Why do all the good guys get bad women?

[Seven_Wilson]

I am here trying to find out where all of my lovely sweet WW are! It is hard to find a woman who does not take advantage of the good guys and also does not make us pay for whatever another guy did to them before. I have had some drama with women who think I or some other good guy will do the same thing another guy has done to them, or I have had women who say what kind of man they want and when they get him "they" don't know how to treat him! And it really bugs me when I see players or all the quote "bad guys" get all the good women! Maybe I should become a jackass just so I can have a good woman too, what do you think? And are you out there?
Sincerly,
Seven_Wilson[/b]

 

[Bryant]

Women are typically very surprised to know that all men aren't the same. Well, 90 percent of us are liars, and cheaters, but the other 10 percent of us are still out there trying to find somebody great. Just like when i tell a girl that i'm a virgin, they don't believe it because i'm not a bad looking guy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with me at all. It's just that i'm waiting for the right person to do it with you know. It has to be with somebody that i love. Women believe that all guys sleep around at some point, and they're right for the most part, but there are a few of us guys still out there worth having ladies.

 

[Rhonda]

I hope that you'll both realize that there are REAL WOMEN out there who do not lump all men into one category or another - that they actually accept each man, each person, on their own merit. I'm surprised to hear so many bm saying how women think "all" bm are thugs or criminals or worthless - whatever the terminology is. I've never thought any particular group of people are all "this" or all "that". I like to view each person as they come into my life and my impression of that person is based solely on that person. I can honestly tell you that I've been treated in a more negative way by the wm that I've dated than by the bm that I've dated. Again, I really don't mean to be simplistic, but as you're summing up ww as judging bm it seems as if you're doing that which you''re saying ww do - does that make sense??? And Bryant, I totally respect your choice to wait for that special woman - don't let any woman that comes in to your life, in any situation (dating, friend, etc.), "make" you feel as if you have to apologize for that choice. It is an admiral choice and the woman that you choose to share your 1st experience with, will definitely be a very special woman. Shoot - there I go with my rambling again! LOL I so easily get distracted from one subject to another - can anyone say ADULT ADD? LOL :lol:

 

[irisrett]

Be urself!! You will find the right person even if it takes awhile. There r plenty of us women out there who r lookin for a great guy who doesn't treat us like crap. Dont give up on finding one of us.

 

[Seven_Wilson]

Women are typically very surprised to know that all men aren't the same. Well, 90 percent of us are liars, and cheaters, but the other 10 percent of us are still out there trying to find somebody great. Just like when i tell a girl that i'm a virgin, they don't believe it because i'm not a bad looking guy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with me at all. It's just that i'm waiting for the right person to do it with you know. It has to be with somebody that i love. Women believe that all guys sleep around at some point, and they're right for the most part, but there are a few of us guys still out there worth having ladies.

Hey man I know what you mean and it is just very hard for the ones of us who try so hard to have the deal with the crap that some of the so called "bad men" don't have to deal with!
Thanks for the reply,
Seven

 

[Seven_Wilson]

I hope that you'll both realize that there are REAL WOMEN out there who do not lump all men into one category or another - that they actually accept each man, each person, on their own merit. I'm surprised to hear so many bm saying how women think "all" bm are thugs or criminals or worthless - whatever the terminology is. I've never thought any particular group of people are all "this" or all "that". I like to view each person as they come into my life and my impression of that person is based solely on that person. I can honestly tell you that I've been treated in a more negative way by the wm that I've dated than by the bm that I've dated. Again, I really don't mean to be simplistic, but as you're summing up ww as judging bm it seems as if you're doing that which you''re saying ww do - does that make sense??? And Bryant, I totally respect your choice to wait for that special woman - don't let any woman that comes in to your life, in any situation (dating, friend, etc.), "make" you feel as if you have to apologize for that choice. It is an admiral choice and the woman that you choose to share your 1st experience with, will definitely be a very special woman. Shoot - there I go with my rambling again! LOL I so easily get distracted from one subject to another - can anyone say ADULT ADD? LOL :lol:

Hey,
I am sorry if I said "WW" I couls have said all women because it has been my experience, but I meant no harm in that, it is only my frustration with trying to be a good man and the women who I get seem to give me more hell for being a good guy than if I would a jackass! Understand what I mean? I am sure you do everyone has these times I think......
thanks for reply,
Seven

 

[Seven_Wilson]

Be urself!! You will find the right person even if it takes awhile. There r plenty of us women out there who r lookin for a great guy who doesn't treat us like crap. Dont give up on finding one of us.

Thanks a lot i'm sure there are a lot of you out there, just wish I could find one lol
love the reply,
Seven

 

[graphicsRat]

I think it prety much boils down to looks and money (and sometimes confidence). The bad boys usually have the one of the first two, and so the third comes naturally. They can afford to misbehave, because they have what women want, and their aloofness makes them more enigmatic, and unattainable, so women want them the more.

If however you dont have looks, or money, and have been often rejected, you'll be timid and lacking confidence. Its a vicious cycle.

- GR -

 

[drow]

I think it prety much boils down to looks and money (and sometimes confidence). The bad boys usually have the one of the first two, and so the third comes naturally. They can afford to misbehave, because they have what women want, and their aloofness makes them more enigmatic, and unattainable, so women want them the more.

If however you dont have looks, or money, and have been often rejected, you'll be timid and lacking confidence. Its a vicious cycle.

- GR -

Indeed! I always find it pretty funny when women say that they want a "nice" guy and then fall for the total opposite!? The actual % of women wanting this type of guy seems to be almost nil.

It's nothing that they can help really... It's the law of nature if you will. We are not so different in this way from animals. Let's take wild "insert herd beast here" for example. Every herd has an "alpha" male that everyone defers to. He reserves the right to take his pick of mates by rite of being the strongest. The female knows that he is strong, unafraid and can provide and protect thier young. The weaker males are overlooked and ignored. Anyone seeing a pattern here?

In OUR case, you might say, "Well, if females desire security for themselves and thier young ones, then why do women pick these jerks who make no money and eventually leave them AND thier children? It is because of the PERCEIVED strength that said jerk gives off! This is why confidence in a man is SOOOOOO important with women. He gives the illusion that he is strong when that type of guy is actually weak in every way!

What women NEED is a GOOD man that can simply take care of himself and his family and have confidence in himself. They don't NEED bad boys, though many of them get off on the thought of one because of the "thrill" factor! It's EXCITING! Right up until the time something terrible happens because of his badboyedness...

 

[SardonicGenie]

Women are typically very surprised to know that all men aren't the same. Well, 90 percent of us are liars, and cheaters, but the other 10 percent of us are still out there trying to find somebody great. Just like when i tell a girl that i'm a virgin, they don't believe it because i'm not a bad looking guy, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with me at all. It's just that i'm waiting for the right person to do it with you know. It has to be with somebody that i love. Women believe that all guys sleep around at some point, and they're right for the most part, but there are a few of us guys still out there worth having ladies.

Thanks for makin' it easier for all of us. :roll: I guess women will have to keep settin' the example for all of us, as long as life goes on.

 

[SardonicGenie]

I think it prety much boils down to looks and money (and sometimes confidence). The bad boys usually have the one of the first two, and so the third comes naturally. They can afford to misbehave, because they have what women want, and their aloofness makes them more enigmatic, and unattainable, so women want them the more.

If however you dont have looks, or money, and have been often rejected, you'll be timid and lacking confidence. Its a vicious cycle.

- GR -

Indeed! I always find it pretty funny when women say that they want a "nice" guy and then fall for the total opposite!? The actual % of women wanting this type of guy seems to be almost nil.

It's nothing that they can help really... It's the law of nature if you will. We are not so different in this way from animals. Let's take wild "insert herd beast here" for example. Every herd has an "alpha" male that everyone defers to. He reserves the right to take his pick of mates by rite of being the strongest. The female knows that he is strong, unafraid and can provide and protect thier young. The weaker males are overlooked and ignored. Anyone seeing a pattern here?

In OUR case, you might say, "Well, if females desire security for themselves and thier young ones, then why do women pick these jerks who make no money and eventually leave them AND thier children? It is because of the PERCEIVED strength that said jerk gives off! This is why confidence in a man is SOOOOOO important with women. He gives the illusion that he is strong when that type of guy is actually weak in every way!

What women NEED is a GOOD man that can simply take care of himself and his family and have confidence in himself. They don't NEED bad boys, though many of them get off on the thought of one because of the "thrill" factor! It's EXCITING! Right up until the time something terrible happens because of his badboyedness...

I agree with all of this.

 

[Seven_Wilson]

Thanks everyone your info is greatly appreciated!