hey ladies,

[Nerdy Girl]

If you think just because you'll be slim you wont ever attract low-lifes, you will be sorely disappointed. Being a big woman does not equate to attracting low-lifes. either. You attract what you put out. Last I checked, a personality isn't measured in pounds.

Agreed 100%. Aside from the whole beauty being in teh eye of the beholder thing, there is a lot more to attraction than just physical appearance, just as there is a lot more to character than socio-economic status.

 

[APPIAH]

So an insecure fat white woman living in a ghetto neighbourhood attracts a ghetto black man but if she reduces her weight by 50 lbs she will attract a uppity black man who is rich? Somebody is gonna get disappointed

 

[JordanC]

So an insecure fat white woman living in a ghetto neighbourhood attracts a ghetto black man but if she reduces her weight by 50 lbs she will attract a uppity black man who is rich? Somebody is gonna get disappointed

What if she puts the weight back on? She has to return to ghetto men??!! SA has to explain........her funny ideas.

 

[Mikey]

So an insecure fat white woman living in a ghetto neighbourhood attracts a ghetto black man but if she reduces her weight by 50 lbs she will attract a uppity black man who is rich? Somebody is gonna get disappointed

Your perspective is so wrong about white women, it's laughable. Nobody has seen pictures of you, perhaps you need to workout and lose some weight just like anyone else. There are plenty of obese men that exist in America, it's not just women that are obese.

Actually, I'm quite close to your size, sister (from the last photograph I saw of myself the other day).

And I am not really looking for someone UNTIL I am happy with the way that I look (now that I have a job and can focus on fitness, getting an apartment, working on my art exhibition, etc.)... I only want someone that I will be happy with, who is equal to me, no matter what color. BUT if I'm attracting low-lifes, you better believe I will take a good look at myself in the mirror and do whatever I can to get my standard up where it used to be. And/or just get out more and go to events for like-minded people...

If you need fitness coaching/training Saint, I can help you out immensely. Don't worry about the weight thing. It can be fixed if people have the aptitude to improve themselves, as you've already proven.

 

[saintaugusta]

Your perspective is so wrong about white women, it's laughable. Nobody has seen pictures of you, perhaps you need to workout and lose some weight just like anyone else. There are plenty of obese men that exist in America, it's not just women that are obese.


If you need fitness coaching/training Saint, I can help you out immensely. Don't worry about the weight thing. It can be fixed if people have the aptitude to improve themselves, as you've already proven.

Thank you, sweetie... by the way I'm not obese and actually enjoy being active, so it's not going to be difficult to get the weight off. I've gone from being completely stationary for several months and on/off for a year or so to running my ass off for my job. I know what I need to do to lose weight...but I might start a fitness thread of my own and will welcome your tips!

 

[saintaugusta]

So an insecure fat white woman living in a ghetto neighbourhood attracts a ghetto black man but if she reduces her weight by 50 lbs she will attract a uppity black man who is rich? Somebody is gonna get disappointed

I am not fat, I am "over" my idea weight. More men like a trim, healthy woman with great curves than one who is bordering on chubby (at least in the U.S.) - my choices will be broader...

I might have some insecure moments, but I am not fooling myself, and I only speak my own truth. I get a lot of looks now, but I get a TON of second glances when I'm a little trimmer, so that's what I'm going for, and I'm NOT going to apologize for it.

 

[saintaugusta]

If you think just because you'll be slim you wont ever attract low-lifes, you will be sorely disappointed. Being a big woman does not equate to attracting low-lifes. either. You attract what you put out. Last I checked, a personality isn't measured in pounds.


BTW, that's not me in the wedding dress.

I don't put out a "low-life" vibe. If anything, people think I'm stuck up or shy.


- I know you're trying to make me appear to be "less than", but you can really get off of your high horse now. You just look spiteful.

 

[Bliss]

"Looking for a cougar or BBW"

...FYI if you are cute, fit, and intelligent, you should be able to find some chicks your own age who aren't water retaining sea cows

...living in a blue-collar/ghetto neighborhood at the moment, I am attracting blue-collar/ghetto black men in droves and it's not such a good feeling overall... It's going to be an interesting sociological experiment to see what happens when I lose the 50 lbs I need to... of course if I venture to the east-side malls, that will ruin the consistency of the study...

...it's not fun to gain a little weight and draw a whole different demographic (IN DROVES as opposed to just "quite a lot")

A cute white guy flirted with me/ befriended me at work the other day and I was confused for awhile until I figured out he is just really friendly/nice/flirtatious....
...Of course I don't really "go out" and meet people that much these days, so once I feel more comfortable to do so, that will AGAIN compromise my study as I'll be accessible to more men in general if I'm out in public.

...I only want someone that I will be happy with, who is equal to me, no matter what color. BUT if I'm attracting low-lifes, you better believe I will take a good look at myself in the mirror and do whatever I can to get my standard up where it used to be..

I don't put out a "low-life" vibe. If anything, people think I'm stuck up or shy.

I'll keep saying it as long as you keep saying "Blue collar"/"GHETTO BLACK MEN" are hounding you for your pussy like dogs on heat....you are attracting what you put out. (did you really lump hardworking blue collar black men in with ghetto men AND how bad that is that they give you attention?)

Look at you all shocked because a WM talked to you at your size. You felt like a princess until you realized he's like that with all women..what a bummer for you. Keep touching those toes and surely your White Knight will the classy taste will come get you before you know it, girl!
Thanks for reminding us only fat girls (never skinny) attract ghetto black men. And BLUE COLLAR men too - oh the humanity of it all. I can't wait to read your sociological study....(not).

I know you're trying to make me appear to be "less than", but you can really get off of your high horse now.

Ask older women or fat women or fat brides who's trying to make others appear "less than".

Hun, I've been trying to drag you off your high horse for a good minute. The altitude is seriously effin with your mind.

"Hiya Saint-agggaauuoosta, yoo-hoo...nonfat women here in your hood!
Can't wait 'til the white men and white collar/non-ghetto BM come get us!! We special"

 

[saintaugusta]

Wow you put a lot of effort into that rebuttal lol...

I don't want to date a blue-collar man (unless he was educated and happened to be in a blue-collar job) because I wouldn't have much in common with him - we wouldn't have much to talk about.

I don't want to date a ghetto man for obvious reasons.

The men I have loved and dated in the past have been neither of these and that's why I loved them (among other reasons) - because we had things in common and similar goals.

I am a little older now, and having put on some weight, I am NOT willing to "down-grade", so will do the necessary work to get back to the cute little body I had before, so that I can have my choice of men. I don't want to be skinny, because it is inevitable to fluctuate and I don't want that shallow of a man (none of them in the past have been shallow but I know they didn't really want to date a fat chick either).

I am prettier, sexier, and more successful looking at a lower weight so that is what I will strive for. If you can't see the dry humor in my previous post, then that's your problem. I really don't understand the vitriol that oozes from your responses to me.

 

[Bliss]

Wow you put a lot of effort into that rebuttal lol...

No effort really. If you notice, you did most of the talking in my rebuttal. I couldn't begin to top your nonsense.

I don't want to date a blue-collar man (unless he was educated and happened to be in a blue-collar job) because I wouldn't have much in common with him - we wouldn't have much to talk about.

BINGO. Men are often victims of circumstance when it comes to their livelihood. Blue collar does not = dumb. Education doesn't always mean smart. There are people who work blue-collar jobs on this very site that could run circles around you mentally.

The men I have loved and dated in the past have been neither of these and that's why I loved them (among other reasons) - because we had things in common and similar goals.

Yet in the big bulge thread, according to you, it was their huge dick that reeled you in-

"I WOULD select a man for dick size if I could. The last two I was in love with for the record (one white, one black) were both over 10 years older than me and packing serious heat."

You do know that a blue collar man could give you some serious dicking down. The kind that'll have you screaming in a language you never spoke before.

I am prettier, sexier, and more successful looking at a lower weight so that is what I will strive for. If you can't see the dry humor in my previous post, then that's your problem. I really don't understand the vitriol that oozes from your responses to me.

Now it's "dry humor'. whatever. Listen sweetie, I'm not knocking your hustle to lose weight, just don't drag down along with you the essence and beauty of women just because they might be bigger. Forget becoming "prettier or sexier" - just become nicer, please...and don't forget where you came from fat girl.

 

[saintaugusta]

No effort really. If you notice, you did most of the talking in my rebuttal. I couldn't begin to top your nonsense.



BINGO. Men are often victims of circumstance when it comes to their livelihood. Blue collar does not = dumb. Education doesn't always mean smart. There are people who work blue-collar jobs on this very site that could run circles around you mentally.



Yet in the big bulge thread, according to you, it was their huge dick that reeled you in-

"I WOULD select a man for dick size if I could. The last two I was in love with for the record (one white, one black) were both over 10 years older than me and packing serious heat."

You do know that a blue collar man could give you some serious dicking down. The kind that'll have you screaming in a language you never spoke before.



Now it's "dry humor'. whatever. Listen sweetie, I'm not knocking your hustle to lose weight, just don't drag down along with you the essence and beauty of women just because they might be bigger. Forget becoming "prettier or sexier" - just become nicer, please...and don't forget where you came from fat girl.

You have no idea where I "came from" and I am not a "fat girl".

Don't call me sweetie.

I'll stay on my high horse because the air is fresher up here.

I loved those men and they both worked with their hands, they were educated, and they had big dicks (among other things). That's not the only reason I loved them, but my preference is just as valid as anyone else's. You're a hypocrite to vilify me for my preference when you think I should be satisfied being overweight and settling for whatever comes my way in my immediate neighbourhood. I am better than that and have had better than that.

My father is the only one of his family to earn a college degree. He built our house with his own bare hands and I helped.

I am honest about what I want for my life, and I'm sorry that it's making you so angry. Your reaction just results in my deciding to become even more determined. Thank you.

 

[Bliss]

I am not a "fat girl".

when I lose the 50 lbs I need to..

50?? Yeah, you're fat, sweetie.

Don't call me sweetie.

Sorry, is water retaining sea cow, better?

...You're a hypocrite to vilify me for my preference when you think I should be satisfied being overweight and settling for whatever comes my way in my immediate neighbourhood. I am better than that and have had better than that.

What part of my "not knocking your hustle to lose weight, just don't drag down along with you the essence and beauty of women just because they might be bigger", and "don't equate blue-collar men BM to being unintelligent" didn't you get??

I am honest about what I want for my life, and I'm sorry that it's making you so angry. Your reaction just results in my deciding to become even more determined. Thank you.

Says the girl who berated the OP for wanting a cougar or BBW. Hello pot -

"FYI if you are cute, fit, and intelligent, you should be able to find some chicks your own age who aren't water retaining sea cows - unless that's what you like.
"I tell it like it is".
"I was trying to spare him. He could go after girls his own age and have a chance at a real life."

Maybe he will thank you, too.

I'll stay on my high horse because the air is fresher up here.

That poor working horse must be DYING for you to get the fluck off it already.

See ya.

 

[APPIAH]

Augusta if you call older women water retaining sea cows especially when you are not a spring chicken yourself people will definitely say "wtf?" Because they will probably expect that from a slim young woman and not you who claims to be "thick".
What you said was offensive so get of that high horse( it might be a donkey you never know) and accept that it was in bad taste. I have this very strong feeling you were mean to fat girls when you were skinnier and you want to get to a certaibn weight so you ca be mean to them again and i hope you know you will get to that age where you call the women "water retaining sea cows"
Come again Augusta!!

 

[hntr18]

Augusta if you call older women water retaining sea cows especially when you are not a spring chicken yourself people will definitely say "wtf?" Because they will probably expect that from a slim young woman and not you who claims to be "thick".
What you said was offensive so get of that high horse( it might be a donkey you never know) and accept that it was in bad taste. I have this very strong feeling you were mean to fat girls when you were skinnier and you want to get to a certaibn weight so you ca be mean to them again and i hope you know you will get to that age where you call the women "water retaining sea cows"
Come again Augusta!!

agreed from what youve stated she has a major double standard issue,lol

 

[saintaugusta]

Augusta if you call older women water retaining sea cows especially when you are not a spring chicken yourself people will definitely say "wtf?" Because they will probably expect that from a slim young woman and not you who claims to be "thick".
What you said was offensive so get of that high horse( it might be a donkey you never know) and accept that it was in bad taste. I have this very strong feeling you were mean to fat girls when you were skinnier and you want to get to a certaibn weight so you ca be mean to them again and i hope you know you will get to that age where you call the women "water retaining sea cows"
Come again Augusta!!

That would be utterly false. I have never been mean to fat people - I pity them and fear them in some ways because my mother was an over-eater (I am not) and was enormous until she got gastric bypass and now she's a tiny little thing, although still a little sedentary. Nobody else in my family has been obese, but we have all fluctuated and struggled with our weight - luckily we have pretty good genes (on both sides) and great proportions, so we just watch what we eat and get active again, and it comes back off eventually. I did grow up with a terror of fat because my father was so cruel to my mother about it and I really resented her for her lack of self-control and helplessness.

Being grossly overweight is unattractive and unhealthy but I truly understand the pain that many people deal with, especially if they don't have the strength to do anything about it and just assume they are destined to be unattractive forever.

 

[saintaugusta]

50?? Yeah, you're fat, sweetie.



Sorry, is water retaining sea cow, better?



What part of my "not knocking your hustle to lose weight, just don't drag down along with you the essence and beauty of women just because they might be bigger", and "don't equate blue-collar men BM to being unintelligent" didn't you get??




Says the girl who berated the OP for wanting a cougar or BBW. Hello pot -

"FYI if you are cute, fit, and intelligent, you should be able to find some chicks your own age who aren't water retaining sea cows - unless that's what you like.
"I tell it like it is".
"I was trying to spare him. He could go after girls his own age and have a chance at a real life."

Maybe he will thank you, too.

That poor working horse must be DYING for you to get the fluck off it already.

See ya.

You are tiresome and an idiot. Go away.