Heartbreaking. She was at such a tough age, and too many parents fail to remember or realize (for the lucky few who didn't go through hell at that age) how miserable the middle school years are for most kids. IMO those are some of the most vulnerable years for kids, and they need a lot of support and encouragement, even when they're acting out. It's often tough being a parent to preteens & teens (I'd take the "terrible twos" over dealing with teenagers any day, lol), but parents have to do their damnedest not to let that get the best of them. Sometimes I think parents forget that teens are still kids and expect them to think/feel/behave as though they're more mature than they are.
I don't agree with the public humiliation approach at all. I think it's cruel and destructive. The ones who should be ashamed are the parents who do that crap to their children. I can understand being frustrated and at wit's end, but publicly shaming them is never the way to go. Yes, there are some parents who are abusive assholes, but there are also a lot of parents who are just stupid enough to try something they think might work without having sense enough to consider the possible consequences.
It sounds like this guy was just a clueless screw up who thought he was doing the best thing in the situation. Do I think his choice of punishment may have had anything to do with her suicide? Yes, I think there's a strong chance that it pushed her to that final breaking point. However, I also think there was a whole lot of other angst & pain going on in this girl's life that contributed to her suicidal feelings as well. What he did was wrong, but, unless he was a just a sadistic & abusive asshole, further punishment is unnecessary; he'll be suffering for this for the rest of his life.
Cutting off a young teen girl's hair is probably one of the cruelest forms of punishment you can do and probably isn't far off (in the girl's mind) from taking a razor blade and slashing up her face.
Much of that girl's self esteem, what little there was, was probably tied up in her appearance and her hair.
Why would her father choose a punishment that not only attacked her self-worth and self-esteem, but compound it by putting it up on YT????
I know grown up women who would lose it if some jerk cut off their hair in the middle of the night.
By cutting his emotionally traumatized daughter's hair off, this fool basically told her she was WORTHLESS.
Thanks dad.
How is this man anything but an emotional sadist???
Think about it, do any of you know a father who punished his daughter by cutting off her hair???
What was she being punished for anyway???
This man didn't deserve to have a daughter and in a twisted way it's probably better she was taken away from him.
If you abuse someone to the point they feel their only escape is to take their own lives, IMO you deserve jail time.
Fuck what he's going through emotionally, he brought that on himself.
His daughter's DEAD because of his own cruelty.
Let him feel like a POS behind behind bars for a couple years and experience the daily public shaming of inmates hating on him because he basically 'killed' his own daughter.
