Idris Elba On Being A Sex Symbol

The Dark Knight said:
What I find amusing is that when I'm dating a girl or in a relationship they can openly express how great they think men celebrities are but if I did it to the degree they did it "there goes my girl Jennifer Love Hewitt" "Blake Lively is the perfect girl" next thing you know she's sobbing screaming "if you want that pin up model then go get her. I hope you know she's airbrushed and doesn't really look like that"
Ain't double standards grand lol. Carry on with your love fest ladies
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*ding*
 
The Dark Knight said:
Exactly why its a double standard because one party gets too something they would never be ok with the other party doing. What I don't get about insecure women is they get way more worked up about the chick on tv but are ok with hot ass women I work with or see everyday on the street. If you can be ok with everyday women people on tv that I will never meet shouldn't matter. We should all be allowed to have our fantasies.
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That sounds odd to me, but I don't argue that it happens in your life, but in my opinion, insecurity doesn't have different channels when it comes to other women. Some women would see your co-workers or women on the street as a threat just as much as the celebs. Maybe they don't vocalize it, but I just can't see that happening.
 
The Dark Knight said:
Just got a creepy image of the chick from the ring* shudders*
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That came out back when I was living with my last long term boyfriend. TOTALLY freaked him out. He fell asleep that night watching tv, and rather evilly, I put it on a station with nothing but static and raised the volume.

Interesting to watch a man elevate from sound sleeping to clinging to the ceiling that fast ;-)
 
TreePixie said:
That came out back when I was living with my last long term boyfriend. TOTALLY freaked him out. He fell asleep that night watching tv, and rather evilly, I put it on a station with nothing but static and raised the volume.

Interesting to watch a man elevate from sound sleeping to clinging to the ceiling that fast ;-)
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You're pure evil lol
 
Inner Beauty said:
That sounds odd to me, but I don't argue that it happens in your life, but in my opinion, insecurity doesn't have different channels when it comes to other women. Some women would see your co-workers or women on the street as a threat just as much as the celebs. Maybe they don't vocalize it, but I just can't see that happening.
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Because you're a fine little Jewish goddess who knows better
 
The Dark Knight said:
What I find amusing is that when I'm dating a girl or in a relationship they can openly express how great they think men celebrities are but if I did it to the degree they did it "there goes my girl Jennifer Love Hewitt" "Blake Lively is the perfect girl" next thing you know she's sobbing screaming "if you want that pin up model then go get her. I hope you know she's airbrushed and doesn't really look like that"
Ain't double standards grand lol. Carry on with your love fest ladies
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I've known women that get bent out of shape if their men make comments about female celebrities, but I've also known men who get just as upset about their women making comments about male celebrities.


Inner Beauty said:
Not really a double standard, I think that's their insecurity talking, whereas some men could give two shits....
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It's definitely insecurity talking. Why in the world would someone get jealous over their SO thinking a celebrity is attractive? It's silliness IMO.

Inner Beauty said:
That sounds odd to me, but I don't argue that it happens in your life, but in my opinion, insecurity doesn't have different channels when it comes to other women. Some women would see your co-workers or women on the street as a threat just as much as the celebs. Maybe they don't vocalize it, but I just can't see that happening.
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When someone is that insecure, he/she typically sees everyone (celebrity or not) as a threat. I've dealt with a couple of jealous idiots in the past that would flip out over any male that we crossed paths with, & it didn't matter who they were or what they even looked like. I remember an ex bf getting mad at me over some old man (who looked about 90) waving as he passed by us on the highway...a lot of these small town folks around here wave at each other as they pass by. It was funny enough that guy was so old, but even funnier was the fact that he was waving at him & not me.
 
Tamstrong said:
I've known women that get bent out of shape if their men make comments about female celebrities, but I've also known men who get just as upset about their women making comments about male celebrities.




It's definitely insecurity talking. Why in the world would someone get jealous over their SO thinking a celebrity is attractive? It's silliness IMO.



When someone is that insecure, he/she typically sees everyone (celebrity or not) as a threat. I've dealt with a couple of jealous idiots in the past that would flip out over any male that we crossed paths with, & it didn't matter who they were or what they even looked like. I remember an ex bf getting mad at me over some old man (who looked about 90) waving as he passed by us on the highway...a lot of these small town folks around here wave at each other as they pass by. It was funny enough that guy was so old, but even funnier was the fact that he was waving at him & not me.
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Tam that's so anecdotal it's not even funny. It's far more common to see women being allowed to openly lust over men despite having a significant other than it is to see men do it.
Great example to me is Twilight. If we saw middle aged men behaving the same way those twilight moms do over the young actors in that movie there would be a shit storm. It's like IB said men rarely give a fuck.
 
The Dark Knight said:
Tam that's so anecdotal it's not even funny. It's far more common to see women being allowed to openly lust over men despite having a significant other than it is to see men do it.
Great example to me is Twilight. If we saw middle aged men behaving the same way those twilight moms do over the young actors in that movie there would be a shit storm. It's like IB said men rarely give a fuck.
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Which is also anecdotal. My last serious ex flatly refused to see movies with Jude Law in them because he thought I thought Law was sexy. I told him "Love, don't worry about it if I think some guy on the screen is hot. Worry about it when I think the guy sitting at the next desk to me is hot."

He had *such* a thing for Sandra Bullock it was hilarious.
 
The Dark Knight said:
Tam that's so anecdotal it's not even funny. It's far more common to see women being allowed to openly lust over men despite having a significant other than it is to see men do it.
Great example to me is Twilight. If we saw middle aged men behaving the same way those twilight moms do over the young actors in that movie there would be a shit storm. It's like IB said men rarely give a fuck.
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It's just as anecdotal as your post, Drae. It's not like either of us are talking about a conclusion drawn by scientific analysis or something. People typically talk about things from a personal point of view from their observations & experiences in life, which means a great deal of what folks say is anecdotal. You have your observations & experiences just like I have mine; just because they aren't the same doesn't mean one is more valid than the other.

TreePixie said:
Which is also anecdotal. My last serious ex flatly refused to see movies with Jude Law in them because he thought I thought Law was sexy. I told him "Love, don't worry about it if I think some guy on the screen is hot. Worry about it when I think the guy sitting at the next desk to me is hot."

He had *such* a thing for Sandra Bullock it was hilarious.
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Exactly. I've dealt with that mess before & I've known men & women whose SO didn't "allow" for them to watch certain actors or be around certain people they thought they'd find or did find attractive.
 
Tamstrong said:
Exactly. I've dealt with that mess before & I've known men & women whose SO didn't "allow" for them to watch certain actors or be around certain people they thought they'd find or did find attractive.
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Silliness. The whole "allow" thing would be a deal breaker for me in any area. I'm not a child. If you have a monogamous relationship, it's based on trusting your partner won't stray. If you think they'll stray just because they see an attractive person, you don't have much trust in them.
 
TreePixie said:
Silliness. The whole "allow" thing would be a deal breaker for me in any area. I'm not a child. If you have a monogamous relationship, it's based on trusting your partner won't stray. If you think they'll stray just because they see an attractive person, you don't have much trust in them.
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Agreed. It's a deal breaker for me too. Fuck that shit...I'm a grown woman so I don't need a man to be my dad, & I damn sure don't need an owner. If there's no trust there's no relationship, & there's no point in wasting your time with that person. That level of insecurity is pathetic.
 
Ok wonder twins. If you guys say so. I've yet to hear any man get bent out of shape over shit like that. Our insecurities are far more about money. Now if a SO was to come home and tell me about much her friend's husband was making and how envious she is of them for being able to do more then you might see a little envy pop up but her wanting another guy wouldn't phase me in the slightest. Because the truth is men are very aware of the fact that our women can get dick at anytime of the day and twice on Tuesday so them ogling other men means nothing. Her being impressed by his success or things now that I can understand.
 
The Dark Knight said:
Ok wonder twins. If you guys say so. I've yet to hear any man get bent out of shape over shit like that. Our insecurities are far more about money. Now if a SO was to come home and tell me about much her friend's husband was making and how envious she is of them for being able to do more then you might see a little envy pop up but her wanting another guy wouldn't phase me in the slightest. Because the truth is men are very aware of the fact that our women can get dick at anytime of the day and twice on Tuesday so them ogling other men means nothing. Her being impressed by his success or things now that I can understand.
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LOL Maybe it's an age thing...but a guy would have *way* more to worry about if some guy's looks had me drooling than if he had money. I've got my own money, but I don't have my own dick ;-)
 
TreePixie said:
LOL Maybe it's an age thing...but a guy would have *way* more to worry about if some guy's looks had me drooling than if he had money. I've got my own money, but I don't have my own dick ;-)
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Good point. I guess I deal without a lot of chicks who don't have money so thats what they're concerned about and one day I won't have my devilish good looks to fall back on lol:cool:
 
Tamstrong said:
I've known women that get bent out of shape if their men make comments about female celebrities, but I've also known men who get just as upset about their women making comments about male celebrities.




It's definitely insecurity talking. Why in the world would someone get jealous over their SO thinking a celebrity is attractive? It's silliness IMO.



When someone is that insecure, he/she typically sees everyone (celebrity or not) as a threat. I've dealt with a couple of jealous idiots in the past that would flip out over any male that we crossed paths with, & it didn't matter who they were or what they even looked like. I remember an ex bf getting mad at me over some old man (who looked about 90) waving as he passed by us on the highway...a lot of these small town folks around here wave at each other as they pass by. It was funny enough that guy was so old, but even funnier was the fact that he was waving at him & not me.
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It is very silly. I can understand being jealous of someone attainable, but a celeb, nah!

LOL @ getting jealous over gramps

I never had any dude get jealous like that. My friends ex was jealous of our friendship and I tried to get to know her, but she wouldn't let me. I wanted to show her I wasn't a threat, but she didn't want to.
 
sexy sexy...love his voice and accent...how did we go from talking about how sexy this man is and how we would let him eat crackers in our beds to the insecurity of a few men that decided to pop into this thread to talk about something other than how sexy sexy this man is...ooooo lala...i'm with sin...fainting in his presence;)
 
Inner Beauty said:
It is very silly. I can understand being jealous of someone attainable, but a celeb, nah!

LOL @ getting jealous over gramps

I never had any dude get jealous like that. My friends ex was jealous of our friendship and I tried to get to know her, but she wouldn't let me. I wanted to show her I wasn't a threat, but she didn't want to.
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That sucks, and I've been there. My most recent longtime ex and I are still very good friends - you don't spend 8 years with someone you don't really like. But his current on again/off again girlfriend is totally freaked out by me even though I'm 2000 miles away. I hear from him frequently in their "off again" times, and not all all in their "on again" times.

I think she might be a bit of an airhead anyway, when she found out I have MS she sent me an email saying she knew exactly what it was like because she had a hairline fracture in her arm once. :smt043
 
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