How long did you stay in Stockholm? The first time I went in september 2000, I just stay 10 days so nothing much happened. But then I came back for summer 2001 and stayed 3 months(with a few weeks also spent in Brussels) and things were completely different. More time gave me more opportunities
As far as the brothers needing to live large or be famous to get attention from Swedish girls, that's a little surprising because I think Sweden is the country in Europe that welcomes the most immigrants from Africa. , I saw a lot of Africans who were by no means famous or living large in very good company on the streets, in night clubs etc. I met several people from both Congo and they couldn't complain. A lot of Swedish girls even travel as far as The Gambia in West Africa and look for those hulking and very dark Gambians as mates. Some mary them and even bring them back home to Sweden have babies. I heard stories about Swedish girls also going to Tunisia etc. So you see, they go to places where brothers are rich.
So I would still say that based on my experience, those of my friends and hearsay, Sweden is a much better market for IR than the United States. Maybe you should try smaller town like Gotenborg, Helsinborg or Malmo etc.
I will try to visit Denmark, I've heard so many tales there. My big sister's best friend(a white guy) lives there, so I already have a wingman I can rely on.