unfortunately 99% of the women are not like you. to them the kids are bargaining tools. the women would rather be dragged to court before they let you see the kids because they know it will cost you money. The thing is men need to start taking them to court and say women will need to pay the court costs and atty fees along with jail time. you may not get all that (jail time) but that will scare the shit out of em. make sure you get the atty fees. I will say this no one want men to walk away in favor (financially) meaning you making them pay the atty fees and court costs because men are devalued in this soceity. if men get together and get legal issues like that done then it would prevent women from doing that shit. that is why men complain about Child support because we have to pay atty fees on top of seeing the kids to make women let us see the kids. that is why a lot of men kick womens asses because they pull that slick shit.
Let's not lump almost 100% of women in this category, please.
I would say the number is far less. You only hear about the sh*tty women who pull that, of course, because those are the stories that are more interesting and spark debate.
My daughter's father was in that boat. He had a child with a woman he didn't marry. He was paying this woman (who didn't work and used their son as her "meal ticket") $500 a month (on his own, not court mandated) and he saw his son for FOUR HOURS A MONTH.
I started dating him and put a stop to that immediately. I told him if he's paying her that amount of money he needs to have his son every other weekend. It soon came to pass.
Then she started using his visitation as ways to extort money from him. That stopped immediately, too.
And now, he's been living with his Dad for several years and he's doing much better in school and actually has hopes of a bright future.
I do not get child support from my husband. When I go in front of a judge to finally get divorced, I will waive my right to child support, knowing full well I can't ask for it later on. Why? Because whilst I make less than him, if I ask for support, he'll lose the house. He helps me out in other ways (fixing my car, giving my car oil changes, etc) as well as giving me some of the money to help pay her camp and care when he can. That's all I ask.
And since the day I moved out, I made sure our daughter spends every other weekend with him. And she spends other time with him as well.
There are women out there that aren't complete bitches to their exes and who don't use their children as means to making more money.
Please stop using stupid numbers like 99% to describe a whole gender. That's just insane.