I can't believe I'm saying this, but I completely agree with TDK on this issue.

I'm all about pleasing the guy I'm with, but there are times that I'm not feeling up to it, and there are times that a little alone time is good.

I'm not offended or jealous of a hand. As someone said, like it or not, you know your own body the best and can usually get yourself off quicker than someone else.

If you just want a quickie to get yourself to sleep, have at it. I'd do the same.

Sex is great, but it's complicated to do and is anything but quick (with all the kissing, caressing, etc) and requires a lot more energy that sometimes you just aren't ready to expend and puts undue pressure on both partners to get off and sometimes you just want to do it quickly to relax. No harm, no foul.

I guess I'm part of the female minority here, but I see no reason to be jealous if a guy chooses his hand occasionally over sex with me.

 

Oh yeah. But she shouldnt need to nag u. Major difference.
Yo woman im not a machine.

 

I have been getting your women....u havent been handling business.

 

I answered that question. At the expense of sounding like goodlove "go back and read" lol

 

Rep added. :smt023

 

Again, you have never experienced what I am thinking about in my head. I once had a lady friend who all we did was smoke, drink and fuck. One weekend I had to tell her I needed a break and she literally begged for more. We ended up taking a quick trip to the pharmacia for some cialis just to keep going.

I only hung out with her a few more times after that because her appetite was more than I wanted to satisfy.

 

Sex doesn't always have to be intercourse or even reciprocal.

 

Lmaooo wasn't it GL that questioned Loki's reading comprehension that one time?! Hahahahaha dude about killed me that day :smt043

 

Uh, what? How can sex not be reciprocal? Oral?

Sorry, even oral, I'm sometimes not in the mood to do or receive.

 

Hahaha yes... I leave him be and we go to strictly cuddling at that point

Soon as I came down the stairs the next morning he looks at me and says I'm not allowed to touch him

 

All I hear is...

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Lol. U tapped out. All day sessions is something every man experienced (tdk doesnt qualify...his balls havent dropped)

Thats not nagging or maybe we better get a strong definition for nag. Cause u went into the area of burden of duty(nag)

 

:freehug::freehug: I freakin adore you!

 

Yeah, you did. Sorry. I was focused on the question you asked and forgot the first part of the post. But I wonder how many women masturbate when in a relationship and they're getting sex regularly? I'm going to go out on a limb and say if a woman is getting off in that scenario it's either because she has a higher sex drive than her partner or she's not truly being satisfied. Jmo.

Yes. And not to be a smart ass, but if you know your partner well and you're good at pleasing him, it really wouldn't take that much time. Again, jmo.

 

It doesn't matter how good you are at pleasing the other person, if you are only doing it out of obligation, the other person senses it and it won't happen, or it will take longer than normal.

I'm not one to force myself to do something I'm not 100% into doing, because it will show in my attitude no matter how much I will try to hide it.

And you know, I'm not always in the mood to do it.

And if my guy woke me up from a dead sleep to have sex or ask if I'm hungry, I think I would probably punch him. LOL.

 

Yes.

 

The role of women in relationships is not to be some "Stepford" wife - robots who are at the beck and call of their men all the time.

I'm sorry, but not one person is ever always ready to have sex 24/7/365.

 

I didn't mean doing it out of obligation, but I get what you mean. But for me, if he's having a hard time sleeping, I'm probably awake, too. I'm a light sleeper, especially if I'm sharing a bed. I'd have to be heavily sedated to be awakened out of a sound sleep if he was tossing around. Lol.

 

Not trying to be mean, but having to snuggle afterwards to make my s/o feel better totally defeats the relaxing nature and reason for doing it. Suddenly, as a man, you have another responsibility before you can get back to sleep.

Can you see how that can be unfair to the man? This is about him and what he needs right at that moment. And when I say need I mean need as in he's doing this because he has to sleep to be ready to tackle his day.

 

Did you read North's answer to getting release when one partner isn't in the mood? That's what I was referring to.

If I'm awake, at least let me watch. I don't have to help.