naija4real
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I agree with the thrust of your post that highlights the contradictory nature of male leadership in the family. If this was a debate, I would argue that increasingly and in the near future, women would be more suited to play the role of heads than men. But that is not my argument, my argument here would be the most pragmatic thing to do would be to allow the best person that suits a particular situation lead in that circumstance.
If we go with the notion that dad led mum in my life, the personal experience that situates the fact for the owner of that view; and the idea that because of the role dad played in my family, men are most suited to lead in the home, this would somehow show a narrow conception and extrapolation to the larger world, and this conception/extrapolation might to suffice in other societies, and even with other people that had different experience in the same society.
My thinking in this notional claim that has become accepted as fact in many situations might just have resulted from the occupational role men have played in bringing home the bacon. The idea of the provider for the family. Also one can make the argument that socialization and events around one in the society where brawn ruled and very little role was given to subtle persuasions further entrenched this notion. There is a new trend that points to the fact of life where men might become the partners, and in some cases the weaklings in relationships.
These things are already happening. Men are becoming boy-toys that are used for pleasure and find themselves easily dispensed with. The modern man with the rippling muscles and bulging pants are modern day bimbos. The growing market power of women and the increasing role of women in the society would affect every aspect of human life. Both men and women are evolving and their roles are changing.
The modern men that would raise families are not the guys with the bulging biceps and the authoritarian man. They are most likely going to be men that have become "feminized" in the idea that they have developed subtlety normally associated with women and caregivers. I have a feeling mate selection would force that demographic shift over generations.
The modern man does not need rippling muscles to succeed in the market place. The industrial society has shifted from manual labour to a knowledge based society where communication, verbal power and ability to multi-task now hold key to success. So far, in grade schools to universities, the female specie seems to be succeeding that its male counterpart.
Fair enough, societal thinking has not caught up with this fact. It might explain why there is dysfunction in many male - female relationships and the notional male leadership narrative that is partly influenced by biblical teachings. Society is changing and relationships are now rule and protocol based. Machines are being digitized and codes and logical commands dominate everywhere now. I am not sure how the male of yore would survive in this modern times. It might be time to do some rethinking about roles in relationships.
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Pardon me if you observe mistakes ...I hate editing since I just type as the spirit leads me. If I have to edit I might end up delete this post. I guess it is the burden of non-native speakers sometimes.
If we go with the notion that dad led mum in my life, the personal experience that situates the fact for the owner of that view; and the idea that because of the role dad played in my family, men are most suited to lead in the home, this would somehow show a narrow conception and extrapolation to the larger world, and this conception/extrapolation might to suffice in other societies, and even with other people that had different experience in the same society.
My thinking in this notional claim that has become accepted as fact in many situations might just have resulted from the occupational role men have played in bringing home the bacon. The idea of the provider for the family. Also one can make the argument that socialization and events around one in the society where brawn ruled and very little role was given to subtle persuasions further entrenched this notion. There is a new trend that points to the fact of life where men might become the partners, and in some cases the weaklings in relationships.
These things are already happening. Men are becoming boy-toys that are used for pleasure and find themselves easily dispensed with. The modern man with the rippling muscles and bulging pants are modern day bimbos. The growing market power of women and the increasing role of women in the society would affect every aspect of human life. Both men and women are evolving and their roles are changing.
The modern men that would raise families are not the guys with the bulging biceps and the authoritarian man. They are most likely going to be men that have become "feminized" in the idea that they have developed subtlety normally associated with women and caregivers. I have a feeling mate selection would force that demographic shift over generations.
The modern man does not need rippling muscles to succeed in the market place. The industrial society has shifted from manual labour to a knowledge based society where communication, verbal power and ability to multi-task now hold key to success. So far, in grade schools to universities, the female specie seems to be succeeding that its male counterpart.
Fair enough, societal thinking has not caught up with this fact. It might explain why there is dysfunction in many male - female relationships and the notional male leadership narrative that is partly influenced by biblical teachings. Society is changing and relationships are now rule and protocol based. Machines are being digitized and codes and logical commands dominate everywhere now. I am not sure how the male of yore would survive in this modern times. It might be time to do some rethinking about roles in relationships.
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Pardon me if you observe mistakes ...I hate editing since I just type as the spirit leads me. If I have to edit I might end up delete this post. I guess it is the burden of non-native speakers sometimes.
