Polygamy

archangel said:
There isn't 4 women for every man. There isn't even 2 women for every man.
That's from the guy point of view.

From a woman's point of view.
You are sharing resources. A man that is married to two women will never be able to be as accommodating as he would be to one woman. meaning he can't be in two spots at once.


The irony in this question is that the divorce rate is high with one marriage let alone two. Folks can't even handle one marriage now you want to add another.
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What about all three in one spot?
 
archangel said:
There isn't 4 women for every man. There isn't even 2 women for every man.
That's from the guy point of view.

From a woman's point of view.
You are sharing resources. A man that is married to two women will never be able to be as accommodating as he would be to one woman. meaning he can't be in two spots at once.


The irony in this question is that the divorce rate is high with one marriage let alone two. Folks can't even handle one marriage now you want to add another.
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You are assuming that every man actually likes women
 
I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone involved are adults. Could I do it? Depends. I have a hard time with being "present" in relationships. I like my solitude. So the women involved would have to be secure and not too needy unless it won't work. But, of course, the same can be said for my monogamous relationship, too.

This thread reminds me of a theory I had a few years back; there are always women who don't mind being a side chick. There are also women who don't mind their men seeing other women as long as he keeps it out of her face. There are women who don't mind if their men step out as long as he is honest with her and keeps her at number one. I think, in another time and place, these are the types of women who would be in a polygamous marriage. But, our customs and laws prevent that from happening and shoe horns them into three not so neat boxes.

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Married
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I do not think these women are weak. I do not think these women are strong. I just think these women see, and feel, the concept of marriage differently than many of us. Just as there are women who need the company of their men daily, there are women who like thier space. So, sharing a man works for them because they don't have to be that man's everything. Yet, they still have the love and security of that man. In reality, a few days a week works for them. Doesn't mean they love that man any less. Doesn't mean they aren't faithful to that man. Just means they don't require that man's sole attention to feel loved and happy in that relationship.
 
Amazing post.

samson1701 said:
I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone involved are adults. Could I do it? Depends. I have a hard time with being "present" in relationships. I like my solitude. So the women involved would have to be secure and not too needy unless it won't work. But, of course, the same can be said for my monogamous relationship, too.

This thread reminds me of a theory I had a few years back; there are always women who don't mind being a side chick. There are also women who don't mind their men seeing other women as long as he keeps it out of her face. There are women who don't mind if their men step out as long as he is honest with her and keeps her at number one. I think, in another time and place, these are the types of women who would be in a polygamous marriage. But, our customs and laws prevent that from happening and shoe horns them into three not so neat boxes.

Single
Married
Home wrecker

I do not think these women are weak. I do not think these women are strong. I just think these women see, and feel, the concept of marriage differently than many of us. Just as there are women who need the company of their men daily, there are women who like thier space. So, sharing a man works for them because they don't have to be that man's everything. Yet, they still have the love and security of that man. In reality, a few days a week works for them. Doesn't mean they love that man any less. Doesn't mean they aren't faithful to that man. Just means they don't require that man's sole attention to feel loved and happy in that relationship.
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Morning Star said:
Amazing post.
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true that, sexually it sounds fun, financially it sounds crippling and politically it sounds like hell.

if i could have one main chic for a deep emotional connection and a couple of side chics that dont mind if i dont see them for a month or two at a stretch , and everyone is cool with the arrangement that'll be just perfect but i gotta be realistic, its extremely unlikely
 
As long as it's allowed for both genders, I don't see why it's anyone's business. In practice though, doesn't it tend to negatively impact women?
 
I don't think this is a problem in terms of sex lives, but it might become an issue with division of property, etc
 
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