of my gigs due to depression. she forged my name on mortgage modification and destroyed my credit. ( she had it notarized) now im just fucked.
I hate G-d and BW.
The Dark King
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Me and a friend were just talking about this subject tonight. Its like foreign girls usually have better values and are far less entitled. American women black and white a like seem like they don't have morals anymore its all about things and what we can do for them.
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