LadyBlaze306
Active Member
hm. btw i'm back 
anyway....i'm not too sure why people do this. I've seen it there & there myself but I've also seen the opposite(girls who ONLY date black men BECAUSE they are black but not immersed in the culture AT ALL & know nothing about it).
for myself, my parents raised me to be interested in all sorts of cultures(which I am) but I've always maintained & had friends & dated people within that ethnicity as well.
I've seen it happen a lot here that a LOT of the WW dating BM know nothing of caribbean, african american or african culture or could care less to. It's some sort of odd twist on the question asked in here. Personally that bothers me just as much because if you're gonna have a marriage or a family with someone who's of that ethnicity, why would you not want the kid to be involved with both cultures & knowing both backgrounds?
However, I get quite a bit of attitude from within both the W & B community because the majority of my friends & all my ex's have been black. Like I am not supposed to enjoy the culture, the food, because I am WHITE.
I personally have no problem with people immersing themselves into culture, I think it's great...but it kind of seems fake or an image they're trying to maintain in being involved in another culture that they cannot be with a black man. It's "cool" to be into everything else, to be rocking the hairstyles, the dress but NOT cool to be dating a BM. Irks me to no end.
There's also the opposite end wherein people think I try too hard to be 'black' or to have all black friends & boyfriends(which is not the truth. I still base people on who they are at the end of the day, no matter your skin colour, culture, etc). I think if you take on too much of the culture(as was written in here earlier & as I've seen) it becomes not natural, not a culture you're enjoying, but something you are taking on WAY too much of, especially if you haven't been raised in it, around it, etc. FOr me, this goes for anyone, I have seen it happen with other ethnicities here where they try to take on a culture & live a cultural life that is NOT their own & act as if they are no longer of that ethnicity.
But then my mother reminds me that she's so very happy she's raised 2 children who are totally into respecting & enjoying other people's culture(my brother & his wife are highly immersed in the asian culture) but still remembering where we came from too.
anyway....i'm not too sure why people do this. I've seen it there & there myself but I've also seen the opposite(girls who ONLY date black men BECAUSE they are black but not immersed in the culture AT ALL & know nothing about it).
for myself, my parents raised me to be interested in all sorts of cultures(which I am) but I've always maintained & had friends & dated people within that ethnicity as well.
I've seen it happen a lot here that a LOT of the WW dating BM know nothing of caribbean, african american or african culture or could care less to. It's some sort of odd twist on the question asked in here. Personally that bothers me just as much because if you're gonna have a marriage or a family with someone who's of that ethnicity, why would you not want the kid to be involved with both cultures & knowing both backgrounds?
However, I get quite a bit of attitude from within both the W & B community because the majority of my friends & all my ex's have been black. Like I am not supposed to enjoy the culture, the food, because I am WHITE.
I personally have no problem with people immersing themselves into culture, I think it's great...but it kind of seems fake or an image they're trying to maintain in being involved in another culture that they cannot be with a black man. It's "cool" to be into everything else, to be rocking the hairstyles, the dress but NOT cool to be dating a BM. Irks me to no end.
There's also the opposite end wherein people think I try too hard to be 'black' or to have all black friends & boyfriends(which is not the truth. I still base people on who they are at the end of the day, no matter your skin colour, culture, etc). I think if you take on too much of the culture(as was written in here earlier & as I've seen) it becomes not natural, not a culture you're enjoying, but something you are taking on WAY too much of, especially if you haven't been raised in it, around it, etc. FOr me, this goes for anyone, I have seen it happen with other ethnicities here where they try to take on a culture & live a cultural life that is NOT their own & act as if they are no longer of that ethnicity.
But then my mother reminds me that she's so very happy she's raised 2 children who are totally into respecting & enjoying other people's culture(my brother & his wife are highly immersed in the asian culture) but still remembering where we came from too.
