Slut-Shaming...

[Arwen]

I tell all my girlfriends to make him wait a little bit, make him really crave you until you can tell he is really weak at the knees and then draw him home with the good thang... (but dont tell the men I said that to you) .....

Lol... that's what I always try to do but never manage (slut!!!). But on a theorical leverl I agree with you, guys should wait a bit

 

[Caerdydd]

Lol... that's what I always try to do but never manage (slut!!!). But on a theorical leverl I agree with you, guys should wait a bit

I don't think units of time are important, I think circumstances and mutual levels of comfort and desire are far more important. If the right time is after a few hours so be it. After few weeks or months can work just as well.

 

[djfromtheday]

Don't know why I am up this late, I digress. This thread title made me sick to my stomach. People need to wake up and start loving each other more as human beings, not find new and nastier ways to tear each other down. That's all! Good night.

 

[TB1958]

In seriousness, I cant decide what to do with the word "slut." I have had 6 lovers so far in my lifetime, the last three of whom have been black. By white middle class american standards, this seems to make me a "slut."

So we have two choices. We can reclaim the word, so that it loses its negative meaning. Or we can reject the word, and insist that there is nothing wrong in the modern world with a grown woman having sex with whoever she wants. I could have 15 lovers of every race and color, and there should be nothing wrong with that. I prefer the latter choice.

I want to get back to this point that bodhesatva made awhile back there. The main thing is that grown folks get to take control of their own sexuality and NOBODY has any goddamn business criticizing it, evaluating it or shaming anybody for it. The problem I see with today's Republican party is not that they are conservative, but they seem to want to get into everybody's business. It's the same with birth control. Stay the fuck out of our bedrooms (or anyplace else we choose to be sexual)!

 

[Ms. J]

THIS...could not possibly agree more!!

I want to get back to this point that bodhesatva made awhile back there. The main thing is that grown folks get to take control of their own sexuality and NOBODY has any goddamn business criticizing it, evaluating it or shaming anybody for it. The problem I see with today's Republican party is not that they are conservative, but they seem to want to get into everybody's business. It's the same with birth control. Stay the fuck out of our bedrooms (or anyplace else we choose to be sexual)!

 

[buglerroller]

I don't think units of time are important, I think circumstances and mutual levels of comfort and desire are far more important. If the right time is after a few hours so be it. After few weeks or months can work just as well.

agreed!