Agreed. My experiences on the East Coast, Manhattan, and New England are completely different. I've always told people how amazed I'm with the openness, friendliness and aggressiveness, lol, or women in those areas. I have had more women, in their prime, lol, approach me in those areas than any other area I have ever visited. I've met wonderful people, I've been easily taken in their circles, and money or status has come up in discussions, only as a point of fact.
I completely agree that people will have bad experiences and as a consequence they become jaded. Their point of view changes as they create new reality and find ways to justify their realities, "studies", conversations with equally jaded people and chasing after the wrong people.
They often make the problem worse not realizing that their problems lie within and not with others. They assume that changing the demographics of their potential partners will solve their problems, a younger or older partner, a partner of a different race, a partner from a different country.
The reality is that if you can't find a partner within the dating pool of people you have more in common with culturally, you won't find it outside of that group of people, especially if you look to the cultural and language differences inherent in pursuing someone from another country.
I always advise my friends to have realistic expectations about a potential partner. Understand yourself and what you bring to the table and look for a compatible partner with whom you can build a long lasting relationship, rather than blindly pursuing an unrealistic dream. That's no harsh, it's a reality.
Anyway, that's how I see this issue.
