Why Black Women Remain Single...

porcelainsnowbird said:
I could care less about fixing you or chi...simply got tired of ignoring the jabs and started swinging back. I do not lick dish or deal with strap on swinging women...not my bag at all. Being that you started eeking out a living from the age of 16 I can only imagine the sordid details of your life tho.
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Take the hate back to blackvoives.
 
porcelainsnowbird said:
I could care less about fixing you or chi...simply got tired of ignoring the jabs and started swinging back. I do not lick dish or deal with strap on swinging women...not my bag at all. Being that you started eeking out a living from the age of 16 I can only imagine the sordid details of your life tho.
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do you keep a notebook with all the details of my life:shock:you must be very bored:smt045
 
porcelainsnowbird said:
Just enough to stick you back in your place when need be. Been on Blackpeoplemeet lately?
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that will be the day when you put me in my place psb...you are fighting with fire girlfriend...actually no, i haven't been on bpm for months...no time and my dance card has been clicking along nicely...were you there pretending to be an old black grandpa...calling me a cracker and wanting to give me some chocolate...i can assure you your chocolate is bitter and lippy isn't interested...

you might find some nice wm on match or plentyoffish...no problem...glad to help...let me know if you want some help with that profile:smt112
 
lipstick said:
that will be the day when you put me in my place psb...you are fighting with fire girlfriend...actually no, i haven't been on bpm for months...no time and my dance card has been clicking along nicely...were you there pretending to be an old black grandpa...calling me a cracker and wanting to give me some chocolate...i can assure you your chocolate is bitter and lippy isn't interested...

you might find some nice wm on match or plentyoffish...no problem...glad to help...let me know if you want some help with that profile:smt112
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I've never even visited BPM but remember you mentioned posting your photo after the recent collagen lip injections. I don't meet men online.
 
porcelainsnowbird said:
I've never even visited BPM but remember you mentioned posting your photo after the recent collagen lip injections. I don't meet men online.
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i think you might have to fact check your resources...either that or you have been drinking and note taking at the same time...multi-tasking really doesn't suit you psb...no collagen in my lips...i am just lucky to have what my mamma gave which is beautiful lips...kiss kiss darlin:smt016awww come on girl give lippy some tongue.:smt096
 
porcelainsnowbird said:
@chicity,

Ok...and how many times have men here stated or complained about wm being the most desireable to virtually all women? If the complaints aren't envy then what is it? Just casual observations? I do believe wm are less insecure anytime they invite bm to ravish ww for entertainment purposes in their presence. In fact, you are a female "cuck" IMO for doing the same thing by dragging other women into your bed to satisfy your husband in hopes that he might might somehow find you more appealing. I know some bm are increasingly interested in Asian women and I attribute that to taking their lead from wm too.
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Alrighty, that's two.

The third time you bring up my sex life I'm going to start explaining to you why it's fun.

You've already discredited yourself 7 ways from Sunday. What's the point in continuing? You think you get under my skin by calling me a female cuck? No shit, I've said much the same about myself. You think I'll feel bad if you suggest my husband doesn't want me? Nah, I'm pretty solid in my relationship, there's nothing you can say to make me worry about that. You think you can spark some racism by talking about Black Men wanting Asian Women? There's no "increasingly" in my circles -- I'm a nerd. Everyone I know wants Asian Women, from the first time they saw Lynn Minmei sing in Robotech. Who could blame them? Asian Women are awesome.

You on the other hand, are sad and looking worse for wear every time you post.

Usually when I confront you, you run away for a few days. Wouldn't you like to do that now?
 
chicity said:
I believe I said I've been surrounded by interracial couples most of my life. How does that equal "one" in your mind?

I addressed the people who date soley based upon race -- they are called sociopaths. If you start a life & a family with someone because of the color of their skin, then there is something deeply wrong with you that goes far beyond race.

You seem to be the one absolving people from being potential racists. How come you aren't on monoracial boards, where the majority of people date within their own race, talking about how much they irritate you? Isn't someone just as likely to date someone of their own race for racist reasons as dating someone outside of it? Where is your irritation with them?

Being in an interracial relationship doesn't make me a good person. I just am one.
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I'm not absolving anyone of anything. Certainly, people are free to think what they want and do what they want. I find dating uniracially pretty odd or being deadset against dating any race. We all have preferences, but living in a day like this, it doesn't make much sense to me.

chicity said:
Lots and lots of people in this world would lump my husband into the group you're irritated with. He never dated me because of my race, in fact he resisted a little (ha! like he had a choice) because he leans towards pro-Black. But the shit we have gotten over the years from people who hate us because we are attractive, successful and interracial has made him into quite the activist in racial issues, and literally hundreds of Black Women have accused him of "jumping the fence" just to spite them. Plenty of White Men have said the same about me.

It comforts people to believe that, because they don't want to accept the simple fact that if you shit on people long enough, they will rise up.
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I'm glad you've had a successful marriage. Of course, I don't know you from Eve or why you do anything - That would be asinine for me to assume as much, as it would be for you to assume that about me.

porcelainsnowbird said:
This is so true and what many recognize in "some" couples. I straight up believe Chicity is a racist with every fiber of her being. I also do not believe it's possible to hate one-half of a partner's race. A guy from my hometown was first married to a black woman and started a family with her, and his second wife was white. He had no problem with her despising and disrespecting his family members (including his children) until she turned on him towards the end of their marriage. She even resorted to verbal abuse in front of others, calling him the N-word and kicking in doors after he moved to a separate bedroom. He felt she was trying to provoke him into a physical altercation knowing the cops would side with her no matter what. He called the cops and during one of these episodes where she actually took off her wedding ring and hurled it his face cutting his eye right in their presence. Once they saw blood they very reluctantly shuffled over placed her under arrest. She even committed to them that if they had to return there it would be to take him out in a body bag. Afterwards he called to get a restraining order and was asked "What do you need one for...you're a big guy aren't you?" They clearly enjoyed what she had done and only charged and fined her $10 for disorderly conduct.

The point I'm trying to make is his wife's true nature revealed itself in the end.

And you're right it crosses the entire spectrum. I heard of someone married to a jewish man and she'd allegedly make slurs behind his back.
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I don't think that. I think she's just overeager not to be open to other people's views, but that doesn't make her a racist.

You and I agree completely here. As a WW, I'm a human being, not a prize to be won. No one wants to be fetishized if they can grasp the concept. And I can understand the process of fetishizing a group of people, but that's when it's time to sort one's own issues before you date ANYONE.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
I think the idea that a person makes you happy is absurd. We make ourselves happy and attract positive relationships by our own actions. If I'm not in a happy relationship and I feel bad about it, it's my problem. If I'm fine with it, then it doesn't matter so much. The second I start to feel bad about being single, I look at the common denominator in all my relationships with men: Me. 99% of the time, that's the source of the problem, and it's true of anyone.

Maybe I should date BW from the sounds of it; it sounds like we'd get along if I believe the generalizations. :p Being happy is most important, and I have friends from all walks of life, but why should a woman who has worked very hard in her life to being an educated refined lady settle for a guy who is content to work at McDonald's for the rest of his life? What's a woman who works as a teacher with special education students, is active in her church, and enjoys supporting community theater going to have in common with someone who thinks she's stuck up because she wants a better life for herself?

A "good job" is relative. I consider a "good job" one working in a field where there is a decent level of job security and has enough to take care of his financial matters enough to have maybe a humble and small but nice home or apartment and enough to cover his hobbies/interests, and so I don't feel like a man is leaching off of me for money.




That's a problem. Happens to women, too. Excitement is relative. A lot of men probably wouldn't find me the most exciting woman in the world. I like hiking and climbing trees and watching anime and reading. In that case, it probably IS the pursuit of money rather than the person. (How often is it a woman who doesn't have her own education and career?)



I've met BW that can go from zero to bitch in three seconds, so I believe you. ;) Do you think BW's anger has any truth to it, though?
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sure there could be BUT do you believe there is truth in what BM are saying....? Like how BW take us for granted and we became frustrated and decided you know what lets go take our business somewhere else and see if we get better customer service. well one brother came back and stated Brother she treated me like a king you may want to check this out. so another brother did and stated the same then another and then another. Now you sista are made because we started patronizing someone else and you are screaming foul. I say im taking my business some where else and see if i can be treated like a humanbeing
 
goodlove said:
sure there could be BUT do you believe there is truth in what BM are saying....? Like how BW take us for granted and we became frustrated and decided you know what lets go take our business somewhere else and see if we get better customer service. well one brother came back and stated Brother she treated me like a king you may want to check this out. so another brother did and stated the same then another and then another. Now you sista are made because we started patronizing someone else and you are screaming foul. I say im taking my business some where else and see if i can be treated like a humanbeing
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Sure. I can see maybe where that sense of entitlement deeply bothers you.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
Sure. I can see maybe where that sense of entitlement deeply bothers you.
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thanks. alot of bros are starting to say enough is enough of the male bashing. look at every relationship column or discussion and when cheating comes up they never,rarely or barely touch on the women but when it comes to men it is portrayed as tho all men cheat or do most of the cheating.

I will assure you if you polled all the atty's in the US they will say it is about 50/50 when it comes to cheating.

I have a theory on why it is.

I believe i will do a thread on this one.
 
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justryingtofindlove said:
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if 40% aren't married then that means 60% are. right?
 
archangel said:
if 40% aren't married then that means 60% are. right?
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Not exactly, but I wouldn't worry about it. If you watched the video there are just as many single Black Men as there are single Black Women. And when they start the count to come up with a percentage they start at age 15. So, you can guess how credible and accurate it is. That is the issue with statistical data.
 
justryingtofindlove said:
Not exactly, but I wouldn't worry about it. If you watched the video there are just as many single Black Men as there are single Black Women. And when they start the count to come up with a percentage they start at age 15. So, you can guess how credible and accurate it is. That is the issue with statistical data.
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You know what is interesting. There isn't a we the people(white people) or at least I can't find it at the census.gov. I also don't think there are as many single black men as black women. We have a much higher marriage ratio and there are less men in the usa.
 
archangel said:
You know what is interesting. There isn't a we the people(white people) or at least I can't find it at the census.gov. I also don't think there are as many single black men as black women. We have a much higher marriage ratio and there are less men in the usa.
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There is one, it does take some work to find though.
 
I need to see ALL the video before I make my FULL judgement but from what I've seen the women were excited and the men . . . just standing around looking confused.

I love black women but I also want my options, that is why I am on this site.
 
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