Woman writes article titled "When God Sends Your White Daughter a Black Husband"

[The Dark King]

That was rhetorical.

I don't agree. The issue I take is with her turning it on those who speak the truth about Uncle Fred. There is nothing wrong with them simply stating the truth and in fact they should call it what it is. Being honest doesn't dehumanize him.

I'm not going to get into a religious debate. I don't think it's Christian to ask others to lie about it.

Exactly so damn tired of coddling the fragility of assholes

 

[qaz1]

That was rhetorical.

I don't agree. The issue I take is with her turning it on those who speak the truth about Uncle Fred. There is nothing wrong with them simply stating the truth and in fact they should call it what it is. Being honest doesn't dehumanize him.

I'm not going to get into a religious debate. I don't think it's Christian to ask others to lie about it.

There's no need for debate. I see your point. And I agree with it. All I meant is that even bigots are humans loved by God. I don't think the comment about Uncle Fred was artfully stated, but I do think I accurately stated why she wrote as she did (or rather, why a Christian in her position would write such a thing). You're obviously free to not like her statements or mine.

 

[qaz1]

Exactly so damn tired of coddling the fragility of assholes

I agree. However, I submit that you can try lovingly to reach someone without coddling their fragility. Whether and how he'll respond is on him.

Hey, if nothing else, I think we've all seen that letting their hatred lead to our anger rarely solves anything.

 

[Ol'Skool Classic]

At one point in life, I thought I needed to be tolerant of people like that. That somehow maybe they just didn't understand and if they were given the opportunity to learn and be exposed to things they didn't understand then it would really help and they would come around. I went out of my way to try to be open to people and their questions and comments. I thought it was more about the fear of the unknowns. While that may be true (sometimes), I realized that I spent a great deal of time and energy beating my head against the wall and ending up really frustrated and disappointed.It isn't our job to be the poster family for interracial families. It really isn't even my business as to what other people's opinions, questions, comments may be. It's not my children's job to explain anything to anyone. The people who have concerns, issues, whatever the F it may be...that's their thing...for them to figure out.

It's interesting too because I really think there is a difference between those who are truly interested and just don't know and want to learn and those who are just straight up ignorant. I'm not saying it's not possible for them to change at some point, but why is the thought that others need to dance around and do backflips to try to accommodate, teach, tolerate, whatever their shit?!

The issue I take is with her turning it on those who speak the truth about Uncle Fred. There is nothing wrong with them simply stating the truth and in fact they should call it what it is. Being honest doesn't dehumanize him.

 

[Peach State Scholar]

Well here's the thing from what I've noticed in life when you don't make things entirely unacceptable people will still think they have a little leeway. Like "I won't say nigger anymore but I'll call the cops the minute I see a black person in my neighborhood"
I'm all for compassion but certain things need to be confronted head on. Hey Uncle Fred that thinking is outdated and plain wrong knock it off or we won't be able to have a good time with you.

I'm Jamaican and had to do a similar thing to family members when a couple of my cousins came out as gay. Zero tolerance knock it off, because unless you do that you're saying that Uncle Fred's comfort should come at the expense of others even though he's in the wrong.

At one point in life, I thought I needed to be tolerant of people like that. That somehow maybe they just didn't understand and if they were given the opportunity to learn and be exposed to things they didn't understand then it would really help and they would come around. I went out of my way to try to be open to people and their questions and comments. I thought it was more about the fear of the unknowns. While that may be true (sometimes), I realized that I spent a great deal of time and energy beating my head against the wall and ending up really frustrated and disappointed. It isn't our job to be the poster family for interracial families. It really isn't even my business as to what other people's opinions, questions, comments may be. It's not my children's job to explain anything to anyone. The people who have concerns, issues, whatever the F it may be...that's their thing...for them to figure out.

It's interesting too because I really think there is a difference between those who are truly interested and just don't know and want to learn and those who are just straight up ignorant. I'm not saying it's not possible for them to change at some point, but why is the thought that others need to dance around and do backflips to try to accommodate, teach, tolerate, whatever their shit?!

Damn, I wish I had more rep to spread right now!

 

[DudeNY12]

Dehumanizes HIM? Lmao and this is why shit won't ever change. Not like Uncle Fred's racist bs is what actually dehumanizes people, he literally can't see someone as a person because of their skin tone.

Agreed! If Uncle Fred manages to come around... Great, but in the meantime... he needs to be called out on the crap.

That was rhetorical.

I don't agree. The issue I take is with her turning it on those who speak the truth about Uncle Fred. There is nothing wrong with them simply stating the truth and in fact they should call it what it is. Being honest doesn't dehumanize him.

I'm not going to get into a religious debate. I don't think it's Christian to ask others to lie about it.

Right! I've seen it (especially with my relatives in the south) where folks would get a pass for a number of reasons, especially being older. I get that some older folks may be set in their ways, but nothing wrong with addressing their racism.

 

[beccaomecca]

Man they're gorgeous!! Speshly him. I'd untangled those dreads any day.