30+ and i've never had a girlfriend--

Soulthinker said:
Even though I may not as shy as Hype,I hope he can give you more details. In my case if a girl asks me for a dance I would not hesitate. A very few do but it was great when it happens.
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That's good to know. I would think that it would be flattering for a guy if a girl approached him. My previous relationships have been with men that are confident and are very vocal about whether or not they wanted to go out with me. So this guy has kind of thrown me for a loop. I appreciate you taking the time to comment, Soulthinker. :)
 
Hypestyle said:
hi there, girligirl.. :)

thanks for asking--

well-- I guess from my vantage point, at this point in my life I wouldn't be offended at all by someone approaching me-- in the past, simply put, I was too nervous.. every girl I had a crush on, I never told.. I can remember back when I was a kid and someone hipped me to the notion that someone 'liked me' (wasn't that often) I just shrugged it off like "you can't be serious".. I really didn't know how to react, so I just dismissed it out of my mind entirely.. part of it was the fear that for a girl to be 'interested' in me it had some elaborate, cruel joke; the other fear was given the fact that I didn't converse much, she'd get extremely bored and/or annoyed with me and be really convinced that I'm 'just a geek/weirdo' anyway..

...especially once I became an adult, not having a car for several years was a bummer, I tried to avoid being anywhere late at night (i.e., bars, clubs), since I'd likely be looking at walking home (Detroit-area public transportation sucks badly)..

--- I think getting over the potential for rejection is kind of the sticking point-- for as much as it may mean little to many folks, it's devastating for shyer types, as it comes across as yet another confirmation that people/women don't think much of you.. and there's the added risk of being overly enthusiastic with a woman who's simply being friendly/making conversation.. when that invitation to coffee or flirty dialogue is mistaken for genuine attraction/interest, that can be extremely awkward, and for many of us there's the fear of coming across as 'desperate'- on top of that, getting turned down by someone who clearly just sees us as a buddy/nice guy can have lingering internal embarrassment every time you see/hang out with them..

So, again, at this point, I wouldn't mind being approached or nudged.. :wink:
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Hype,

When I read this, it just really broke my heart. It sounds as if you have just given up on ever finding a relationship. There is nothing wrong with being single if that is what you want, but from reading your posts, I don't think that is truly what you want. Anything worth having is hard work, and it's no different with relationships. I know that rejection hurts...I would venture to say that most of us have been there at some point in our lives. Not everyone that we are attracted to is going to be attracted to us, but I'm a firm believer that there is someone for everyone.

I hope that I'm not getting to personal, but I feel like that you may be your own worst enemy when it comes to dating. Do you feel that you have anything to offer to a woman?? I get the feeling from your posts that you don't think that you do. I hope that you tell me that I'm wrong in my observation. I think that guys that are in your situation are very critical of themselves. Have you ever seen a guy that's not that great looking with a beautiful woman and ask yourself 'how did that happen?' Most guys probably think that he must have money. Well, there are women that are like that, but not all of us are. I can find the simpliest things about a man sexy and they don't involve his physique. I love a great smile, caring eyes, a sense of humor, a way that he makes you feel like you are the only woman in the room....I could go on and on. I've meet people before that I thought they were absolutely gorgeous until they opened their mouth, and I've meet people that I wasn't physically attracted to that once I spent time with them and got to know them that I only had eyes for them.

Hype, you need to find whatever it is inside of you that would make any woman glad that she met you. Once you feel confident about that, I think that you'll see a change with the how the opposite sex responds to you. :wink:
 
Soulthinker said:
Thank you GG74. When I dance with a woman I do my upmost not to dance nerdy. Doing a Steve Urkel is a turn off.
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I'm sure that any woman would be lucky to get to dance with you. :D Just be sure to stay off her feet. lol Thanks for the Urkel visual...it brought a smile to my face.
 
Soulthinker said:
I appreciate the compliment GirlieGirl74.
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Your welcome. I know that I don't know you, but I've been browsing the forum for a few weeks; and from reading some of your posts, I think that you are a deep guy that lives up to the name 'Soulthinker.' So, I meant what I said about a girl being lucky. I don't give out meaningless compliments. :D
 
GirlieGirl74 said:
Hype, you need to find whatever it is inside of you that would make any woman glad that she met you. Once you feel confident about that, I think that you'll see a change with the how the opposite sex responds to you. :wink:
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thanx, GirlieGirl-- I'll work on it.. :wink:
 
30+ and no girl......that is kinda funny...actually with all the riff raff out
there these days you are probably clean, which is safe! That is a fine start .....I would say get to know what you desire and turns you on....but without a girl around..hahahah ...I am sure you know yourself pretty well. But here is my number one suggestion .....


be yourself!!!!!

If you try to hard you cloud that and become something you are not and things begin to spin downward ......

things happen when you least expect them too...good luck on your hunting...be safe, be true to yourself and roll with things....
 
life5577 said:
30+ and no girl......that is kinda funny...actually with all the riff raff out
there these days you are probably clean, which is safe! That is a fine start .....I would say get to know what you desire and turns you on....but without a girl around..hahahah ...I am sure you know yourself pretty well. But here is my number one suggestion .....


be yourself!!!!!

If you try to hard you cloud that and become something you are not and things begin to spin downward ......

things happen when you least expect them too...good luck on your hunting...be safe, be true to yourself and roll with things....
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be myself, eh? we'll see if it works.. 8)
 
....okay, I've committed to meeting up with this local social-networking group that's meeting at a nightclub Friday.. my social anxiety will probably be in effect, but I'll try to keep it in check..only i'm not a great dancer..
 
That's okay Hypestyle- a nice girl will be looking for other qualities besides dancing moves-just be yourself- nice guys do finish first! Good luck.
 
Hypestyle said:
....okay, I've committed to meeting up with this local social-networking group that's meeting at a nightclub Friday.. my social anxiety will probably be in effect, but I'll try to keep it in check..only i'm not a great dancer..
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You know what might help? Go there tonight and/or tomorrow night. Check the place out. Get a feel for the people there, and get a feel for the atmosphere. That way, your comfort level should be somewhat raised on Friday, and you can concentrate on other things.

And remember, keep an open face. Smile and make sure the smile extends to your eyes. You can do it! Keep us posted. :D
 
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I wonder how many of y'all woman would love to get yourselves a virgin? I'll bet that y'all act the same way as us men when we encounter one. Y'all probably start making wages on who can get him first. Y'all wanna be the first to break his ass in and make him a man. I mean, everybody wants bragging rights of some kind don't they?

Am I wrong? :smt102
 
when i was in college, i met this little boy-i will call him a little boy because he was so fragile-sweet-cautious-simple-natural-just purely innocent. I was 24 maybe-he was 19. Handsome little white boy....so shy, blushed easily....when i accidently would brush against him...he would get shy.....he grew up on a farm...strong little shit...was an all star wrestler....just an all around virgin......i smelt that shit from a mile away and in all wacked out actuallity...it turned me on....

we would chat here and there, laugh and joke....i could smell his sweet innocense.....all the time....one day his boy came to me and said....hey, i dont know what you did to (we will call him frank) but frank doesnt stop talkin about you.....

that was my ......ticket.....reeled him in hooked line and sinker.....i should have known better, but i wanted to have this power over him...this sexual power that noone else could ever take....

so after about 3 months .....we went for lunch....i could feel his nervousness....it was sooooo....sexual....i just could keep this boy hangin...so that day at lunch i just came right out and asked him....

Are you a virgin? Do you want to fuck? lmao----i thought the kid was gonna pass the fuck out...okay okay-i was a little wet,

he didnt say anything for about 5 mins....then he looked at me with these eyes and stuttered.......i have wanted to touch you since i met you....

he bypassed the virgin question, but i hit him up again....shyly he admitted to it...i told him notto be embarrassed but ....lmao it was his lucky week....

so we devised a plan for him to come to my crib during a 3 hour break before we had a class together....

he came alright......came in my mouth-came on my face....came inside of me......we fucked for 3 hours and came to class together late.....lmao

he was sooooo innocent....he became such an animal.....gee.....it was so good to learn him one.....my way.....

we never fucked again .....but his buddy and i still to this day talk about....how he never stopped talkin about me....

oh old times.....fresh meat....wet pussy....stamina....
 
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