I was talking to a buddy of mine who was telling me that the reason that he broke with his ex was because he caught her in bed with a woman when he came home earlier than usual. He said he flipped and told her to leave immediately and threw her clothes out and told her never to call him again. Now that got me thinking, if i suspected my woman of cheating and i caught her with a female in my bed, i might actually be relieved it was not a man but a women because then at least i know its not because i'm not giving her what a man wants but she just wants to experience what a woman can do to her body. A friend of mine said he would be happy and ask if he could join in the fun which i found rather weird So, question is guys would you be mad,happy or relieved if this scenario happened to you and ladies if you found you man was in bed with another man would you be mad, relieved or happy(i would be shocked about the happy part but hey who knows)
Ok, if I walked in and found my guy with another guy I'd be very hurt first and foremost. I would certainly feel betrayed too.
I'd be absolutely devastated. That's a lot of lies right there even aside from the cheating, then there's the cheating, the wondering if they're with you because you look like a man and the horror of knowing I'd been in a relationship with someone not remotely attracted to me(goodbye self esteem!). Assuming it was because they were actually gay. Cheating is a blow, catching them at it is another, someone of a different gender than myself would be another. Then the lies about sexual preferences, the worries caused by it, etc.
True cuz it would be pretty difficult to know any woman would be happy with her man in bed with another man but for some cats i am sure they would ask" may i join".This is more geared towards the guys but wanted to know females perspective as well
In some ways, there are different standards pending on the spouse infidelity in this case. Generally, men would feel more "relieved" or "aroused" if they caught their lady love with another woman - as long as they are lip-stick/feminine looking. Women who have men who cheated on her with another man...it's like the world simply caved in. A friend of mine (white girl) dates black men exclusively and well, everything's a mess. She's a overly sexual person and would cheat on her boyfriend at the time with another guy. But it's always a no-no on the guy to cheat on her. Well, there's a common pattern: When she caught her exes cheating, it's almost always with another guy AND it tends to be someone SHE cheated on him with! Weird eh?
Cheating is cheating! It doesn't matter if it's the same gender or not. Just because it's girl on girl action and "every" guy's dream it doesn't make it right. But offcourse if I found my man with a man I probably would be happier then if he was with another woman...obvious resons. But it's still cheating and not ok in my book.
Me personally, it all depends on the scenario: 1) Cheat on me with a butch-dyke lesbian = I will kick her ass to the curb. 2) Cheat on me with a lipstick lesbian = Shocked, yet a bit aroused and excited. 3) Cheat on me with a pre-op transsexual = I'll need my video camera.
Hahaha, tell me...would you be shocked if you saw your with another woman and assumed she was using a strap-on, but rather, a feminine dick...would you go through therapy.
Actually cheating is cheating, whether with a guy, a hot homosexual, a tranny, a butch dyke, a donkey, a horse or a mule. Knowing my dumb male brain, I might be excited for a minute or so if I saw her with hot feminine lesbian making out by accident/drunk, the others strap, tranny all that shit, hell to the fucken NO!
I agree that cheating is cheating, regardless of all that. Especially since you if you're with someone, it's a vow to be with that person and call them something more than a lover.
Cheating is cheating to me. The depth of my pain would equal the depth of my feelings for her. If we were not too serious, I would laugh it off as I break things off with her. If I was serious about her, it would hurt me the same as if she was with a man.
If I walked in on my man with another man, I'd whip his ass....unless I was married to him, then I'd kill him. I'd be pissed & hurt if a man cheated on me regardless of whether it was with a man or a woman.
Indeed. It's one hell of a "what the fuck" moment, and that's why I couldn't get involved with her. She don't need a relationship if she's all promiscuous. Now BEFORE you whip his ass, then kill him, be sure to say the following line in the name of Jesus: