Ok You're way too emotional to have a rational conversation about this so as long as you think you made the decision best for you then that's all that matters. Good luck with all that
LOL...tdk and petty ...you two are toooo right on some shit. the me culture has fucked up some shit, especially the family. for men (yes men are to be head of the household...leaders) they take being head of household as being dictators.....men dont get the difference between leaders and dictators. women think that following their man means being slaves and they want get rebellious and shit then they think inbdiviDUALISM means they are allowed to disrepect the man and the marriage. what women dont get that you cant win the superbowl with 2 qb's under center at the same time on the same play.
I love the broad stroked generalizations in your post...like marriage and relationships are one size fits all. The problem with your theory is that many young men nowadays aren't leaders. How can they be expected to be the head of the household when they can't even decide what's for dinner? The reason the woman is under center is because someone has to take care of the damn house and family while the young man is figuring out his role in life. There are more boys walking around pretending to be men, than actual men.
By and large its the woman who is choosing which man to marry, so why marry and procreate with someone who is still figuring out his role in life and "can't decide what's for dinner"? As a father, uncle, cousin to outstanding young men, I strongly disagree with your broad brush that there are more boys than men out there. Perhaps the good ones are being overlooked in favor of others who are not as well equipped.
you just proved my point an TDK's point. 1) you didnt read a thang on what I said...go back and read 2) your post is str8 disrespecting men 3) you are being a hypocrite yourself....saying Im generalizing and you are doing the same. 4) most women dont appreciate a man and wouldnt know what a man is if G-d himself told em. hell, they would be G-d if he did come down and put it stone. 5) if a man asked you to do ABC and D....most women THINK he is being a dictator instead of asking herself...."is what he is asking me to do good for the family and is it logical" . if you dont believe me just lookm at your response to my post then look at my post then yours. you will see that i didnt say all people with a penis are leaders. hell most women dont have clue what a leader is and dont understand about team play. dont believe me....read your response to my post
I believe that if they are too busy looking for the thug smooth swag...instead of the good character and integrity swag
You could certainly be right. I'm not saying there aren't good men out there, but in my experience there are more guys wanting to play games than guys wanting to be men of integrity and character. There's not a single point of yours that I can find a common ground with. I'm not sure how old your are, but judging by your idea of the roles of men and women, I would assume that you're beyond my age group. I'm very knowledgeable about what a leader is...hell I am one. Not only do I lead my household, but I'm responsible for 5 medical groups, staff and providers. Ive worked hard in my life to get where im at and i want a partner, not someone who feels the need to "lead" me where they think i should go. Relationships should be about equality and give and take. Anything less, is lower than what any man or woman deserves. As for your comment about disrespect...My post disrespects boys masquerading as men. You may very well be a good man, but don't presume all (or even the majority) are like you.
if you are a single mother then yeah you are the leader. if you are married the man is the leader. the problem women think its being a shot caller and ordering people around and what not. being a man IS the most stressful position....if shit goes bad people always say to the dude or say about the dude..."you are a reflection of what goes wrong in the house" hell a woman can be the "leader" in the house and let shit goes bad and who is the first one to get blamed....the man. the man never put himself above the family. child comes first woman second the man last. every man knows that shit. men are to make sure everything is tight. the woman is suppose to help. advice and pick up the slack. if the woman is half way smart she would keep his ass motivated and appreciate his efforts. the problem with women they think they are suppose to be the qb, the running back and the wide receiver. you cant win when you dont look around and say how can I help or whatever. its all about your independence and what you want instead of whats best for the family. men know that if the family is good then he can chill but women want to keep up a got damn fuss thinking he trying to run them. thats the problem. thats what TDK was talking about and thats what Im saying...not wanting to put words in TDK's mouth
Go to princeton to get a husband...Really. There's nothing wrong with marrying a person that equals your educstional status but to specifically target a certain university for that purpose.. That's the way it sound to me and that sucks
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