what do white women love about black men?

bonsaiiKITTEN said:
I enjoy a partner who isn't as assertive, and on the whole, black men are easier-going than white men. I admire a man who realizes he is marginalized in this world as a minority, but isn't crying about it. That's an attractive quality.
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That's most of successful minorities fucken story in this fucken land. Despite being mother natures bitch, we fucken push beyond the limit.

Bring it on Bitch!
 
EspyInHeels said:
Hahahahahahahaha! Love that fabulous sense of humor IB!

I think answering this question is largely useless, as the post is rather clearly intentionally full of stereotypes, and yes I realize that some stereotypes have a basis in fact, but these don't happen to fall into that category. But I agree on much of what you've said IB.

There is a difference between being submissive and allowing someone to control you. Control implies lack of will, whereas submission is a choice to mute your will in favor of someone else's will. I am a very dominant personality type in my life, however I have zero issue being submissive with a man, presuming he's worthy of that... meaning if he's competent to lead, I have no problem following. My general philosophy is lead, follow, or get out of my way. I do think there are women who view any submission as weakness, and that's just not accurate. A woman can submit to a man and it's not demeaning or offensive, nor does it make her more or less feminine, or imply a reduction in intellect. It doesn't diminish your position in a relationship, or your right to think for yourself. Honestly I think it's a somewhat natural response, but not all men trigger that response. Some men bring out softness, while others bring out hardness, it depends largely upon how they view you and their role in the relationship. There are men who are completely content to allow the woman to be dominant and handle everything for them, just as their are women who prefer to do just that. So no, not all women want a dominant man, just as not all men want a submissive, or easily controlled woman. People are individuals, you can't take a one-size-fits-all approach to anything involving two individuals.
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Thank you in return for your rationale on this topic.

I think I'd really like a bumper sticker that says (in bold above)...
 
Inner Beauty said:
Thank you in return for your rationale on this topic.

I think I'd really like a bumper sticker that says (in bold above)...
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:smt023 Maybe that's a product to add when you launch the Smart Bitch line? Cover all the bases, equal opportunity and all that...
 
victoria954 said:
ugh whatever, i do have self esteem, my whole point is that being with a black guy feels good and actually boosts my self esteem. and i'm not easy, i just tend to be a bit more accommodating with black guys cuz they're who i'm attracted to is all.
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I think it was a matter of what words you chose to express yourself. It came off badly and it surely didn't shine a good light on WW.

We have a lot of weirdos, trolls and people who love to play into the stereotypes that misrepresent our union.
 
Victoria 969 says I like the well hung dark musculine blk guy and would love to be his submissive biatch and the logic police trumps all over her. Where is the logic in this? SMH, LoL
 
UnChosen 1 said:
Victoria 969 says I like the well hung dark musculine blk guy and would love to be his submissive biatch and the logic police trumps all over her. Where is the logic in this? SMH, LoL
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okay, i DO like well hung dark masculine black guys, because I DATE ONE! haha and for the record i do love being his submissive biatch. i mean this forum is called "why white women love black men," and theres my reason, makes sense to me.
 
victoria954 said:
okay, i DO like well hung dark masculine black guys, because I DATE ONE! haha and for the record i do love being his submissive biatch. i mean this forum is called "why white women love black men," and theres my reason, makes sense to me.
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If you happen to stay around, you'll see that we don't fetishize each other. You'll never hear any of us ladies going, "Ooh my Mandingo Warrior with his big Black stick ravished my Lily White Pus" around here. :smt018
 
victoria954 said:
okay, i DO like well hung dark masculine black guys, because I DATE ONE! haha and for the record i do love being his submissive biatch. i mean this forum is called "why white women love black men," and theres my reason, makes sense to me.
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OK, but I think the stereotype of *every* BM being 'hung' is really tired and worn out at this point. I mean, I'll give you that some- SOME- mind you, are very "blessed", and others are just average. I've dated more than a few BM and have found there's a spectrum, and honestly, I get so sick of being asked in a quiet, hushed tone from one of my female friends.. "so...is it true..you know..what they say?" I do not seek out BM that are 'hung', and I guess, to each his own, but to me, it seems disrespectful...like BM are being objectified (because they are!).

*headdesk*

Victoria, would you like him less if he was less well hung but still knew how to please you? Or do you specifically seek out BM with that quality?
 
i don't specifically seek them out, i just see it as a bonus, and grldisappearing thats a tough question because the fact that he is hung is something i like about him and is something that pleases me. i'm tired of people acting like its shallow for a girl to be attracted to a guy whos bigger. just figured i'd be honest because this is the internet and i really dont care. I would still love my boyfriend if he wasnt as big because as i've stated earlier there are many many qualities about him that i'm attracted to that are more than skin deep.
 
victoria954 said:
i don't specifically seek them out, i just see it as a bonus, and grldisappearing thats a tough question because the fact that he is hung is something i like about him and is something that pleases me. i'm tired of people acting like its shallow for a girl to be attracted to a guy whos bigger. just figured i'd be honest because this is the internet and i really dont care. I would still love my boyfriend if he wasnt as big because as i've stated earlier there are many many qualities about him that i'm attracted to that are more than skin deep.
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hmm... love is dependent (at least somewhat) upon dick size... Nope that doesn't work for me... I'm out.
 
victoria954 said:
i don't specifically seek them out, i just see it as a bonus, and grldisappearing thats a tough question because the fact that he is hung is something i like about him and is something that pleases me. i'm tired of people acting like its shallow for a girl to be attracted to a guy whos bigger. just figured i'd be honest because this is the internet and i really dont care. I would still love my boyfriend if he wasnt as big because as i've stated earlier there are many many qualities about him that i'm attracted to that are more than skin deep.
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I think you answered it...

My ex BF, who was a BM, was a FAN-FREAKING-TASTIC lover....and he was, in the size department, average. I tell you, I never missed for one second anything bigger...had I been with bigger? Yes. Did I enjoy being with someone bigger? Sure. But did I miss it or regret it when I was with him and he wasn't OMGHUGE?! Hell.No. It's not on my 'list', so to speak.

And I'm curious how you can be attracted to a man who's "bigger" when, unless he wears transparent pants everywhere, you'd never know unless you were in bed with him; that would generally mean that you were already attracted to him, so that argument doesn't really hold water, IMHO.
 
GrlDisappearing said:
OK, but I think the stereotype of *every* BM being 'hung' is really tired and worn out at this point. I mean, I'll give you that some- SOME- mind you, are very "blessed", and others are just average. I've dated more than a few BM and have found there's a spectrum, and honestly, I get so sick of being asked in a quiet, hushed tone from one of my female friends.. "so...is it true..you know..what they say?" I do not seek out BM that are 'hung', and I guess, to each his own, but to me, it seems disrespectful...like BM are being objectified (because they are!).

*headdesk*

Victoria, would you like him less if he was less well hung but still knew how to please you? Or do you specifically seek out BM with that quality?
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Agreed. I've been with white guys and hispanic guys that were well hung, too.

GrlDisappearing said:
I think you answered it...

My ex BF, who was a BM, was a FAN-FREAKING-TASTIC lover....and he was, in the size department, average. I tell you, I never missed for one second anything bigger...had I been with bigger? Yes. Did I enjoy being with someone bigger? Sure. But did I miss it or regret it when I was with him and he wasn't OMGHUGE?! Hell.No. It's not on my 'list', so to speak.

And I'm curious how you can be attracted to a man who's "bigger" when, unless he wears transparent pants everywhere, you'd never know unless you were in bed with him; that would generally mean that you were already attracted to him, so that argument doesn't really hold water, IMHO.
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Rep added for this. You can't know a man is well hung until you get into his pants, and if you're getting into his pants, chances are you're already attracted to him.

I've been with average guys who knew how to work with what they had and I never missed the bigger guys....

It's all in how the guy works with what he's got. :smt045
 
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amanda 7527 said:
Ok here, Ive dated many types of men. These are my reason i prefer black me in no paticular order.

Confidence- Ive been told im unapproachable. Ive been shy at times myself. I would look at guys , smile and get no response. Honestly, with most black guys, i just have to give one hint and they are approaching me. My case, they are more confident than most men. Also Ive NEVER heard from one i was with that im too pretty for him,not up to my level, shit like that. Love a man with confidence, most of the black men ive dated have shown this.

Physical features- One, the dark skin, just love it from head to toe!!! I put it this way, what looks better, a shiny white corvette or a shiny black corvette? I think ya know what im gettin at. Most black guys seem to have naturally athletic bodies, and i love that.Looking sexy as hell without going to the gym,lol. Combine all this with usually full lips and its something that i cant stop tasting,lol

Fun- I just have fun with black men. Dont know why nor do i care. I just find myself having more fun with black men. Whether its hanging out,partying, sex, just watching tv, cruising, etc. Just have a good time with them.

Haters- I hear people talk about black men and hear comments and get looks from people when im out in public with them. Im not singling out white men, but thats what it mostly comes from. I dont hate white men by no means. But all the hating and how some put themselves on a pedestal over others , actually makes black men more attractive to me.

Thast just some reasons, i have more , but some might be naughty,in a fun kind of way,lol. Justwanted to chime in on this topic. I could go on , but just summing it up.
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Word!
 
They dont,.......quit kidding yourself......most white women want white men and most black women want a black man, just because a few white girls cross over to the other side for hopefully a good roll in the hay, dont mean they are in love with you, if you look close enough you will notice you get their bodies but not their hearts, poor race relations in america just has this interracial thing between a black man and a white woman screwed up, its a negative issue thats bigger than all of us.
 
tacannav said:
They dont,.......quit kidding yourself......most white women want white men and most black women want a black man, just because a few white girls cross over to the other side for hopefully a good roll in the hay, dont mean they are in love with you, if you look close enough you will notice you get their bodies but not their hearts, poor race relations in america just has this interracial thing between a black man and a white woman screwed up, its a negative issue thats bigger than all of us.
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you've waited just over 4 years to post that....??? be gone with you...!!!
 
tacannav said:
They dont,.......quit kidding yourself......most white women want white men and most black women want a black man, just because a few white girls cross over to the other side for hopefully a good roll in the hay, dont mean they are in love with you, if you look close enough you will notice you get their bodies but not their hearts, poor race relations in america just has this interracial thing between a black man and a white woman screwed up, its a negative issue thats bigger than all of us.
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The statement I highlighted is absolutely true. The majority of people prefer to date within what they perceive as "their own race." The majority of people are too stupid to find Russia on the map. It would really be in everyone's interest to shoot these people before they breed.

You're probably a troll, but what are your ideas based on? Before you cry, "That's not true!" I've never wanted for male attention when I put minimal effort into looking decent. There are prettier, smarter girls on the planet, but I know exactly where I stand. If I wanted a white boyfriend, I'd have one.

I'm probably a pretty stoic woman. I've been in love a couple of times in 25 years. My lack of experience and worldliness in certain departments has been dictated by choice, and there aren't many men who could sweep me off my feet. I know what I like physically, emotionally, intellectually, and morally. At this point, I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than date a white guy, someone intellectually inferior, someone who's ugly, someone lazy, etc. I don't mind being single, because there's NOTHING I can't take care of myself. Don't mistake your values for my own.
 
tacannav said:
They dont,.......quit kidding yourself......most white women want white men and most black women want a black man, just because a few white girls cross over to the other side for hopefully a good roll in the hay, dont mean they are in love with you, if you look close enough you will notice you get their bodies but not their hearts, poor race relations in america just has this interracial thing between a black man and a white woman screwed up, its a negative issue thats bigger than all of us.
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This is absolutely wrong. That may be your experience but it's certainly not mine and since I'm a white woman who has loved a black man with all my heart, I'm more qualified to speak on that than you are. Clearly you seek to reduce WW/BM relationships to sex only, and that's just a lie.

Tarshibear said:
you've waited just over 4 years to post that....??? be gone with you...!!!
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Hahahahaha! That was my first thought too Tarshi, you brilliant woman you.
 
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