Differ all you want, that's a stretch.
Observing that wm/bw often - yes often - try to antagonize bm when they're out and about says nothing about why they pair up in the first place.
That part of it is exactly none of my business.
People picking on me because I "catch their eye" sadly becomes my business.
Fact is, wm/bm combos often engage in "the antics" and it doesn't take a whole lot of insight to imagine that it goes on
a lot, even if you're not the target of it. Both groups have something to prove, societal license to do their dirt, a history of hating on bm even when they're not doing it paired up, and would absolutely love for bm to appear to all eyes to be rabidly against their unions
Can't speak for the whole u.s. of a., but that's big in the ny/tri-state area.
It's just another ugly part of the race thing that's taboo for bm to mention. You're whining (or is it jealous? maybe "hypocritical"?) if you do.
But anyway, my initial point on that particular subject was in response to your list of what bw go through when they date white men. My point was:
Most bw who pair up with wm carry themselves more like they WANT people to care about it than the opposite. (yep - just like in the article that bw wrote about how she was "too dark" for bm when she was young and now wants to make ppl's "heads explode" now that she can finally date white men with dignity :roll
That chick in the article is not an outlier. Unfortunately.
My other point was:
To draw an equivalency betw societal response to bm/ww pairings to those of wm/bw pairings at any time in the history of this country is ridiculous and ignores sexual politics that have been going on since before there were even humans walking the planet. To suggest bw/wm experience opposition on the order that bw/ww experience isn't worth hearing
... but that's neither here nor there. Less hate still doesn't make hating on bw/wm okay. That being said, to the extent that women manage to leave me out of their relationships, what they go through (or don't) is really none of my business. It would be nice, however, to not be the "enemy" fools bond over hating on.
I guess that day will come as bw/wm pairings become less new and more normal.
Still not going to carry around any illusions about them tho. Based on my experiences, I've gone from straight up naivety to seeing them as just another part of the race thing. But how can a bm who dates ww say such a thing? Walk in my shoes for a decade or two
And this is a bm who has 2 sisters who were involved with wm (one current) and an ex-gf who's ex before me was white. I have zero issue with wm/bw pairings per se. What I don't like is being targeted and trying to ignore shit, however slight. I want to enjoy being me, not have my good qualities -- being a tall, strong, presentable bm -- end up
maladaptive because they make me "catch the eye" of assholes.
It's a buzz kill. Men don't like being picked on by other men, not even dirty looks, especially not men walking with women. And it's extreeeemely ugly -- even monkeyish -- for bw to participate in that stuff. I'm tempted to say you'd have to be a bm to "get" the disgust, but I'd bet bw and wm understand it too, which is why it goes on. They want to make ppl's "heads explode" :roll:
But anyway, back on topic:
WW are becoming a much better match for decent bm than any other kind of women. They're trending in the direction of warming to us, while bw are arguably trending in the opposite direction. So --to stay on topic -- "once you go white" ... is probably coming true for lots of bm, just based on social trends.
All it takes is one or two good experiences to make ir dating simply "normal" for an individual and dating "your own" as unenticing as dating a sibling. The social trends are the catalyst
