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Thanks for elaborating it makes more sense now but like I said to Aliona. That guy had to have gotten positive reinforcement for that behavior somewhere else in order for him to have tried that. Just sucks that he didn't catch the hint with you.

Tamstrong said:
I run into that sometimes at work. Truckers & oil field guys like to flirt, joke & talk shit, etc., & with a lot of them we do the same in return. They know & we know it doesn't mean anything, but on occasion you have to deal with the aggressive types that try to make more of it. I've gotten pretty good at reading folks over the years, & I'm good at picking out the ones you can't go there with.

Yeah, my friend wasn't surprised at his friend's behavior; evidently this isn't the first time the guy has done this. Guys like that are definitely a trip.




There were no mixed signals. I barely even looked him in the eye (I found him kinda creepy from the get go). I was at work when they came by & my friend introduced him to me, so there was no hanging out going on. They were only there long enough for my friend to say hey & introduce me to his friend. After the 'hello, nice to meet you', I hugged my friend & went back to work. They probably weren't even there but maybe 3 minutes.

The second time they stopped by (also while I was at work) was to buy gas & for my friend to say goodbye before they headed back to Dallas. His creepy friend opted to wait in the store while he pumped the gas. While I was at the fountain making myself a glass of tea, Jethro sneaked up behind me...he was so close I could feel his breath on the back of my head when he started talking. He was saying how he picked up on the "sexy vibe" we had between us when we met the other day, & he'd been having "hot dreams" about me ever since (:vom:). I told Jethro he needed to back up off me because I didn't appreciate that shit. He just laughed it off like I was playing or something. Thankfully my friend came back in after that.

My friend called me that night asking what was up, because he figured his boy had done something...he said he had a history of that crap. I told him what happened & he said he'd deal with it. He also apologized for exposing me to that idiot. lol




Thanks for explaining it so well, Aliona. This is exactly what I'm talking about. If they had any sense & were paying attention, there'd be no need to question. I guess for the stupid ones it's difficult to think when the blood flow isn't going to the brain.

The ones who don't catch on drive me crazy. I typically ignore them too (unless it gets to the point where I lose my temper), but nothing seems to be much of a deterrent.
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The Dark Knight said:
Thanks for elaborating it makes more sense now but like I said to Aliona. That guy had to have gotten positive reinforcement for that behavior somewhere else in order for him to have tried that. Just sucks that he didn't catch the hint with you.
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No problem. It's easier to make sense of something when you have the details.

You do have a point there...he very well could have gotten a positive response for that crap somewhere before. That reminds me of a conversation I had with a male friend a few years ago about an idiot who approached me with a disgusting pick up line that I found offensive as hell. I was baffled by it & asked my friend why the hell a man would say/do something like, & he told me that it must have worked for him before in the past. He said that if a man finds something that works, even if it's just one time, he'll keep doing it hoping it'll work again...he also said that it could be that the guy just watches too much porn. lol

Yeah, it sucks, but I'm glad it wasn't worse than what it was.
 
The Dark Knight said:
Thanks for posting that bro. I think a lot of them are completely unaware of how confusing their "signals" can be. But being direct would be too much for them since you have to risk rejection and women aren't commonly good with that since they rarely if ever have to come across that. So its easier to blame a guy for not being able to pick up on the signs. Not saying some guys aren't idiots and can't take an obvious hint but like you said unless I try I really have no idea if the smile was a nervous smile or a smile of interest.
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It can be hard to attempt to decipher our language, I completely recognize that.

But I'd like to add that a smile is not just nervous or interested, it's also something that I do because I enjoy smiling. The reason I bring this up is because I am naturally friendly and willing to chat with people and everywhere I go there is always one creeper who thinks I'm interested and turns into a stalker type situation. In fact, it's already happened here in NY at my place of work/school. It really pisses me off because now I have to deviate my schedule to avoid him, and I have to be rude to him so he f&*ks off and leaves me alone. Why can't I just be friendly and smile and not have some creep stalk me as a result??? Damn it's bloody annoying.
 
Lol please tell me he's not black
Athena said:
It can be hard to attempt to decipher our language, I completely recognize that.

But I'd like to add that a smile is not just nervous or interested, it's also something that I do because I enjoy smiling. The reason I bring this up is because I am naturally friendly and willing to chat with people and everywhere I go there is always one creeper who thinks I'm interested and turns into a stalker type situation. In fact, it's already happened here in NY at my place of work/school. It really pisses me off because now I have to deviate my schedule to avoid him, and I have to be rude to him so he f&*ks off and leaves me alone. Why can't I just be friendly and smile and not have some creep stalk me as a result??? Damn it's bloody annoying.
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Well i have no problem with all this most of the time i am not approachable at all .. :D
something that make everyone scared lol
i dont look friendly either been told that a lot too ..
 
Athena said:
It can be hard to attempt to decipher our language, I completely recognize that.

But I'd like to add that a smile is not just nervous or interested, it's also something that I do because I enjoy smiling. The reason I bring this up is because I am naturally friendly and willing to chat with people and everywhere I go there is always one creeper who thinks I'm interested and turns into a stalker type situation. In fact, it's already happened here in NY at my place of work/school. It really pisses me off because now I have to deviate my schedule to avoid him, and I have to be rude to him so he f&*ks off and leaves me alone. Why can't I just be friendly and smile and not have some creep stalk me as a result??? Damn it's bloody annoying.
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Cause you're beautiful and men are attracted to beautiful.
 
chesbaygrl7 said:
I hate to sound totally ignorant, but Tam, what is a Jethro??
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LOL! No worries, Ches...I've been asked that quite a bit over the years. In my smart ass language it's a synonym for several words...goofy, clueless, dumbass, idiot, moron, country, etc.

My friends & I gave it to a goofy friend as a nickname in high school, & I've been using it ever since. I used it quite often when I worked at the prison for the horny moron inmates when they'd act up...even they'd ask me "what the hell is a Jethro?". LOL


Daggerrrrrr said:
lol I take it either thats his name or he's some country ass dude.:)
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Both are a possibility here in Texas. lol


Athena said:
It can be hard to attempt to decipher our language, I completely recognize that.

But I'd like to add that a smile is not just nervous or interested, it's also something that I do because I enjoy smiling. The reason I bring this up is because I am naturally friendly and willing to chat with people and everywhere I go there is always one creeper who thinks I'm interested and turns into a stalker type situation. In fact, it's already happened here in NY at my place of work/school. It really pisses me off because now I have to deviate my schedule to avoid him, and I have to be rude to him so he f&*ks off and leaves me alone. Why can't I just be friendly and smile and not have some creep stalk me as a result??? Damn it's bloody annoying.
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I'm sorry you're having to deal with that mess, Athena. It is ridiculous that a woman just can't be herself without having to worry about getting stalked by some clueless creep.
 
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Athena said:
It can be hard to attempt to decipher our language, I completely recognize that.

But I'd like to add that a smile is not just nervous or interested, it's also something that I do because I enjoy smiling. The reason I bring this up is because I am naturally friendly and willing to chat with people and everywhere I go there is always one creeper who thinks I'm interested and turns into a stalker type situation. In fact, it's already happened here in NY at my place of work/school. It really pisses me off because now I have to deviate my schedule to avoid him, and I have to be rude to him so he f&*ks off and leaves me alone. Why can't I just be friendly and smile and not have some creep stalk me as a result??? Damn it's bloody annoying.
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This is what I'm talking about.

I understand that dating can be and is confusing. And that yes, signals can be hard to read. Women vary. That thing about only showing interest after being pursued is case in point. I don't like to be pursued unless I like him or have a minimal interest in being pursued. It will never be that he tries 5 times and on the sixth time he's successful.

The ones who take the smallest gesture and turn it into a huge love affair are hands down creepy. And Athena has a major point. I hate to be rude. If someone approaches me and I either don't respond or decline outright...then leave me the fuck alone. It will not go anywhere despite repeated attempts.
 
Questo linguaggio è duro di imparare! Chiunque altro qui sanno italiano?

Hehehe I'm trying to learn Italian. It's good to learn more than one language, ya know! :p
 
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