Idris Elba On Being A Sex Symbol

TreePixie said:
That sucks, and I've been there. My most recent longtime ex and I are still very good friends - you don't spend 8 years with someone you don't really like. But his current on again/off again girlfriend is totally freaked out by me even though I'm 2000 miles away. I hear from him frequently in their "off again" times, and not all all in their "on again" times.

I think she might be a bit of an airhead anyway, when she found out I have MS she sent me an email saying she knew exactly what it was like because she had a hairline fracture in her arm once. :smt043
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Most of my friends are guys, so it comes with the territory. Him and I are very close friends, so I can understand why she'd be like that, but she never gave me a chance. She's trying to reconcile with him, but that's one of the things he wants her to change. He used to have to sneak and call me like we were having an affair and mind you, I'm like a sister to him all because of her insecurity.

You could hear from him once a year and live on the moon and I'm sure she'd still be jealous....lol SMH...I had another friend whose girlfriend was like that too, but this was would always ask about me, whereas the other one didn't. She would've probably been open to talk to me, but they had some tension, so I didn't want to be apart of that.

LMAO @ the hairline fracture...OMG!
 
Inner Beauty said:
Most of my friends are guys, so it comes with the territory. Him and I are very close friends, so I can understand why she'd be like that, but she never gave me a chance. She's trying to reconcile with him, but that's one of the things he wants her to change. He used to have to sneak and call me like we were having an affair and mind you, I'm like a sister to him all because of her insecurity.

You could hear from him once a year and live on the moon and I'm sure she'd still be jealous....lol SMH...I had another friend whose girlfriend was like that too, but this was would always ask about me, whereas the other one didn't. She would've probably been open to talk to me, but they had some tension, so I didn't want to be apart of that.

LMAO @ the hairline fracture...OMG!
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Friendship with someone you never had sex with is cool but you chilling with dudes that use to bang you out. No bueno
 
The Dark Knight said:
Friendship with someone you never had sex with is cool but you chilling with dudes that use to bang you out. No bueno
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The two I've mentioned, are platonic friends. I've only been friends with one ex. He would always tell me how he wanted his current at the time girls to meet me, but that never happened. Dudes I've dated, I don't call them friends and we're not close like that.
 
Inner Beauty said:
You could hear from him once a year and live on the moon and I'm sure she'd still be jealous....lol SMH...I had another friend whose girlfriend was like that too, but this was would always ask about me, whereas the other one didn't. She would've probably been open to talk to me, but they had some tension, so I didn't want to be apart of that.

LMAO @ the hairline fracture...OMG!
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Yeah, that was funny. I told her straight out "Look, if I was still wanting a relationship with him, I wouldn't have moved 2000 miles away." But I still make her nervous, apparently. He can be a bit dense, socially, so I'm sure he speaks of me with great affection (as he also speaks of his ex wife, who is a really nice woman - I'm sure she's persona non grata now too).

But seriously, if your man's ex voluntarily moved 2000 miles away, wouldnt you conclude she was sorta DONE with that relationship?
 
The Dark Knight said:
Friendship with someone you never had sex with is cool but you chilling with dudes that use to bang you out. No bueno
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Either get married soon, or get over this. Grown women have pasts. They slept with other guys, some of whom were friends at the time and always, and some of whom went from being love interests to being friends.

I'm friendly with *most* of the men I've been involved with. If I liked them enough to sleep with them, why would I stop liking them just because I'm not sleeping with them anymore?
 
TreePixie said:
Yeah, that was funny. I told her straight out "Look, if I was still wanting a relationship with him, I wouldn't have moved 2000 miles away." But I still make her nervous, apparently. He can be a bit dense, socially, so I'm sure he speaks of me with great affection (as he also speaks of his ex wife, who is a really nice woman - I'm sure she's persona non grata now too).

But seriously, if your man's ex voluntarily moved 2000 miles away, wouldnt you conclude she was sorta DONE with that relationship?
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Two exes to contend with and being that insecure? Yikes!

Yeah, one would think, but if she compares a fracture to MS....lol
 
TreePixie said:
Either get married soon, or get over this. Grown women have pasts. They slept with other guys, some of whom were friends at the time and always, and some of whom went from being love interests to being friends.

I'm friendly with *most* of the men I've been involved with. If I liked them enough to sleep with them, why would I stop liking them just because I'm not sleeping with them anymore?
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You shouldn't but I know I wouldn't be cool with being with a woman who hangs out with men she use to sleep with frequently. All thats gonna do is make me very distant from you. I will never allow myself to relax, I guess because I had ex who left to be with one of her "friends" I just don't trust the scenario and to be honest if they're platonic friends and both attractive people I don't trust it. Have all the fat, short, and gay friends you want but handsome successful BFFs ain't cool with me.
 
Inner Beauty said:
The two I've mentioned, are platonic friends. I've only been friends with one ex. He would always tell me how he wanted his current at the time girls to meet me, but that never happened. Dudes I've dated, I don't call them friends and we're not close like that.
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I knew you were from NY. Keep proving it kid :cool:
 
The Dark Knight said:
I knew you were from NY. Keep proving it kid :cool:
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So if I were born elsewhere, I'd have guy friends I had sex with? lol

To me, I can't call them friends, cause we had a relationship or dated. I just call them exes or ex-whatevers.

This dude who I would call the love at my life, used to call me his friend and I'm like no, I don't see you as a friend, cause I don't fuck my friends.
 
Yes, there's a double standard. Now, can we get back to drooling over Big Driis??

Hot and sweaty after DJing his gorgeous ass off. ;)
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The Dark Knight said:
Ok wonder twins. If you guys say so. I've yet to hear any man get bent out of shape over shit like that. Our insecurities are far more about money. Now if a SO was to come home and tell me about much her friend's husband was making and how envious she is of them for being able to do more then you might see a little envy pop up but her wanting another guy wouldn't phase me in the slightest. Because the truth is men are very aware of the fact that our women can get dick at anytime of the day and twice on Tuesday so them ogling other men means nothing. Her being impressed by his success or things now that I can understand.
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I think folks would be too embarrassed to admit to their friends they have an issue with jealousy, because I don't think they'd want to show them their insecurity & weakness. If I behaved that way, I wouldn't want others to see it or know about it. Be thankful you don't have that problem ...not only is it rough on the SO, but to me it seems like a form of self-torture.


Inner Beauty said:
It is very silly. I can understand being jealous of someone attainable, but a celeb, nah!

LOL @ getting jealous over gramps

I never had any dude get jealous like that. My friends ex was jealous of our friendship and I tried to get to know her, but she wouldn't let me. I wanted to show her I wasn't a threat, but she didn't want to.
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I've dated two jealous idiots. My stalker was also extremely jealous, but hell, that bastard is crazy...thank God he's in prison.

Most of my friends are men & I've had some of their girlfriends get jealous of me. It's hard when they won't give you a chance; it's like they have their minds made up that you want him. It's silly.


The Dark Knight said:
Friendship with someone you never had sex with is cool but you chilling with dudes that use to bang you out. No bueno
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I agree. I don't fuck my friends. If I had sex with him, that means he was more than a friend. If the relationship ends, that's it for me. I've never had an ex bf that I felt comfortable being friends with after a relationship.
 
Tamstrong said:
I've dated two jealous idiots. My stalker was also extremely jealous, but hell, that bastard is crazy...thank God he's in prison.

Most of my friends are men & I've had some of their girlfriends get jealous of me. It's hard when they won't give you a chance; it's like they have their minds made up that you want him. It's silly.
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From all that you told me, yeah he was an outright deranged sicko.

It's really hard, but I can understand why, but like just meet us and you'll see we're not a threat.
 
Inner Beauty said:
From all that you told me, yeah he was an outright deranged sicko.

It's really hard, but I can understand why, but like just meet us and you'll see we're not a threat.
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Yep, that pretty much sums it up.

I can understand a little concern at first when she doesn't know someone, but if she trusts her man & takes the time to get to know his friends, those feelings shouldn't linger.

I've had to deal with jealousy from my son's dad's gf/wife (whatever she is) for years, which is crazy because he's not really been a part of my life since I was about 4 months pregnant. It makes no damn sense.
 
Tamstrong said:
Yep, that pretty much sums it up.

I can understand a little concern at first when she doesn't know someone, but if she trusts her man & takes the time to get to know his friends, those feelings shouldn't linger.

I've had to deal with jealousy from my son's dad's gf/wife (whatever she is) for years, which is crazy because he's not really been a part of my life since I was about 4 months pregnant. It makes no damn sense.
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Insecurity is a mf'a...lol
 
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