I was being too liberal with my wording. As someone who doesn't believe in violence, I always say to use your words not hands, hell, my children have never been spanked.
What I know is this, I teach my son that hitting his sister is not acceptable EVER, not because she is a girl, but because she is his sister and physical violence is wrong. I don't say to him you can't hit girls because they are girls, I say to him that you do not fix conflict with violence. I will say however when he is older, if he runs into a situation where he is being physically harmed and there is no way he can get out of the situation but to fight back, then fight back. Doesn't matter whàt the sex of the person is, do what is necessary to get out of it and get to safety.
If a woman is stupid enough to go a man or another woman with her fist and start physical violence then she shouldn't be surprised at it coming back at her. Period. Self defence is just that, self defence.
From what I've seen on YouTube videos out there, I've seen enough to know violence is on the up and up and it's not just males who are initiating shit. These females need to know that just because they are females it doesn't give them a special pass to punch and then act surprised when a punch comes back.