I'm so glad we resolved everything through our attorneys. No domestic relations orders, no custody battles. He offered an amount for child support that was more than acceptable and there was no fussing over visitation because his career kept him miles away (unfortunately for my son). I feel sorry for dads who are denied access to their kids esp when they're paying child support and trying to be a true father to their kids.

 

What is it that gots you guys runnin into such a bunch of dumb a** **** . Is that a virusgoing around or some? *shakes head*

 

You want love, you try to find love, you think you've found love. and it isn't it. Not a complicated notion at all. Women think there's only f'd up men in the world. "where are all the good men?". You know where? Somewhere bent over, getting screwed by some nut job chick with no vaseline. That's where. Lol.

 

My favorite word during the court thang was "no" and my favorite phrase "contempt of court"

 

Tried to talk about this kind of stuff in another thread but people wasnt down with it

 

I hear you. I ve seen that bull happen to a bunch of my friends over the past 22 years and all im left with to say , it makes me sad. but just as sad is, that most of them wouldnt notice a good woman even if she was standing right in front of them. Once the low heads rising the upper one stops thinking.
I ve raised 2 kids without receiving a single cent from their fathers. But that didnt stop me from letting my kids see them. It s not right to screw each other over-in no direction, but its just cheap and larking of character to play a revenge game using the children involved.
I still believe in the good men out there. Keep believing there s good women out there, too, pls. Although... *chuckle* i m sure you kinda sexy bending over...

 

Ok. Since u got visitations then dont worry about how people perceive u. She can tell people this and that...fuck em. Trust me its gard to do that because thats your name shes fucking up.

Its best to have a decent relationship with moms cause of the childs sake.

Heres how to do it.

1. Whatever happens dont let her drag u into an arguement....

2. Once a week or so...just call her and ask her how shes doing....

3. Always...always speak positive about moms to the child and when u pick them up tell the child to give mom a hug first

This is to start...then build from there

 

Oh. Jay doesn't bend over. Just taking her back to court. Have all of our conversations recorded or screenshots of the text messages. The incident reports I filed for the missed visits, plus Peter Batala Esq. She's done for. But thanks for the compliment. And i haven't given up on finding a good woman. Not by a long shot

 

I'd never make a disparaging remark to our child about her. She's actually decent to deal with as long as you're doing as she pleases, and never disagree with her. That's when she goes apeshit

 

Happy thanksgiving to everyone, aw family law messing over men for the last 40 yrs,, I don't even get mad anymore lol, and Jamal people ask me how do you know your ex is crazy? Yours sounds just like mine, what is a person who can't reason with?

 

Yeah...i feel u on that. When your child gets older it will get better.

Its great you got em young

 

Just keep hammering away. The law is always the best route.

Lol

It's worse than being beaten with a bat daily. Had me feeling crazy dealing with it. Wasn't exactly helpful while dealing with grad school, law school and work.

We can always Skype about it. Lol

When she sends me anything beyond what my son needs, wants, etc. I reply "I will forward this to my attorney for review. Thank you."

 

Weeding out people is important

 

I try to tell my sister this. She allows the negative people to stay in her life then wonders why drama is lurking around every turn. I don't have the patience. If someone doesn't have the decency to respect me and mine, buh bye lol. My dad says I can be quick to cut people off sometimes but...I disagree lol.

 

Argh. I hate dating!

Have a date tonight and my stomach is all tied up in knots

 

Good luck! I hope the guy turns out to be great!

 

Now just relax woman. ...Dancing is fun. ....Ask the DJ to play some oldschool funk and your bones will begin to move themselves. .... No one can stand still to oldschool funk. .....

 

Tarshi, you are a gem and any guy that can't appreciate your beaming personality and fantastic sense of witty humor isn't worth a second date. And he's slow as hell... Have a great time and have fun just being yourself!

 

Thanks everyone!! I'm just so shy when I meet a man that I tend to overcompensate by being louder and making a fool of myself. It's dreadful lol