Hello my fellow IR lovers

To the poster that asked for a link to the website: http://lovers-rock.com/ Click on "The Forum" option to read the board rules that I posted in the OP.

That is just the opening page. You'd have to register to actually participate on the forum (and it usually takes about 24 hours before admin allow you to post).

I've been a member of the board for about 4 years now and I must say that, I only recall ONE black female poster that dared to defy the board rules by bashing black men. Let me tell you, ALL the ladies (and a few of the men) on the board ripped her a new one when she got out of line and the moderators eventually banned her for making derogatory, blanket statements about black men.

As far as the forum being an IR fiction site, it is true that IR fiction is the primary theme of the board, but most of the ladies and gents there are either married or dating interracially and we share our personal stories in a family like atmosphere much like this site.

What I don't understand is, how/why some of the people on this particular board tolerate the frequent black women bashing but by the same token, complain about being judged for their choices or preferences in dating outside their race.

Can some of you not see the obvious hypocrisy in that? Or could it be that some of these IR relationships are built off the idea of adversity (imagined or not) and some people actually have no desire for a utopian world where we are all judged by the content of our character?
 
blueskies said:
To the poster that asked for a link to the website: http://lovers-rock.com/ Click on "The Forum" option to read the board rules that I posted in the OP.

That is just the opening page. You'd have to register to actually participate on the forum (and it usually takes about 24 hours before admin allow you to post).

I've been a member of the board for about 4 years now and I must say that, I only recall ONE black female poster that dared to defy the board rules by bashing black men. Let me tell you, ALL the ladies (and a few of the men) on the board ripped her a new one when she got out of line and the moderators eventually banned her for making derogatory, blanket statements about black men.

As far as the forum being an IR fiction site, it is true that IR fiction is the primary theme of the board, but most of the ladies and gents there are either married or dating interracially and we share our personal stories in a family like atmosphere much like this site.

What I don't understand is, how/why some of the people on this particular board tolerate the frequent black women bashing but by the same token, complain about being judged for their choices or preferences in dating outside their race.

Can some of you not see the obvious hypocrisy in that? Or could it be that some of these IR relationships are built off the idea of adversity (imagined or not) and some people actually have no desire for a utopian world where we are all judged by the content of our character?
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Well, since all is right in your world; and your Utopian quest seems to be satisfying on some level - why are you here?
 
Anten7 said:
Yeah, I've had a few bumps... (understatement intended)
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Well, hopefully it'll be a smooth ride from now on...

Anten7 said:
Well, since all is right in your world; and your Utopian quest seems to be satisfying on some level - why are you here?
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I often wonder that about a lot of people who join. We're definitely a HOT topic of many conversations. Be it hate, disapproval or curiosity, so I guess that's why.
 
blueskies said:
What I don't understand is, how/why some of the people on this particular board tolerate the frequent black women bashing but by the same token, complain about being judged for their choices or preferences in dating outside their race.
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One would have to accept that there is Black women bashing on this board, that it is frequent and that the same people who tolerate this bashing get upset over intolerance when it happens to them. I'm not sure if any this is the case, but when intolerance does happen to us, what group do you think is the primary offender? Most of the discussions about Black women were brought up by Black women like yourself....and then months from now another Black woman will read that thread and believe that discourse was somehow indicative about how we feel about Black women. Most of the discussions about Black women are due to the fact Black women are the most vocal in their dislike of our coupling.

Regarding your rules, I wouldn't care if Black men were dogged out all day long. I and others don't care what you think? Which is why many of us wonder why you do care?

blueskies said:
Can some of you not see the obvious hypocrisy in that? Or could it be ....
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I doubt contradictory or hypocritical thoughts are unique to this community, but my prior response in this thread is fitting.

This is not a Harvard debate on the sociological aspects of interracial relationships, nor is anyone asking for a peer review when we post, nor is this the “free and fair” conversation/dialogue with Black women, White men and biracial college students....

We are not the beacons of open mindedness, logic, or fairness and none of us have ever professed to be. You trolls fail when you try to hold us and our relationships to higher moral standards than you would the mono-racial couples. You trolls fail when you try to make us out as hypocrites who are supposedly open minded to one thing, yet close-minded to hearing your bullshit.

This is a message board like any other. We say whatever the hell we want to about anything, brilliant or ignorant (all within the guidelines of this forum), and we will all respond to you as individuals (as we've done in this topic). ........More than likely, it's you trolls who will say or do something to get your asses banned. This site is for White women who like Black men and vice-versa. We don't have to explain WHY?
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Sometimes i wonder

If they are really Black females or someone posing as a Black female. Seriously, why waste the time? I don't visit KKK websites and try to school them on why race mixing is good.
 
jaisee said:
I don't understand the hostility toward blueskies. The fact that she's a black woman is not synonymous with 'troll'. I'm actually quite interested in visiting her forum. Is there some sort of competition between the BM/WW collective and the WM/BW collective that I was not made aware of? Or are we so defensive of our dating preference that any time an 'outsider' shows up here we must sound the alarms and go on the defensive? The highs and lows of interracial dating is not exclusive to WW/BM.

Seems we have one fundamental interest in common... 'interracial attraction'. Why can we not be cordial?

blueskies, if you don't mind maybe you could send me a 'rep' with the URL for your forum?
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Go back and read with that bitch just said and then you'll see why I came off like that.
 
veema said:
Trey, you really do need to speak for yourself and not everyone on the board.


Blueskies, your statement comes across as arrogant, if not a wee bit self-righteous. Let's start from the beginning: Why do you think that us "guys and gals" could take a few pointers from you?
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I'll speak for who the fuck I want. I see right through this skank ass bitch. She here to start some shit and I can insure that's her only purpose for coming here.
 
jaisee said:
Because we share a common interest?
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I don't necessarily see it that way. For instance, Hyenas and Lions also share a common interest - don't they? And yet, I have yet to see an episode of Animal Planet or National Geographic emphasizing how well they get along...
 
Anten7 said:
I don't necessarily see it that way. For instance, Hyenas and Lions also share a common interest - don't they? And yet, I have yet to see an episode of Animal Planet or National Geographic emphasizing how well they get along...
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No, they do not share a common interest.
 
That is as much a common interest as defecation and urination to rid the body of wastes. Those are similarities between the species, nothing more.

Now, if they made the conscious decision to forgo their carnivorous disposition in favor of vegetarianism, one could argue that they now share a common interest.
 
you just lost son

jaisee said:
I did, and I still don't see the big deal. I certainly don't see what she's said or done that warrants being called a bitch.
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Well if she didn't want any problems why did she try to belittle the men and women here right off the top. What makes her think that we need any pointers from her or black women for this site to ran properly? She claimed that her purpose here was to invited the men and women here to visit her site. Yet she didn't even post a link to her site initially. What was her OP about anyway? If you look through the bullshit she basically implied that we are bashing black women here and they don't allow black men bashing on their site. Even though the vast majority of the people here are positive and so are the threads. Basically, this black woman is saying that her site positive and classy while this site is anything but positive. That's why she felt the need to give us some pointers.

Maybe calling her a bitch was out of line. However, I meant exactly what I said about her and the people like her that come here to spew negativity. You can go to any black forum and the majority of black women have nothing but negative shit to say about black men. They spew the most hatred towards us. I would even go as far as saying that they spew more hatred toward black men than white men. I have tons of evidence that will support everything that I'm saying bro. Trust me, I know them a lot better than you do. This bitch is here to start some shit. I don't care how she sugarcoats it. So being so naive cuz and open your eyes to what's really going on.
 
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