Is being possessive in a black mans 'nature'?

Never ask a woman is the pussy is yours while you are fucking her...She may respond while grunting "No, you dont know him!!!!" I'm just saying...

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Glassesgirl2 said:
Forgive me if this has been adressed, I read pages 1-8 and my ADD kicked in. This is just an observation turned possible discussion point. 3 of the 4 black men I've been with have asked me during sex "is this my pussy?" I've never had a white guy ask me that. In the heat of the moment, you're damn right it is, but afterward I kinda want to say..."you know this is MY pussy, right?" I haven't really chalked it up to ethnicity, culture, gender or even personality. Hadn't really given it much thought until this thread. Thoughts and comments are welcome - tongue lashings...I suppose I'm game; where else can I come and be so honest, naive, inquisative and vulnerable if not here?
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I remember once a woman screamed "tell me this is your pussy" and i repeated "this is your pussy" smh
 
falcon said:
Never ask a woman is the pussy is yours while you are fucking her...She may respond while grunting "No, you dont know him!!!!" I'm just saying...

Have a Great Day....Better yet have two great days and give one away....The Joy of Giving
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LMAO!
I know I'm going to sound like a ditzy blonde, but this is too funny not to share. One guy asked me if anyone else had been "up in here" I thought he meant my bedroom bc it's on the second floor. To which I replied "yeah, Tman" who is my son (6) (he knows that what I call him) Hip action stops and he looks at me with disgust and says "What?" "Yeah, I let him sleep up here sometimes on the weekends" "NO, up in HERE" and I get a mighty thrust. "oooooohhh, No" and game back on like nothing happened. He's never asked that question again.
 
Glassesgirl2 said:
LMAO!
I know I'm going to sound like a ditzy blonde, but this is too funny not to share. One guy asked me if anyone else had been "up in here" I thought he meant my bedroom bc it's on the second floor. To which I replied "yeah, Tman" who is my son (and he knows that what I call him) Hip action stops and he looks at me with disgust and says "What?" "Yeah, I let him sleep up here sometimes on the weekends" "NO, up in HERE" and I get a mighty thrust. "oooooohhh, No" and game back on like nothing happened. He never asked that question again.
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You are still right though!

Tman has been up in there lol....

disgusting but true
 
free816 said:
You know I'm guilty of asking that question myself, sorry don't have a answer, maybe I assumed other men asked as well lol,
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and your assumption is right? So, just out of curiosity...any interesting responses to that question? I'm pretty sure I've asked "is this my dick?" back...again, heat of the moment....he could say "go cook me some bacon, bitch" and I'd probably respond with gritted teeth, "Hickory smoked or plain" lol
 
luvattractivewomen said:
I am pretty sure that is just bed talk ma'am. We all say things in the bedroom that are meant for intimacy and not necessarily for outside of the bedroom. I doubt you walk around thinking and yelling "Fuck Me Harder" while making dinner, going to work, and using the toilet. Then again... I could be wrong.
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Not sure I get the analogy, but I get what you're saying. Maybe a little like when I answer yes to the question is this the biggest dick you've ever had. It's said to enhance the moment and hopefully never to be really discussed outside the context of that activity.

In the spirit of the thread - which I don't know if I really agree with or like...but I appreciate the opportunity to discuss ideas and debunk myths - I guess I was wondering in hindsight if this was a way of saying "I don't want to share you with anyone" and not in what I would consider a possessive way, but more of a I don't just want to be FWB. Ughhh I'm giving this way more thought than I want to now. : ) We're leaving it at bedroom talk!

Thank you, Sir! I almost slipped into overthinking mode. :-?
 
Alexis89 said:
I've been seeing my guy for about 6 months and things are pretty serious for having been together for such a short time. Things have been magical for the most part, but several months in I started to see a really possessive side to him.

I expressed to him that if he was jealous of everything that it showed that he doesnt believe in me and his response was that its 'just in a black mans nature to want ownership of his woman'. In some ways I really like his dominance because i feel protected and femme and I gotta admit that its kinda hot how he refers to my tits/pussy/ass as 'his'... as long as he doesn't actually believe that.

Of course this is not true for everyone, but is this true for you?
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Glassesgirl2 said:
Not sure I get the analogy, but I get what you're saying. Maybe a little like when I answer yes to the question is this the biggest dick you've ever had. It's said to enhance the moment and hopefully never to be really discussed outside the context of that activity.

In the spirit of the thread - which I don't know if I really agree with or like...but I appreciate the opportunity to discuss ideas and debunk myths - I guess I was wondering in hindsight if this was a way of saying "I don't want to share you with anyone" and not in what I would consider a possessive way, but more of a I don't just want to be FWB. Ughhh I'm giving this way more thought than I want to now. : ) We're leaving it at bedroom talk!

Thank you, Sir! I almost slipped into overthinking mode. :-?
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I have a habit of doing that ma'am. No worries.
 
Glassesgirl2 said:
LMAO!
I know I'm going to sound like a ditzy blonde, but this is too funny not to share. One guy asked me if anyone else had been "up in here" I thought he meant my bedroom bc it's on the second floor. To which I replied "yeah, Tman" who is my son (6) (he knows that what I call him) Hip action stops and he looks at me with disgust and says "What?" "Yeah, I let him sleep up here sometimes on the weekends" "NO, up in HERE" and I get a mighty thrust. "oooooohhh, No" and game back on like nothing happened. He's never asked that question again.
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:smt043:smt043:smt043
 
Being overly possessive is a sign of being insecure, threatened by other guys or distrusting your woman to me. I understand why people who have been cheated on can be possesive though..
 
That is a good question. As human beings, once one has something that is of value to that person, it is guarded. An attractive woman is different. An attractive white, Latina, Asian, or other exotic woman is, I think, a little complicated especially if that man has not been with her before. That man knows that he has a good thing with this woman and she makes him feel good being with him. He does not want to lose what he has found because this woman is confident enough to leave him. I think possessiveness is not exclusive to black men, but in all men regardless of race.
 
These days I don't know, but traditionally brothas naturally feel dominant and aggressive. A go getter. This might be a touchy subject for women, because as I'm sure you ladies don't want to feel like your spirit is not in your hands. I've been called controlling, and I've also been loved for being a "real man." I think the real issue is staying with a person that doesn't meet your expectations.... not a good idea. Some women love having this kind of man, some despise it. Some women have too many opinions from other women on their mind. I take a sense of responsibility, and can see what my woman cant see, vice versa. The women that thought I was controlling, didn't really have my back in the first place. I notice that some women don't like this behavior from her man when really she isn't so in love with him. A woman deeply in love with her man doesn't tend to be bothered by this issue. Just my opinions...
 
I don't know. My boyfriend is the only black guy I've dated seriously, and he's just not a very jealous person.

I do not take this to mean he doesn't care, I take it to mean he's confident in himself and he's not worried about losing me to some random guy because he knows I love him and not anyone else (and I do). It's also a sign of respect to me, because he trusts that I'm not just some strumpet who will leave him when the next macho guy flexes his muscles at me.

I find jealousy very unattractive.
 
If you're just a jump off I dont give a fuck what you do when we're not together.
But if we're in a real relationship that's exclusive and you're acting shady then hell yes I'm jealous!

I just don't like game playing. We fuck other people OR we are exclusive physically and emotionally.

If you are in a serious relationship, there is no such thing as harmless flirting IMO.

Thats really just testing the waters to see if you can get some or if there's a mutual attraction.
Fine if you're single....
 
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