Sandra Bullock's real life "MICHEAL"

She's been trying to adopt for awhile now, sometimes shit happens all at once. Would you rather the adoption have gone through with Jesse still in her life? Maybe shit happens for a reason.... Some kid needed a Jesse free environment.
 
xoxo said:
She's been trying to adopt for awhile now, sometimes shit happens all at once. Would you rather the adoption have gone through with Jesse still in her life? Maybe shit happens for a reason.... Some kid needed a Jesse free environment.
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Exactly. I'd rep you if I could. :smt023
 
andrae09 said:
Its very possible for people to have racist people in their life and not be racist. My dad hates white people but it has no baring on how my mom treats people. Sometimes you don't find out how they are until its too late.
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NO, NO, NO! It is never too late to get away from a racist I can see if
its yo daddy or yo mama, then it would be difficult distancing yourself yes.
Now trouble and hard to let someone go because they are racist YES, but
letting them go in the end is the right thing to do. I dont get people that
tolerates a racist, to me those are people that need to watch ROOTS again
:lol:
 
His Own Words: Jesse James Reacts to Divorce Filing

http://www.people.com/people/package/article/0,,20364464_20364645,00.html

As Sandra Bullock shares her decision to file for divorce from husband Jesse James and adopt son Louis as a single mom, James tells PEOPLE he has a "huge hole" in his heart, but understands:

"My whole life has been full of hard decisions.

"The decision to let my wife end our marriage, and continue the adoption of Louis on her own, has been the hardest. The love I have for Louis cannot be put to words. Not having him around to love and to hold has left a huge hole in my heart.

"Sandy is the love of my life, but considering the pain and devastation I have caused her, it would be selfish to not let her go. Right now it is time for me to beat this addiction that has taken two of the things I love the most in life.

"I have always taken great pride in proving people wrong. That time has come once again to show that I am not what everyone says I am. I know in my heart that I can be the best father possible to my four children, and the mate Sandy deserves, and realize that this is an incredible mountain to climb. But I believe that the steps I have taken in the last 30 days are the foundation for making this happen. The lifelong commitment I am making is what being a real husband and father is all about.

"I ask that you please do not judge Sandy for the things I have done. She has done no wrong. She played no part in any of this. She has been an amazing wife, mother, and best friend, for the over 6 years we have been together."

:shock:
 
kenny_g said:
NO, NO, NO! It is never too late to get away from a racist I can see if
its yo daddy or yo mama, then it would be difficult distancing yourself yes.
Now trouble and hard to let someone go because they are racist YES, but
letting them go in the end is the right thing to do. I dont get people that
tolerates a racist, to me those are people that need to watch ROOTS again
:lol:
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Yeah but in the case of my mom by the time my dad showed his true colors they were married with a kid on the way. And sorry to break it to you most people like in all things don't see someone being a racist as long as they aren't fanatical about it. Trust me fam I doubt if you dated a white chick who didn't like Mexicans you'd be ok as long as she liked your black ass.
Real talk quote me lol
 
chicity said:
Part of me thinks: How wonderful, that after all this, there will be love in her life, and she can focus on her new life raising this little boy instead of all the heartbreak around her.

....But another, possibly wiser, possibly just more cynical part of me thinks that if you're a Celebrity whose ex has been exposed making the Hitler heil, revealing that you have a secret Black baby is a very tactical pr move.
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This is the first thing we've ever agreed one. I wondered what they were hatching when she went missing. It took her 4 weeks rather than 4 years to adopt a Black child...who is she fooling? Jesse could never father a Black son when he has his own and it's clear what he is.
 
porcelainsnowbird said:
This is the first thing we've ever agreed one. I wondered what they were hatching when she went missing. It took her 4 weeks rather than 4 years to adopt a Black child...who is she fooling? Jesse could never father a Black son when he has his own and it's clear what he is.
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Wow did you guys even see the movie she got the Oscar for?
Maybe preparing for that role and seeing the love that family had for that orphaned kid and seeing the shit orphaned black kids in this country go through inspired her wanting to adopt a black child and notice it was a boy like she had in her movie. Filming in third world is what made Angelina adopt out there. Damn quick to jump to the race card huh people.
Go ahead beat my logic.
 
andrae09 said:
How so? Elaborate for me.
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I'm a tad distracted, so let me instead be lazy and post some thoughts someone else wrote that ring true to me:


Another poor, massive, uneducated African-American teenager lumbers onto screens this month, two weeks after Precious and obviously timed as a pre-Thanksgiving-dinner lesson in the Golden Rule. But unlike the howling rage of Claireece Precious Jones, The Blind Side's Michael "Big Mike" Oher (Quinton Aaron) is mute, docile, and ever-grateful to the white folks who took him in. Directed by John Lee Hancock and based on a true story recounted in Michael Lewis's 2006 book of the same name, Blind Side the movie peddles the most insidious kind of racism, one in which whiteys are virtuous saviors, coming to the rescue of African-Americans who become superfluous in narratives that are supposed to be about them.
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Viewers, however, are constantly reminded of the pathologies the black gentle giant has escaped: the crack-addicted mother ("I can't even remember who the boy's father is," she weeps to Leigh Anne), the thugs of the country-ghetto housing project who offer him a 40-ouncer. Life with benevolent white people gives Michael the golden opportunity to partake in one of the most patronizing, we-are-the-world scenes imaginable: dueting with S.J. on "Bust a Move."
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In every scene, Oher is instructed, lectured, comforted, or petted like a big puppy; he is merely a cipher (Aaron has, at most, two pages of dialogue), the vehicle through which the kind-hearted but imperfect whites surrounding him are made saintlier. "Am I a good person?" Leigh Anne asks Sean non-rhetorically—as if every second in this film weren't devoted to canonizing her.
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The filmmakers would like to lull you to sleep with this milk of amnesia, hiding behind the fact that this bewilderingly condescending movie is based on an actual person—but one who you end up knowing almost nothing about.
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http://www.villagevoice.com/2009-11-17/film/saintly-white-people-do-the-saving-in-the-blind-side/
 
chicity said:
I'm a tad distracted, so let me instead be lazy and post some thoughts someone else wrote that ring true to me:












http://www.villagevoice.com/2009-11-17/film/saintly-white-people-do-the-saving-in-the-blind-side/
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Here's where I disagree unlike precious the movie was based on real people who endorsed the hell out of this movie. This actually happened so it wasn't like someone wrote a script capitalizing on the pain of the ghetto as an outside observer. Would have been better if the family who did it were like the Huxtables? Or if the kid they took in was white? If the child would have been white there would have been people complaining that the film had to find a good looking white character to drive the story furthering the idea black problems pale in comparison to whites ie child abduction.
It was a decent movie and she did a good job.
 
chicity said:
Actually that movie seemed a little racially creepy & degrading to me, so I didn't see it.
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I have heard that statement before but here is something to think about:

1) it could hold true to a point in that it is the great white savior thang but who patronizing it ?

2) Who's fault is it that the movie with this theme is played over and over again ?

3) what about precious ? i didnt see it but people stated that it was a vile thang on BF

4) how about hustle and flow ? N***s being pimps and rappers and the theme song saying its tuff for a pimp . wtf . its tuff being an honest BM, who cares about the drug dealer and the pimp who is destroying our communities but we are showing love to them and that movie.


I would rather watch the great white savior movie versus the thug-a-lious , the goodtimes look a like and so called gospel plays with a paragraphed long named like YOUR ARMS ARE TOO SHORT TO BOX WITH GOD.

Give me a G-d Da*n break players
 
Loki said:
Fair enough, glad to see the baby getting a chance with a mother that loves him and has the resources to give him a great life, I just hate to see no father in the child's life. Fathers are every bit as important as mothers and whenever I see a famous single mom adopting I believe it does send a little bit of a mixed message regarding the need for fathers.
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A very wise friend of mine once made the point that while a kid may be better off with a dad, fathers this day in age are very rarely one central man in a child's life. The man who is with the mother is usually more of a father to the child than the biological father (or first adoptive father).

This little guy is so young all he cares about right now is Mom, Mom, Mom, and more MOM! No one else exists for him right now, at least, that he cares for. So maybe she'll meet someone in the future, or maybe she has a brother or dad or friend who will be able to devote his time to making sure the little boy has a great male role model.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
A very wise friend of mine once made the point that while a kid may be better off with a dad, fathers this day in age are very rarely one central man in a child's life. The man who is with the mother is usually more of a father to the child than the biological father (or first adoptive father).

This little guy is so young all he cares about right now is Mom, Mom, Mom, and more MOM! No one else exists for him right now, at least, that he cares for. So maybe she'll meet someone in the future, or maybe she has a brother or dad or friend who will be able to devote his time to making sure the little boy has a great male role model.
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That ain't true little boys love their daddy too. Both parents are equally as valuable especially when it comes to being a man. Sure its cool if another man helps out but nothing like your dad showing you the way. I really dislike how many women act like a man is so easily replaceable in a child's life just as long as there is some kind of male role model. Way to diminish the value of men lol
 
andrae09 said:
That ain't true little boys love their daddy too. Both parents are equally as valuable especially when it comes to being a man. Sure its cool if another man helps out but nothing like your dad showing you the way. I really dislike how many women act like a man is so easily replaceable in a child's life just as long as there is some kind of male role model. Way to diminish the value of men lol
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these rebuttals give a great idea for a thread.

But you are right society has pushed the theory I dont need a man thang for too long
 
andrae09 said:
That ain't true little boys love their daddy too. Both parents are equally as valuable especially when it comes to being a man. Sure its cool if another man helps out but nothing like your dad showing you the way. I really dislike how many women act like a man is so easily replaceable in a child's life just as long as there is some kind of male role model. Way to diminish the value of men lol
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Of course men are important, but let's be honest: Mothers do most of the raising. Most infants love Mom more. Not always, but usually.

My brother is gay and he wants to be a dad someday. I know with his female friends and my mom, I don't worry about any child he has having a "mom." You don't need a mom or a dad to grow up and be a whole, healthy person. You need the right people, and the right people don't always come in designated roles.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
Of course men are important, but let's be honest: Mothers do most of the raising. Most infants love Mom more. Not always, but usually.

My brother is gay and he wants to be a dad someday. I know with his female friends and my mom, I don't worry about any child he has having a "mom." You don't need a mom or a dad to grow up and be a whole, healthy person. You need the right people, and the right people don't always come in designated roles.
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you are correct but society tends to lean toward women thinking they are more suitable in raising kids. we all no better than that
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
A very wise friend of mine once made the point that while a kid may be better off with a dad, fathers this day in age are very rarely one central man in a child's life. The man who is with the mother is usually more of a father to the child than the biological father (or first adoptive father).

A very sad reality in my opinion, the biological father-child bond is not and should not be so disposable or easily substituted. The true definition of a father is a man who is there for his child in ALL ways, a constant, protective, nurturing, mentoring, loving, guideline setting, champion of the family.

This little guy is so young all he cares about right now is Mom, Mom, Mom, and more MOM! No one else exists for him right now, at least, that he cares for. So maybe she'll meet someone in the future, or maybe she has a brother or dad or friend who will be able to devote his time to making sure the little boy has a great male role model.
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Strongly disagree, I made sure that my kids knew/depended on me just as much as my wife from day one. In fact, even before day one, as soon as they were old enough in the womb to hear my voice I was reading to them so they would know my voice when they were born. It is a very powerful and meaningful memory to me that both of our kids calmed right down and stopped crying immediately in the birthing room, once they heard my voice. I made sure that we both fed the bottles, changed the diapers, sung/read to the kids ect., long story short there was nothing my wife did short of breastfeeding, that I did not do as well from day one when I was not at work. That, in my opinion is what a real dad does, and one of many reasons why 9 and 7 years later we have such a great, respectful, powerful, loving bond between the four of us.
 
Loki said:
Strongly disagree, I made sure that my kids knew/depended on me just as much as my wife from day one. In fact, even before day one, as soon as they were old enough in the womb to hear my voice I was reading to them so they would know my voice when they were born. It is a very powerful and meaningful memory to me that both of our kids calmed right down and stopped crying immediately in the birthing room, once they heard my voice. I made sure that we both fed the bottles, changed the diapers, sung/read to the kids ect., long story short there was nothing my wife did short of breastfeeding, that I did not do as well from day one when I was not at work. That, in my opinion is what a real dad does, and one of many reasons why 9 and 7 years later we have such a great, respectful, powerful, loving bond between the four of us.
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You are an exceptional man, Loki. I wish all men were like you. :prayer:
 
Loki said:
Strongly disagree, I made sure that my kids knew/depended on me just as much as my wife from day one. In fact, even before day one, as soon as they were old enough in the womb to hear my voice I was reading to them so they would know my voice when they were born. It is a very powerful and meaningful memory to me that both of our kids calmed right down and stopped crying immediately in the birthing room, once they heard my voice. I made sure that we both fed the bottles, changed the diapers, sung/read to the kids ect., long story short there was nothing my wife did short of breastfeeding, that I did not do as well from day one when I was not at work. That, in my opinion is what a real dad does, and one of many reasons why 9 and 7 years later we have such a great, respectful, powerful, loving bond between the four of us.
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You sir, are an awesome Dad. Your kids are going to going to make this world a better place.
 
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