Feeling Guilty About Attraction to White Women?

StephanieMarie said:
That's exactly the kind of thing I had going on for awhile. I had to end friendships over my relationships...not because I would ever choose a man over my friends, but because I couldn't in good conscience be friends with people that suddenly felt entitled to voicing their previously closeted racist remarks. IR dating can really show you things about people you never thought possible.

To the second quote: you can't find that strength many places!
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Have you black bfs or dates every been around when your friends spewed their racism?

Inner Beauty said:
Thank you. That's very nice of you to say....

It is definitely hard to have to endure racist or prejudiced assholes, be it women or men who disagree with who you date. All we can do is keep on truckin'. We're always on the front lines when it comes to our unions. If you don't come across people you know talking shit, sometimes you find them in public. It sucks to have our characters (be it WW or BM) insulted, cause that's what they're doing.

Sad on many accounts....
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You are most definitely welcome baby. I will always stand tall for y'all. You already know your boy Trey got your back. White women are at the front line with our unions because the haters usually target white women. I have never in life had a white nigga step to me talking no shit when I'm out with a white woman. However, I've been told by my white girlfriends that they have been insulted and question by white men and women. I agree the only thing we can do is keep on truckin and brush off the haters.
 
Trey1540 said:
Have you black bfs or dates every been around when your friends spewed their racism?
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Of course not....which is why those friendships ended pretty quickly. I don't really tolerate ignorance or racism and as far as I saw it, if they were willing to say such hurtful things about men that obviously meant something to me...what things were they capable of saying about me when I was out of the room
 
Trey1540 said:
Have you black bfs or dates every been around when your friends spewed their racism?

You are most definitely welcome baby. I will always stand tall for y'all. You already know your boy Trey got your back. White women are at the front line with our unions because the haters usually target white women. I have never in life had a white nigga step to me talking no shit when I'm out with a white woman. However, I've been told by my white girlfriends that they have been insulted and question by white men and women. I agree the only thing we can do is keep on truckin and brush off the haters.
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Thanx for having our backs, we all have yours as well....

The times I've had any BS in public back in the day, was from one brutha (called my ex a sell out) and like 3 young sistas hating (called the dudes I was with a sell out as well), but my friends have had some bullshit happen to them. My friend (BM) was on a date (WW) at an amusement part and a Sista punched the White girl in the face. Then my best friend (BM) was in NY with his ex (WW) and they got called all kind of names walking down the street.

People on here have shared their experiences in random threads....

It's sad that people have so much hate and negativity running through their veins.
 
StephanieMarie said:
ooh please you all seem like very beautiful ladies. I'm sure they're occupied enough with all you girlies
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But you my friend are fresh meat. Welcome :-D


I liked what you posted and I never knew a lot of you got branded with the damaged goods thing especially by young dudes (you look like you're in your early to mid 20s).
Every girl I've dated never had a problem dating wm or whoever after to me but maybe its because I'm from NY where its more diverse.
 
StephanieMarie said:
Of course not....which is why those friendships ended pretty quickly. I don't really tolerate ignorance or racism and as far as I saw it, if they were willing to say such hurtful things about men that obviously meant something to me...what things were they capable of saying about me when I was out of the room
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What type of things did they say exactly that made you cut them off?

Inner Beauty said:
Thanx for having our backs, we all have yours as well....

The times I've had any BS in public back in the day, was from one brutha (called my ex a sell out) and like 3 young sistas hating (called the dudes I was with a sell out as well), but my friends have had some bullshit happen to them. My friend (BM) was on a date (WW) at an amusement part and a Sista punched the White girl in the face. Then my best friend (BM) was in NY with his ex (WW) and they got called all kind of names walking down the street.

People on here have shared their experiences in random threads....

It's sad that people have so much hate and negativity running through their veins.
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I have had problems out of black women and so did my ex girlfriends. My last serious relationship my ex girlfriend got beat up by these girls in around my neighborhood for no reason. She came around here on Friday night without me know and she got ambushed as soon as she got out the car. I also notice how when we're out black women will stare her down try to intimidate her. But most of the time when saw some shit like that I would mug on em. So I have experienced some things with black women but I haven't had any type of problems out of white men or non black men period. I'm not going to tell you no lies I be waiting for one of them niggas to say something to me or something negative while around.
 
andrae09 said:
But you my friend are fresh meat. Welcome :-D


I liked what you posted and I never knew a lot of you got branded with the damaged goods thing especially by young dudes (you look like you're in your early to mid 20s).
Every girl I've dated never had a problem dating wm or whoever after to me but maybe its because I'm from NY where its more diverse.
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Ha fresh meat huh? lol

The NY thing could be true...although growing up I never once thought I was living in an area of US that is close-minded or racist, once I was finally caught up in an IR relationship I really saw how many people had adopted their parents or grandparents ways of thinking. It is very disheartening to feel like as a young WW anything is possible with my generation....and then realize that there's a lot that hasn't changed in 50 years.
 
StephanieMarie said:
Ha fresh meat huh? lol

The NY thing could be true...although growing up I never once thought I was living in an area of US that is close-minded or racist, once I was finally caught up in an IR relationship I really saw how many people had adopted their parents or grandparents ways of thinking. It is very disheartening to feel like as a young WW anything is possible with my generation....and then realize that there's a lot that hasn't changed in 50 years.
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Are you out in MO?
 
Trey1540 said:
What type of things did they say exactly that made you cut them off?
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A lot of my close guy friends (friends, mind you, that I have known since I was 10 years old) told me that if I ended up having mixed kids that they wouldn't want anything to do with them. That was probably the most hurtful. Other things had to do with just biggotted remarks....dropping the N-word freely when talking about guys I was seeing....making racist jokes and then telling me to "lighten up" when I wouldn't laugh or tell them to keep those jokes to themselves....

The most common thing I've heard from girls and guys alike....even my own SISTER.... "When are you gonna get out of this BLACK phase??"
 
StephanieMarie said:
Yeah Kansas City, MO....no i don't live on a farm....yes there is a real city here. lol Those are normally the next things asked
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The only reason I asked is because my boy lives out in Warrensburgh with his girl and they don't encounter that kind of shit and its a small town. But it may have something to do with her being the stereotypical fat ww dating a bm so no one cares but when a high caliber ww does it it might make people lose their mind.
I've visted out there and got play but maybe because the women knew it would be short term.
 
andrae09 said:
The only reason I asked is because my boy lives out in Warrensburgh with his girl and they don't encounter that kind of shit and its a small town. But it may have something to do with her being the stereotypical fat ww dating a bm so no one cares but when a high caliber ww does it it might make people lose their mind.
I've visted out there and got play but maybe because the women knew it would be short term.
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I gotchu....yeah well Warrensburg is also a college town. It was definitely more accepted when I was going to school in Columbia, MO....maybe because so many young ppl are around doing their thing anyways
 
andrae09 said:
You finding it difficult to meet a good guy now?
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yeah you could say that....being back in KC, it seems like the idea of a BMWW relationship is more of a joke than when I started dating BM in college and lived in Columbia. BM seem to think more of me as just a chick tryin to get it in and go about my business. Kind of tired of it....I have a lot more to offer a relationship than just what's between my legs. Some dudes just don't seem to realize that.
 
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