Amen Aesop!
Brian White Marries Non-Black Woman; Goes Off On Haters Via Twitter
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Amen Aesop!
LaydeezmanCris
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Heh, its funny something similar happened about a fortnight ago. I was talking with this (black) lady at a shop in Washington, very nice and courteous. I was looking to size up a photo frame of a family portrait and she asked to see the picture in particular. I brought it out, she saw my wife and daughters and all of a sudden, her grace and warmth vanished. She didn't exactly stop being nice, but I could sense a swift coldness and indignation in her. She then said to me, and I quote, "A good brotha like you could have gotten a gorgeous sista to have those beautiful kids, but you had to choose a white woman." (Never mind the fact that my wife is a fair skinned Dominican mestizo, but perception is reality I guess 
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I really didn't know what to say or do. I mean, it's not the worst remark about my wife or family I've heard, but a part of me really takes umbrage at people even hinting at what they feel is the appropriate choice of a partner for me, particularly when they are not kinsmen. I just gave her a nice smile when we were through, told her to have a nice day and left.
I feel as Americans, we are far too hung up on race to a poisonous degree. Now undoubtedly, I am not naive enough to ignore the contentious nature in which race relations has established itself in the United States, particularly with the context of slavery, Jim Crow, lynchings and so many other dark vertiges of our history. But there comes a certain point in which we have to make a concerted effort to get with the times. I really do empathize with many black women (particularly the single ones) who feel a sense of betrayal when they see a black man with so many admirable qualities, one who could make the parents proud stroll around with a non-black woman. I also understand the pain that interracial relationships have caused to so many, to refuse to acknowledge this flies in the face of wisdom. But the inconvenient truth is that we are mere individuals, we have to do what's right for us. If I, as a black man, decide to marry a white woman, or a black woman decides to marry an Hispanic man, whose business is it?
At the end of the day, that's what it all comes down to if i'm honest.
).I really didn't know what to say or do. I mean, it's not the worst remark about my wife or family I've heard, but a part of me really takes umbrage at people even hinting at what they feel is the appropriate choice of a partner for me, particularly when they are not kinsmen. I just gave her a nice smile when we were through, told her to have a nice day and left.
I feel as Americans, we are far too hung up on race to a poisonous degree. Now undoubtedly, I am not naive enough to ignore the contentious nature in which race relations has established itself in the United States, particularly with the context of slavery, Jim Crow, lynchings and so many other dark vertiges of our history. But there comes a certain point in which we have to make a concerted effort to get with the times. I really do empathize with many black women (particularly the single ones) who feel a sense of betrayal when they see a black man with so many admirable qualities, one who could make the parents proud stroll around with a non-black woman. I also understand the pain that interracial relationships have caused to so many, to refuse to acknowledge this flies in the face of wisdom. But the inconvenient truth is that we are mere individuals, we have to do what's right for us. If I, as a black man, decide to marry a white woman, or a black woman decides to marry an Hispanic man, whose business is it?
At the end of the day, that's what it all comes down to if i'm honest.
pettyofficerj
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Heh, its funny something similar happened about a fortnight ago. I was talking with this (black) lady at a shop in Washington, very nice and courteous. I was looking to size up a photo frame of a family portrait and she asked to see the picture in particular. I brought it out, she saw my wife and daughters and all of a sudden, her grace and warmth vanished. She didn't exactly stop being nice, but I could sense a swift coldness and indignation in her. She then said to me, and I quote, "A good brotha like you could have gotten a gorgeous sista to have those beautiful kids, but you had to choose a white woman." (Never mind the fact that my wife is a fair skinned Dominican mestizo, but perception is reality I guess
I really didn't know what to say or do. I mean, it's not the worst remark about my wife or family I've heard, but a part of me really takes umbrage at people even hinting at what they feel is the appropriate choice of a partner for me, particularly when they are not kinsmen. I just gave her a nice smile when we were through, told her to have a nice day and left.
I feel as Americans, we are far too hung up on race to a poisonous degree. Now undoubtedly, I am not naive enough to ignore the contentious nature in which race relations has established itself in the United States, particularly with the context of slavery, Jim Crow, lynchings and so many other dark vertiges of our history. But there comes a certain point in which we have to make a concerted effort to get with the times. I really do empathize with many black women (particularly the single ones) who feel a sense of betrayal when they see a black man with so many admirable qualities, one who could make the parents proud stroll around with a non-black woman. I also understand the pain that interracial relationships have caused to so many, to refuse to acknowledge this flies in the face of wisdom. But the inconvenient truth is that we are mere individuals, we have to do what's right for us. If I, as a black man, decide to marry a white woman, or a black woman decides to marry an Hispanic man, whose business is it?
At the end of the day, that's what it all comes down to if i'm honest.
ive been saying this for the longest. When a good brotha (you know, the type that tries to do good in his life, settle down, be a family type brah) mixes it up with ANYTHING non-black, the sistas get heated. Don't let the broad be white either or you're going to get the ice-grill, evil eye, and the screwface combo all-in-1.
it shouldn't be like that, but it is.
on a side note, i said this before, but even the Latinas were behaving like 'sistas' when brothas were going with white girls in my school, lol
Matches Malone
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Jealousy
That is all it is. Upset they weren't chosen...like they even had a chance.
That is all it is. Upset they weren't chosen...like they even had a chance.
The Dark King
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I really do feel for them sometimes because they are the most likely to remain single but that's all culture and bad choices and then I stop caring. Besides I don't see why they can't date outside of the race themselves. The more biracial kids the better it is for human beings period.
SmoothDaddy101
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You make sense. They get mad because they've wasted time chasing 4Pac and missed out on 'real' men.
The Dark King
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Lmao damn that's harsh kid
pettyofficerj
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that's the sucka shit right there
you paid me no mind in high school, when i was doing good and hustling in the academic grind...now you're older and realize playboys just use you for pussy and nothing else, so you come back to the ones you never liked
lol
The Dark King
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What's crazy is a dude like me a guy who admits to being goofy and nerdy. Who teaches chess for a living right now wouldn't ven be on their radar yet they would be soooo tight when see me with a ww. It makes absolutely no sense.
pettyofficerj
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yeah i dont remember the Chess players being sought after, let alone a black one
lol
really tho, laydeezman has a bit more patience than many cats out there
if she said that to the wrong nuc, she would have gotten an earful about black girls shunning men with morals in the past
on a side note, i can NOT remember the last time a white girl made fun of me for being 'corny' or square in high school or college, but I CAN remember many times a black girl did. Even as a jock, I was more inclined to be with someone non-black because I didn't look and behave like the other black guys.
The Dark King
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I think you came out the winner on that one fam.
Matches Malone
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Of course
He married a White woman. His last name is White.
He married a White woman. His last name is White.
The Dark King
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archangel
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lmao
pettyofficerj
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DarkSoldier08
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As they saying goes haters gon hate.
exist2live
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Racially Argentinians are mostly White. American school system, where art thou?
"Skin lightening" isn't possible.
And people tan. Skin color shades changes depending on the season.
raocha
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pettyofficerj
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yeah i was going to direct him to a gaggle of skin creams, with the sole purpose of altering complexions...then I thought to myself...if he's silly enough to write that....................