I know what you mean. When I interact with females, it's just that. Nothing more. I've had a few that tried to force it further. Aggressive type, like I was the female. Lol. I cut that off in a nice way and push on. (nice because I don't burn bridges). Or it could be a string along flirt, who knows. Lol
I have a dude like the guy u described. He turns a simple hello with a little eye contact into she wants to fuck me. I feel your pain because he's a trip. Lol
I run into that sometimes at work. Truckers & oil field guys like to flirt, joke & talk shit, etc., & with a lot of them we do the same in return. They know & we know it doesn't mean anything, but on occasion you have to deal with the aggressive types that try to make more of it. I've gotten pretty good at reading folks over the years, & I'm good at picking out the ones you can't go there with.
Yeah, my friend wasn't surprised at his friend's behavior; evidently this isn't the first time the guy has done this. Guys like that are definitely a trip.
I wish I could seeyou two interact because a lot of women don't get how they give mixed signals. You could be naturally flirty without knowing it. A hair toss here and a lot of smiling there someone might mistake just hanging out with interest. Something to keep in mind is if you're a man who has never had interactions with women outside of dating them its possible to see a girl your friend has never banged as an opportunity. You have to remember men don't interact platonically the way women do. Your whole body language as women is naturally more affectionate. He could just be reading you wrong. When he crossed the line did you let him know no way or were you really polite and laughed it off
There were no mixed signals. I barely even looked him in the eye (I found him kinda creepy from the get go). I was at work when they came by & my friend introduced him to me, so there was no hanging out going on. They were only there long enough for my friend to say hey & introduce me to his friend. After the 'hello, nice to meet you', I hugged my friend & went back to work. They probably weren't even there but maybe 3 minutes.
The second time they stopped by (also while I was at work) was to buy gas & for my friend to say goodbye before they headed back to Dallas. His creepy friend opted to wait in the store while he pumped the gas. While I was at the fountain making myself a glass of tea, Jethro sneaked up behind me...he was so close I could feel his breath on the back of my head when he started talking. He was saying how he picked up on the "sexy vibe" we had between us when we met the other day, & he'd been having "hot dreams" about me ever since
vom
. I told Jethro he needed to back up off me because I didn't appreciate that shit. He just laughed it off like I was playing or something. Thankfully my friend came back in after that.
My friend called me that night asking what was up, because he figured his boy had done something...he said he had a history of that crap. I told him what happened & he said he'd deal with it. He also apologized for exposing me to that idiot. lol
Look it NOT our fault that some men are horny AND stupid at the same time.
If I'm flirting in just casual play, that may send a mixed signal and they guy might think maybe.
If I am really into it...there will be NO DOUBT where I'm coming from. So if dude has to question..he won't be getting any. Ever.
What I can't stand are the ones that don't catch on. I make no attempt to show any inclination at all, in fact there are several men around her that I just flat out ignore. No, I'm not a watch and you can't get any of my time. Does that stop them from being stupid enough to try again.
Nope.
Thanks for explaining it so well, Aliona. This is exactly what I'm talking about. If they had any sense & were paying attention, there'd be no need to question. I guess for the stupid ones it's difficult to think when the blood flow isn't going to the brain.
The ones who don't catch on drive me crazy. I typically ignore them too (unless it gets to the point where I lose my temper), but nothing seems to be much of a deterrent.
