New, but glad I found the site

mikesandy said:
I agree with you, Lippy. I'm just crossing my fingers hoping that webmaster can figure something out soon before some kind of troll invasion occurs throughout the site.
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Loki said:
Trolls will always come and go, the awesome power of IR will always stir people to emotional responses both positive and negative. The trolls never last long and they give the more intelligent and articulate of our regular members a good laugh when they use logic, reason, and facts to humiliate the trolls.
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i hope you both didn't misunderstand...i don't think that she is a troll...i think she is a married woman that is cheating on her husband...the person she is cheating with just happens to be black...that scenario brought her here to find out more about black men...her main focus may be sexual right now...would you all feel differently if she was more involved with this man on an emotional level...most relationships now start with some type of attraction...more times than not it is sexual desire and/or lust that kick off relationships...
 
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lipstick said:
i hope you both didn't misunderstand...i don't think that she is a troll...i think she is a married woman that is cheating on her husband...the person she is cheating with just happens to be black...that scenario brought her here to find out more about black men...her main focus may be sexual right now...would you all feel differently if she more involved with this man on an emotional level...most relatinships now start with some type of attraction...more times than not it is sexual desire and/or lust that kick off relationships...
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I hear what you are saying Lippy, however I am just VERY suspicious of hyper sexual postings from newbies. She made sure to tell us all how good the sex was in her first post, not anything about him as a person, intellect, personality, ect. In other words nothing real, just base, prurient lusting. We all know the stereotypes of the big Black buck, and the "only" reason White women are with Black men is for the sex BS. That is how she came across to me.
 
welcome

and as others have said here, i know of bm married to bw and bm married to asian women who are here. let's not chase people through the village with the pitchforks and burn them at the stake before it's necessary.
 
Loki said:
I hear what you are saying Lippy, however I am just VERY suspicious of hyper sexual postings from newbies. She made sure to tell us all how good the sex was in her first post, not anything about him as a person, intellect, personality, ect. In other words nothing real, just base, prurient lusting. We all know the stereotypes of the big Black buck, and the "only" reason White women are with Black men is for the sex BS. That is how she came across to me.
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I know you're not talking to me, but I share your same sentiments Loki. It's not just this newbie, but a lot of the other "posters" who don't understand the reality of being in IR. This is not a joke and we're not here to be fetishized.
 
karmacoma. said:
Hey, life's a bitch, peeps do what they do. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones IMO
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Agreed.

Tho I disagree with her stance that she is looking for side shag while still married, I do not know her circumstances, so who the fuck am I to judge?
 
Inner Beauty said:
I know you're not talking to me, but I share your same sentiments Loki. It's not just this newbie, but a lot of the other "posters" who don't understand the reality of being in IR. This is not a joke and we're not here to be fetishized.
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So true. :smt023
 
Loki said:
I hear what you are saying Lippy, however I am just VERY suspicious of hyper sexual postings from newbies. She made sure to tell us all how good the sex was in her first post, not anything about him as a person, intellect, personality, ect. In other words nothing real, just base, prurient lusting. We all know the stereotypes of the big Black buck, and the "only" reason White women are with Black men is for the sex BS. That is how she came across to me.
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i understand what you are saying...i bet you anything she thought we were all going to embrace her for finally going black...she should have looked around for a bit to see the pulse of the sight...the ebb and flow of this sight comes down to the tolerance of it's core regular posters...
 
Tamstrong said:
So true. :smt023
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It's not just fetishism either. It's like they come here for some type of thrill or to get off (in more ways than one) with either BM/WW.

Let them actually date one of us and see how it really is. Fuck hiding behind closed doors.

I don't find dudes worshiping WW as some sort of compliment nor do I like WW using BM as some dick on a stick.

SMH....

Like the song says, "It's Hard Out Here For a Pimp", shit, it's hard out here to date IR...lol
 
Inner Beauty said:
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It's not just fetishism either. It's like they come here for some type of thrill or to get off (in more ways than one) with either BM/WW.

Let them actually date one of us and see how it really is. Fuck hiding behind closed doors.

I don't find dudes worshiping WW as some sort of compliment nor do I like WW using BM as some dick on a stick.

SMH....

Like the song says, "It's Hard Out Here For a Pimp", shit, it's hard out here to date IR...lol
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I feel you 100%. That's one of the reasons why those of us who are serious have such a hard time being taken seriously. It's frustrating & depressing.
 
Inner Beauty said:
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It's not just fetishism either. It's like they come here for some type of thrill or to get off (in more ways than one) with either BM/WW.

Let them actually date one of us and see how it really is. Fuck hiding behind closed doors.

I don't find dudes worshiping WW as some sort of compliment nor do I like WW using BM as some dick on a stick.

SMH....

Like the song says, "It's Hard Out Here For a Pimp", shit, it's hard out here to date IR...lol
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Well stated!!!!!:smt023
 
JuileM said:
I have been married for 10 years, married when was 21, too young, but we have a child and I do not want him to go through a split up, yea that maybe for the wrong reasons, but that is my choice. My husband does not know.
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What are you supposed to do is break up the family structure of you child. that's what you are supposed to do. That way you can do what want, and make sure YOU are happy irrespective the pain your children might go through.

You are doing it wrong [/sarcasm]

...I will say this your intent might be admirable; however, eventually the truth always come out. There generally only two ways this can end.

1. You end it with ole boy after your fling has run its course
2. You get caught and its ended for you

...but what's wrong with your husband. What are you missing that he is not providing?
 
Tamstrong said:
I feel you 100%. That's one of the reasons why those of us who are serious have such a hard time being taken seriously. It's frustrating & depressing.
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I agree with you, Loki, IB, Lippy and few others I can't remember. But where do you draw the line tho? Like some pointed out there are folks who are married and want a side shag, there're folks who are single and don't mind to be shagged by married individuals. Additionally, there are folks who never dated IR and probably wont and posting, so where do you draw the line? Sometimes you can't really blame the newbie joining and immediately looking for sex coz some of our threads goes borderline to that nature, so newbies sometimes can take the place as a meat market. I know 2 WW who are married to BM and were looking for a site to join and I suggested this, they came, surf and said NO.
 
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UnChosen 1 said:
I agree with you, Loki, IB, Lippy and few others I can't remember. But where do you draw the line tho. Like some pointed out there are folks who are married and want a side shag, there folks who are single and don't mind to be shagged by married individuals. There are folks who never dated IR and probably wont and posting, so where do you draw the line. Sometimes you can't really blame the newbie joining and immediately looking for sex coz some of our threads goes borderline to that nature, so newbies sometimes can take the place as a meat market. I know 2 WW who are married to BM and were looking for a site to join and I suggested this, they came, surf and said NO.
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I know you directed your post to Tam, but like I said, this is not something to be taken lightly. We're down for the cause so-to-speak and these people want to get a free ride off of our hard work. Fuck that! Granted some people don't mind being someones IR sidepiece, but for those who genuinely date IR, it's an insult. Then there are those people who have some sort of interest in us like we're some (social) science experiment, I say fuck off! Let them have a Pepsi can thrown at their asses. Why be here if you're not in an IR? Why come here to get your jollies off? We're not some type of mockery.
 
Inner Beauty said:
I know you directed your post to Tam, but like I said, this is not something to be taken lightly. We're down for the cause so-to-speak and these people want to get a free ride off of our hard work. Fuck that! Granted some people don't mind being someones IR sidepiece, but for those who genuinely date IR, it's an insult. Then there are those people who have some sort of interest in us like we're some (social) science experiment, I say fuck off! Let them have a Pepsi can thrown at their asses. Why be here if you're not in an IR? Why come here to get your jollies off? We're not some type of mockery.
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IB agreed 100 %, but that's life I guess.
 
Here is my query.

- if you say these people just come here to get there rocks off.
- to me that means they want attention
- and you give them that attention
- carrying a thread two +pages
- giving them 100% of what they wanted
- doesn't it make you sheep?
- why not just ignore them wont' they go away?
- then again you might find that some people are truly interested and what better place to be?

...oh maybe I am just thinking too much about it.

As the man married to an Asian woman....but dating white women.
 
Inner Beauty said:
I know you directed your post to Tam, but like I said, this is not something to be taken lightly. We're down for the cause so-to-speak and these people want to get a free ride off of our hard work. Fuck that! Granted some people don't mind being someones IR sidepiece, but for those who genuinely date IR, it's an insult. Then there are those people who have some sort of interest in us like we're some (social) science experiment, I say fuck off! Let them have a Pepsi can thrown at their asses. Why be here if you're not in an IR? Why come here to get your jollies off? We're not some type of mockery.
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Ymra said:
...but what's wrong with your husband. What are you missing that he is not providing?
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YMRA why are you asking this question when you are engaging in the same behavior? Does your wife know that you "date"?
 
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