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saintaugusta said:
I am a little nervous. Asked a black guy at my work if he would go with me to see Elle Varner at a majority black club in the west side of town this weekend. Really would like to go with a friend, and not all by myself, although I WILL go alone. This guy is someone I really respect, is a good friend of mine, I think... the only thing is that he is a devout Muslim, super black power, and I wonder if he would feel uncomfortable being seen with a white woman at a black club or anywhere. I know he's not against interracial dating if I want to do it, but I don't know he feels about it for himself. I know he finds me attractive - he practically ducks his head and blushes when he walks by me and nobody is looking - he is very handsome and a rapper of all things (I kid you not) - minor leagues but still he's not bad and has some videos that are not stupid. Anyway I asked him on Facebook and he hadn't seen it when I saw him at work today... I told him to check his FB because someone asked me if I was going to go to the concert, and I said I was... I have had no response as of 10:00pm tonight. A little nervous... he's probably going to say no. Either because he doesn't like Elle Varner or he'd be too uncomfortable to go with me. :( Are African American Muslim men really against dating white women? I don't know - it's just an assumption.
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The Dark Knight said:
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Meaning, I assume, that you have no idea what his views are about being seen with a white woman DK?

Societal pressures are SO strong. I can tell that he IS really attracted to me. He always talks to me and looks at me, notices me, and speaks to me when I walk into a room. I hugged him once for helping me fix my car and he was sooo shy about it - it was adorable because he is this deep-voiced rough-seeming guy from the west end. He is really intelligent too. And a vegetarian. Doesn't drink or smoke. Super principled. I really respect that.
 
saintaugusta said:
I am a little nervous. Asked a black guy at my work if he would go with me to see Elle Varner at a majority black club in the west side of town this weekend. Really would like to go with a friend, and not all by myself, although I WILL go alone. This guy is someone I really respect, is a good friend of mine, I think... the only thing is that he is a devout Muslim, super black power, and I wonder if he would feel uncomfortable being seen with a white woman at a black club or anywhere. I know he's not against interracial dating if I want to do it, but I don't know he feels about it for himself. I know he finds me attractive - he practically ducks his head and blushes when he walks by me and nobody is looking - he is very handsome and a rapper of all things (I kid you not) - minor leagues but still he's not bad and has some videos that are not stupid. Anyway I asked him on Facebook and he hadn't seen it when I saw him at work today... I told him to check his FB because someone asked me if I was going to go to the concert, and I said I was... I have had no response as of 10:00pm tonight. A little nervous... he's probably going to say no. Either because he doesn't like Elle Varner or he'd be too uncomfortable to go with me. :( Are African American Muslim men really against dating white women? I don't know - it's just an assumption.
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I think you might be confusing regular Islam with N.O.I (Nation of Islam). If he is in the N.O.I. he probably wont be into you. If he is regular muslim, the only reason he wouldn't be is because you aren't muslim and thus your relationship "is not written". Could you specify what kind of muslim he is? He might actually be more open to you if he is Shia as opposed to Sunni.
 
luvattractivewomen said:
I think you might be confusing regular Islam with N.O.I (Nation of Islam). If he is in the N.O.I. he probably wont be into you. If he is regular muslim, the only reason he wouldn't be is because you aren't muslim and thus your relationship "is not written". Could you specify what kind of muslim he is? He might actually be more open to you if he is Shia as opposed to Sunni.
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I really don't know which one. I think I remember him saying at lunch one time to someone else (that's the only time I see him), that his girlfriend/wife/significant other would not have to be Muslim or convert to Islam. That doesn't mean though, that she wouldn't have to be black, does it? There's another girl at my work who is Muslim who is white (converted) - I don't even think she is married, and her whole family is against her - she wears the headscarf and everything. I don't think his family is Muslim at all ( to my knowledge - I think he is the only one, but I could be wrong). His facebook says a lot about keeping the black community together though - about the Black People. I think I am THE only white single female on his list of FB friends, although there is ONE interracial couple that I could see. He does not seem to be racist in the least in his interractions with people although he is pretty homophobic from what I've seen.
 
saintaugusta said:
I really don't know which one. I think I remember him saying at lunch one time to someone else (that's the only time I see him), that his girlfriend/wife/significant other would not have to be Muslim or convert to Islam. That doesn't mean though, that she wouldn't have to be black, does it? There's another girl at my work who is Muslim who is white (converted) - I don't even think she is married, and her whole family is against her - she wears the headscarf and everything. I don't think his family is Muslim at all ( to my knowledge - I think he is the only one, but I could be wrong). His facebook says a lot about keeping the black community together though - about the Black People. I think I am THE only white single female on his list of FB friends, although there is ONE interracial couple that I could see. He does not seem to be racist in the least.
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I think you need to just chill out and wait for an answer. If it doesn't happen it's not like your world will end. If he converted and he doesn't have an issue with you he may date you. But, you must remember that he converted and your lifestyle may not be compatible with the lifestyle he has chosen for himself. Many converts keep an open mind, but it doesn't mean that it works out. So, don't be disappointed if it doesn't work out. In regards to the scarf it's called a Hijab. In regards to wanting to keep the black community together, it could mean that he is only in to black women, or it could mean that he wants the black community to dig itself out of it's current hole. Either way, patience is really the only advice I can give.
 
luvattractivewomen said:
I think you need to just chill out and wait for an answer. If it doesn't happen it's not like your world will end. If he converted and he doesn't have an issue with you he may date you. But, you must remember that he converted and your lifestyle may not be compatible with the lifestyle he has chosen for himself. Many converts keep an open mind, but it doesn't mean that it works out. So, don't be disappointed if it doesn't work out. In regards to the scarf it's called a Hijab. In regards to wanting to keep the black community together, it could mean that he is only in to black women, or it could mean that he wants the black community to dig itself out of it's current hole. Either way, patience is really the only advice I can give.
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Thanks, Luv. Anyway, I did tell him to check it (his FB), so either he will take the opportunity to go with me to the concert, or he won't! It was just my jumping out on a limb because he's so freaking shy. I didn't have anything to lose and I really did want someone to go with. I will go by myself regardless. People had heard me talking about it anyway. It's not like it was some huge secret. I really just wanted a chance to hang out with him outside of work - he's a great guy. I wanted to get to know him better. We'll see. If he doesn't at least pick up on my cues, then that's okay. I'll move on. I put it right on the table at least... I said "Question. Would you ever be caught dead in public with a white girl?" ...and then launched into my pitch. LOL:D
 
i am really feeling this new building i work in. the people i have meet are uncanny to what ive been accustom to over the past half decade while living in nor cal. I've really missed LA and really glad to be back, there is no other city like it! today i met the daughter of the executive producer of the new batman movies and a ton of older popular movies. while talking about productivity tools with his daughter one of the playboy internet women of the week interrupted us to make small talk with me. the next time i see charlize theron in the elevator i am going to tell her how much her acting has been a stimulating experience for me and i hope she finds a chocolate man of her dreams. :weedman:
 
saintaugusta said:
Thanks, Luv. Anyway, I did tell him to check it (his FB), so either he will take the opportunity to go with me to the concert, or he won't! It was just my jumping out on a limb because he's so freaking shy. I didn't have anything to lose and I really did want someone to go with. I will go by myself regardless. People had heard me talking about it anyway. It's not like it was some huge secret. I really just wanted a chance to hang out with him outside of work - he's a great guy. I wanted to get to know him better. We'll see. If he doesn't at least pick up on my cues, then that's okay. I'll move on. I put it right on the table at least... I said "Question. Would you ever be caught dead in public with a white girl?" ...and then launched into my pitch. LOL:D
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Ummm... that sounds a little desperate and pathetic. However, desperate and pathetic can be very cute and endearing. So, lets hope it works out that way for you. If you have an extra ticket next time let me know. I'll go.
 
dWebPro said:
i am really feeling this new building i work in. the people i have meet are uncanny to what ive been accustom to over the past half decade while living in nor cal. I've really missed LA and really glad to be back, there is no other city like it! today i met the daughter of the executive producer of the new batman movies and a ton of older popular movies. while talking about productivity tools with his daughter one of the playboy internet women of the week interrupted us to make small talk with me. the next time i see charlize theron in the elevator i am going to tell her how much her acting has been a stimulating experience for me and i hope she finds a chocolate man of her dreams. :weedman:
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Congrats!!!
 
luvattractivewomen said:
Ummm... that sounds a little desperate and pathetic. However, desperate and pathetic can be very cute and endearing. So, lets hope it works out that way for you. If you have an extra ticket next time let me know. I'll go.
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LOL luv... I followed it with saying something about his beliefs, so he would understand. Anyway, I had talked about the Rastafarian dude a little bit with him and he knew how upset I had been about him, so maybe he's like HELL NAW I ain't goin with that crazy broad lol. Anyway, he knows I'm strong on beliefs and respect beliefs, that's why I brought up the white chick thing in the first place. I prefer someone who has some sort of belief set - that is what draws me to Muslim men and Rasta men in the first place. Something I can sink my teeth into - and there are common elements - things that ground me to my faith as well. Commonalities that bring me back home. Anyway I remain true to myself by speaking my truth, and by asking him, I put the truth out there so anyway he knows I wish to have some sort of speaking relationship with him outside of work. I have not been overtly flirtatious with him, only respectful. He knows I am not some dumb or actually "crazy" broad. At least I hope.
 
saintaugusta said:
LOL luv... I followed it with saying something about his beliefs, so he would understand. Anyway, I had talked about the Rastafarian dude a little bit with him and he knew how upset I had been about him, so maybe he's like HELL NAW I ain't goin with that crazy broad lol. Anyway, he knows I'm strong on beliefs and respect beliefs, that's why I brought up the white chick thing in the first place. I prefer someone who has some sort of belief set - that is what draws me to Muslim men and Rasta men in the first place. Something I can sink my teeth into - and there are common elements - things that ground me to my faith as well. Commonalities that bring me back home. Anyway I remain true to myself by speaking my truth, and by asking him, I put the truth out there so anyway he knows I wish to have some sort of speaking relationship with him outside of work. I have not been overtly flirtatious with him, only respectful. He knows I am not some dumb or actually "crazy" broad. At least I hope.
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Nope, you are crazy and he knows it. Just kidding. Well, good luck bro. I personally don't have any beliefs or faith. I don't believe in gods or unicorns. But, I think some people need a religion. So, I wish you the best with that and I am happy that it works for you. I also hope things workout for you and the muslim man.
 
luvattractivewomen said:
Nope, you are crazy and he knows it. Just kidding. Well, good luck bro. I personally don't have any beliefs or faith. I don't believe in gods or unicorns. But, I think some people need a religion. So, I wish you the best with that and I am happy that it works for you. I also hope things workout for you and the muslim man.
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Did you just call her bro? Lmaaoooo! Priceless.
 
APPIAH said:
Did you just call her bro? Lmaaoooo! Priceless.
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I know right? I couldn't figure that one out. Anyway... pretty sure he is like WTF right now. I have never been so bold as to ask him to a concert and then leave my number and then say if he doesn't want to go to the concert we can just have coffee as friends. I'm serious about that. I just really like him as a person. We've been lunch friends at work for over a year. Ball is in his court - I am DONE.

This from a girl who will not call or text a man she likes EVER. Not for weeks and weeks and weeks upon penalty of death. I'm done. *slashes throat*
 
luvattractivewomen said:
Nope, you are crazy and he knows it. Just kidding. Well, good luck bro. I personally don't have any beliefs or faith. I don't believe in gods or unicorns. But, I think some people need a religion. So, I wish you the best with that and I am happy that it works for you. I also hope things workout for you and the muslim man.
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You dont believe in unicorns?????????
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Funny how some of you are treating this Micheal Sears motherfucker like he doesn't have a bald-faced agenda. Remind me to ask you all for your Social Security and credit card numbers the next time I'm in your town.
 
saintaugusta said:
Meaning, I assume, that you have no idea what his views are about being seen with a white woman DK?

Societal pressures are SO strong. I can tell that he IS really attracted to me. He always talks to me and looks at me, notices me, and speaks to me when I walk into a room. I hugged him once for helping me fix my car and he was sooo shy about it - it was adorable because he is this deep-voiced rough-seeming guy from the west end. He is really intelligent too. And a vegetarian. Doesn't drink or smoke. Super principled. I really respect that.
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All bow and worship the fairest in the land. Holy fuck, does your ego have NO boundaries??????Most people don't like egomanics.
 
satyr said:
Funny how some of you are treating this Micheal Sears motherfucker like he doesn't have a bald-faced agenda. Remind me to ask you all for your Social Security and credit card numbers the next time I'm in your town.
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Which is what? Indulge me, please.
 
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