New and curious

[Gorath]

I knew this guy who worked with this chick who was married and she decided she had the hots for black men. She ended up getting with someone to play on the side and then had a couple of 3somes with the guy and his friend. She got knocked up, didn't know which one was the father (her husband had a vasectomy) she stayed with the husband and they raised the kid.

Ok I just have to laugh at your use of the term "Lifestyle" Gorath.....for most of us, it's not a fetish, cuckholder/swinter stuff, or like BDSM, being gay or trans. I'm sure most of us (especially those of us who are older) have dealt with being someone's "experiment" at one point or another. I certainly don't consider my preference for black men or that I have an IR family to be a "lifestyle". Lifestyle typically depicts something outside the norm.

I have always thought of interracial dating as a lifestyle. I didn't imply that it had anything to do with fetish, swinging, cuckoldry and the like.

 

[K]

This chick needs to

I have always thought of interracial dating as a lifestyle. I didn't imply that it had anything to do with fetish, swinging, cuckoldry and the like.

Yah...that's REALLY a turnoff. Check Madeline's response. We are living our lives and have families...nothing unusual about it. My children aren't part of a "lifestyle", or a product of one.

Lifestyle is a term that is routinely used for people who are doing something like I described. Many of them will gladly say they are part of the "lifestyle". I've heard people say things such as oh well yes but she's not "in the lifestyle" or "he's been in the lifestyle for 20 years now"....or whatever. It's a very common term used in particular sexual "lifestyles". I don't think it's a good idea to use it in regards to IR - it feeds the crap we don't want to be adding to.

 

[Madeleine]

I have always thought of interracial dating as a lifestyle. I didn't imply that it had anything to do with fetish, swinging, cuckoldry and the like.

Well...maybe for some it's a lifestyle and they are playing it like a game. For me it's just the way my life went. Anyone who is in a serious interracial relationship is living real life, not indulging in jungle fever or whatever.