teddebear07
Active Member
true,
yep, that is all I can do is be me, I don't know how else to be.
With that said, if a guy came at me with please don't wear those around me, I would be tempted to tell them to either take me as I am or we part ways, to me they are taking a controlling stance telling me what to wear, and I don't like that, not a good start to or a way to be in a relationship, especially since I do not go around telling people I don't like what they are wearing, most of the guys I have come in contact with I have taken as they are, I have never told them don't wear certain things around me. I would be especially be annoyed if he said this to me while I have never said anything like this to him.
This may not be a big deal to you, and to me it is not so much the shoes, but the attitude that I have to conform, like I said, I have seen this be a path to abuse for one woman friend I had, her boyfriend would start nitpicking at her telling her how to dress her hair etc, it was a slippery slope, and to me it would feel like the guy would also start nitpicking at me in other ways too.
well ,i see .....u came back and rewrote your whole response.
i think in a relationship one of the key elements is communication . there's nothing wrong with asking your mate not to wear something.(not often of course) she doesn't have to comply .the point is ,i let you know i'm not fond of those sandals .you can keep wearing them if you want. in your friends case ,if you feel someone is nitpicking ,you are an adult ,you have to open your mouth and tell him to back off.or this the way i like and that's the way i'm doing it.
i think in alot of relationships people don't speak out enough ,they rather not "say" anything.communication is good ,is just how you do it.
if I knew everytime i wore my sailor's hat ,you get annoyed , i wouldn't wear it and you wouldn't have to tell me. but everything has it's limits ,i'm keeping my superman underwear no matter what.
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