Pretty sure that's not it goodlove. I don't know about anyone else, but personally I don't want to raise a man, nor do I want to dominate anyone. In fact someone who is self-sufficient and able to use their own brain is really attractive.
I think older women find younger men attractive for several reasons. For instance men have higher sex drives at a younger age, and women's sex drives increase in their 30s and remain high for decades after that. So in that respect they are well matched. I've also personally noticed that younger men tend to be more open minded about just about everything, than men my age for example. Since I highly suspect you're going to ask me to elaborate on that, let me just offer you some examples upfront.
Men my age think women in their 40s and up should think, dress, and behave a certain way, and they aren't shy telling you about that either. They don't understand why a woman would choose to work long hours, spend time staying fit, etc. I think there's a belief that after a certain age you just don't really need to try anymore, and it apparently doesn't occur to them that maybe you just like it that way. That may just be my experience but honestly I think it's probably a generational thing as there are some women my age who agree with them. I think the gender roles have undergone considerable change in the past 5 decades and some people just haven't caught up yet.
One other thing I noticed is that this seems to apply to non-BM, as I've never met a BM of any age that had that mindset, they always appear very progressive if you will, or more open to accepting you as is rather than viewing you as a project that needs work.
