Ever feel guilty about dating a white woman??

SirNice

SirNice

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I dont know if I am the only one....but do you ever feel guilty about dating white women...especially the blonde blue-eyed ones?? I can admit I am at times....it is a very minor guilt but nonetheless it is there sometimes...so if I am dating one you better believe I like her, because at that point her blonde hair and blue eyes are almost a negative to me
 
Brittney said:
I think you're on the wrong site.
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LOL.

Per the original post, Hell No. Might as well ask if I feel guilty dating a sexy, beautiful woman.

I will stay loving white women till the day I die.

You can't fight your attraction. I can't explain it, it just suits my personality, interests and appeal. My tastes are what they are.

Sounds to me like you shouldn't be dating any woman you feel guilty about dating. Maybe its something in your personal life that impacts your viewpoint.

We live one life dude, if you find that person that cares for you, loves you and makes you happy, then that is all you can ask for. Don't over-think it.
 
Conversely, after being with black men for several years, being with a white man makes me feel wrong somehow when I have tried it (once or twice).

Just not natural. Like there would be something I would always miss and I'm selling out. Not to mention that I feel a little nauseous. But it's easier for a white person to adopt a strong loyalty to another race (I think, because we were originally the oppressors), and not feel any guilt whatsoever. A black man feeling an affinity for white women though, yes, I can see how he might feel he was betraying black women - but that man is looking at women primarily from the exterior IMHO.

Especially if you're looking at hair/eye color - do you feel less guilty if she has brown hair/brown eyes? She's still white and perceived as such.

Personally I am proud of my love for black men and don't apologize or feel the need to hide. I don't broadcast it either, but it IS easier for white people I think... (at least in their internal dialogue - they don't really feel like they are betraying their race)... Race loyalty in white culture is externally seen as "White Supremacy" and is tied to oppression... (which is negative, and who doesn't want to get as far away from that as possible? At least subconsciously...).

Personally I think you need to do some soul-searching and analyze all of your motivations for dating white women (and the accompanying guilt), both good and bad.
 
GQ Brotha said:
LOL.

Per the original post, Hell No. Might as well ask if I feel guilty dating a sexy, beautiful woman.

I will stay loving white women till the day I die.

You can't fight your attraction. I can't explain it, it just suits my personality, interests and appeal. My tastes are what they are.

Sounds to me like you shouldn't be dating any woman you feel guilty about dating. Maybe its something in your personal life that impacts your viewpoint.

We live one life dude, if you find that person that cares for you, loves you and makes you happy, then that is all you can ask for. Don't over-think it.
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You are by far, one of the best posters on this site. Would rep you if I could.

I feel the same when it comes to the men I chose to date. Not an ounce of so-called "guilt". To whom exactly? There will always be negative people who don't like who you date. Dismiss them and carry on.
 
Yes, I have in my much younger days and I let it cost me a relationship. Still one of my big regrets in life.

Brittney said:
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I don't think the topic should be dismissed so easily. There is a reason this topic keeps recurring. BM who like WW must endure a toxic level of mind-fucking over it. It's kind of like that old saying just because you're paranoid doesn't mean that they are not out to get you.

While I have learned that I should not dwell in the paranoia nor let it control me, I won't pretend that it doesn't exist. I would hope someone who is truly interested in me wouldn't either.
 
Brittney said:
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I don't understand these boards really , they are so negative so closed minded....canceling any value that my be gleaned from them....if you come here a don't profess dying love for white women you are wrong, stupid, lost, etc....I am not a person of political correctness, I don't give a fuck about going with the flow on these boards, I don't care about being accepted to the board family....but damn when a person something her can all just pretend to be an interactive forum...

Furthermore, I date white, black, Asian,all women. I don't put whites on top. All I was asking was I the one one to feel a little guilt. Not saying I am holding my head down in shame...but when you see a elderly black person say their 80s look at you...just for a split second don't you wish you were with a black woman..my grandfather would be around his90s now if he was not dead...I know what he went through when he was younger with white people...it would probably bring a tear to his eye if he would see me with a white woman
 
There's no sense in exercising shame or guilt for your preferences. You know what you like, you know what you love. It's only natural that you act on them without regret and second thoughts. Your love for white women (or women of any group) only shows you're an example of social progress.

Let not societal ills in the form of racism and bigotry create conflict into your mind.
 
Guilt may not be the proper term, periods of reflection maybe more suitable..at these times, one determine whether or not it is worth dating your blonde versus having this reflection...uniformly it is worth dating....but still for a split second I think about this
 
SirNice said:
I dont know if I am the only one....but do you ever feel guilty about dating white women...especially the blonde blue-eyed ones?? I can admit I am at times....it is a very minor guilt but nonetheless it is there sometimes...so if I am dating one you better believe I like her, because at that point her blonde hair and blue eyes are almost a negative to me
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ok back to racist site you go buddy. make a right turn that way my friend

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So let me ask you bigbrotherwise...I have preference for all races, therefore no preference...do I owe anything to the past generations to look a little longer and harder to find a black man then date when I blessed with an opportunity to date whomever it may be...should I carry my ancestors respect, isnt it the least thing I could for them??
 
Why would there be a need for reflection in the first place? Love is love and you can't control that impulse. Surely, you could reflect upon the reasons why you have your preferences, but I highly doubt self-loathing is inside you at all. I believe you're comfortable in your own skin and embrace the human race as a whole. Just, there are certain physiological features that build upon it.

SirNice said:
Guilt may not be the proper term, periods of reflection maybe more suitable..at these times, one determine whether or not it is worth dating your blonde versus having this reflection...uniformly it is worth dating....but still for a split second I think about this
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On the contrary, everyone has a preference. It's a matter of openness that allows you to exercise your pool of interests. The only you owe is your own personal worth, happiness, and pride. As long as you have pride in yourself and believe that life will continue to progress, why bother with nonsense of generational past experiences?

If anything, you should see yourself as agent of social progress.

SirNice said:
So let me ask you bigbrotherwise...I have preference for all races, therefore no preference...do I owe anything to the past generations to look a little longer and harder to find a black man then date when I blessed with an opportunity to date whomever it may be...should I carry my ancestors respect, isnt it the least thing I could for them??
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SirNice said:
I don't understand these boards really , they are so negative so closed minded....canceling any value that my be gleaned from them....if you come here a don't profess dying love for white women you are wrong, stupid, lost, etc....I am not a person of political correctness, I don't give a fuck about going with the flow on these boards, I don't care about being accepted to the board family....but damn when a person something her can all just pretend to be an interactive forum...
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These boards are negative, closed minded, and immature? Well, damn, sorry we're not so evolved and open minded as you and feeling like a certain eye and hair color are a negative. Hitler anyone? :rolleyes:


SirNice said:
Furthermore, I date white, black, Asian,all women. I don't put whites on top. All I was asking was I the one one to feel a little guilt. Not saying I am holding my head down in shame...but when you see a elderly black person say their 80s look at you...just for a split second don't you wish you were with a black woman..my grandfather would be around his 90s now if he was not dead...I know what he went through when he was younger with white people...it would probably bring a tear to his eye if he would see me with a white woman
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I'd take BBW's advice or don't date women of other races until you're grown enough not to be influenced by what other people think or might feel about it.
 
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