do black women not like ww/bm together?

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missykins

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I was seeing this black guy in london for a few months and i kept getting dirty looks off black women in the street my guy said he noticed it but i didnt think anything of it i just thought maybe they just didnt like the look of me!

But then my guy said its because they think ww are taking all their men! as black women dont really find white guys attractive i have never come across this before, i have black women friends and they have not seemed upset i date black guys! has anyone else had this problem?? :smt017
 
missykins said:
lol why? what happens over there?
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It's the same thing.

If it happens here people get more offended by it even though it's the exact same behavior. :smt017 A side-eye in the US is doubly offensive to some of the board guys vs a side eye in the UK. Go figure.
 
missykins said:
I was seeing this black guy in london for a few months and i kept getting dirty looks off black women in the street my guy said he noticed it but i didnt think anything of it i just thought maybe they just didnt like the look of me!

But then my guy said its because they think ww are taking all their men! as black women dont really find white guys attractive i have never come across this before, i have black women friends and they have not seemed upset i date black guys! has anyone else had this problem?? :smt017
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Although there are those who do, I wouldn't say that all BW feel that way. I've also had many BW friends over the years who were very supportive, & others I've come across who don't seem to have any issue with me being with BM. I have come across some extreme hostility from others, though. When it comes down to it, I don't care what anyone thinks about who I choose to date/love. If people don't like it, fuck 'em...that's their problem, not mine. I refuse to let the negativity phase me.
 
I didnt think it would be worse in the US i have to been to the US loads of times as my uncle used to live there and thought it was the other way round that the uk would be worse, but i surpose i wasnt dating a black guy over there.

I understand that not all bw feel like this but it just never happened to me before and my bw friends have never said anything i feel for you guys over there putting up with this BS :smt076
 
some bw are like it, in london and surrey i have never had any problems, as someone said its lucky you are not in the usa, for me its mostly from homely ass white men
 
I still don't understand why anyone gives a hoot who someone else dates/marries. As long as they are human and of legal age, meh, who cares.
 
missykins said:
I was seeing this black guy in london for a few months and i kept getting dirty looks off black women in the street my guy said he noticed it but i didnt think anything of it i just thought maybe they just didnt like the look of me!

But then my guy said its because they think ww are taking all their men! as black women dont really find white guys attractive i have never come across this before, i have black women friends and they have not seemed upset i date black guys! has anyone else had this problem?? :smt017
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The problem is a lot of black men use as a justification for why they like white women that black women are less than, mediocre, undesirable. Also so many black men (In America) have fallen short that when a black women sees a black man with a white woman the above written seems to be reinforced.

my thoughts anyway. The vast majority of black women don't give a shit.
 
I'll never completely get these topics. Every racial and ethnic group out there has individuals of their group who do not like seeing members of their own group, especially the opposite sex, dating out. Some might be more in your face about it but no I wouldn't say "black women don't like ww/bm together" anymore than I'd say white women don't like wm/aw together. Despite the fact I've met several who don't.
 
Jase said:
I wouldn't say "black women don't like ww/bm together" than I'd say white women don't like wm/aw together. Despite the fact I've met several who don't.
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lol

Jase said:
Some might be more in your face about it
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Some? You know which women are the most in your face about it. :roll: Their vocality gives them the appearance of being more anti IR, whether they really are or not.
 
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I have never encountered any hostility, blatant or subtle, from either white men or black women when I'm with a BM.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
I have never encountered any hostility, blatant or subtle, from either white men or black women when I'm with a BM.
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I've encountered dirty looks from both. And slight verbal from BW. Mainly the question, "Why a WW?". 15 years ago I kinda bothered me, now, who cares. My children are beautiful! Lol
 
Athena said:
I still don't understand why anyone gives a hoot who someone else dates/marries. As long as they are human and of legal age, meh, who cares.
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it comes from peoples beliefs, if you take a look at the type of people who are against ww and bm and what they say you will see, i have seen people fight to the death to belittle bm and ww couples alot over the years, there is always an excuse for any type of bm ww couple

its like if they accept them for what they are it will destroy their self esteem or something or lifes not worth living
 
MissWacy said:
it comes from peoples beliefs, if you take a look at the type of people who are against ww and bm and what they say you will see, i have seen people fight to the death to belittle bm and ww couples alot over the years, there is always an excuse for any type of bm ww couple

its like if they accept them for what they are it will destroy their self esteem or something or lifes not worth living
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Yelp. It's crazy but true.
 
Athena said:
You're fortunate Ches. I've experienced some hostility from BW, but no WM when with a BM.
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By contrast, my ex-bf was convinced that people were staring at and judging us. That is one of the reasons he ended the relationship. He wasn't comfortable. But I, never once, got that impression from anyone and I was paying attention. I even had some BW look at us and smile at me. Now, what was behind that smile is anyone's guess, but I perceived it to be friendly, as if to say, "Yeah, you go girl!"

I was with another guy before that relationship and he is much more open-minded about IR - has dated many WW - and he noticed that 2 WM were looking at us in a store. I didn't think they were staring, but he did. He made some remark to me like "Wow! We even have a black president now!" Like he was hinting that the guys thought seeing a WW/BM together was as new and different as having a black president. Or whatever color he is since that subject can't seem to be settled to everyone's satisfaction. :p
 
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