Young Black Man seeking advice on meeting White Women

RaiderLL said:
I feel you love. I'm not discounting the fact that attractive people (the 6'5 in ridiculous shape types you mentioned) have it easier, but confidence does play a factor, and attraction varies with some degree from person to person.

I think the point is that you don't have to be rich and 6'5 to be able to approach a woman. Be confident in who you are and strike up a conversation with some eye contact and a simple hello. And like Gentlemanj said..."if she likes you and gives back, then cool. if she doesn't then its on to the next one".
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Good series of posts, but often the question is reading her giving back correctly. Nice, polite reactions vs. being interested can be confused easily.
 
CarlosNevada said:
Good series of posts, but often the question is reading her giving back correctly. Nice, polite reactions vs. being interested can be confused easily.
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Very true. I think body language speaks volumes though. I *think* my body language and behavior makes it perfectly clear when I'm interested vs when I'm just being polite. Most of the men I'm not interested in will say their peace, see my response and say something like "ok then, well have a nice day" and we go our merry ways. The ones I'm interested in linger and talk more because I think they feel my vibe. I know every woman is different though, maybe some aren't as clear in their interest (or lack thereof).

I've said it before, I don't envy men with regard to the dating world!
 
The Dark King said:
I love the fantasy you guys live in I want to live there too
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curious to know what part of what I said you feel is fantasy. I mean lets be real, no man can or will get every woman his eyes desire. But the point is that if Im waiting for women to approach me for dating purposes then im a fool. So, having said that we have to play offense and be aggressive. You see something you like, go after it. If she says no, who cares. Before she's done making her 180 degree turn I've already forgotten about her and onto the next one.

Make more sense?
 
CarlosNevada said:
Good series of posts, but often the question is reading her giving back correctly. Nice, polite reactions vs. being interested can be confused easily.
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very true. But the only way you'll ever know is be direct and ask. And when doing so, it has to be done with conviction. If a man isnt himself it often can be sensed by a woman
 
The Dark King said:
But then you are ignoring the factors that are making it easy for him. So lets say he's 6'5 and in ridiculous shape, sure everyone can't be 6'5 but they can be in shape and you should lead with that. Make sure you're your best you before trying to approach woman because it increases your chances of getting what you want. Just going up to women and saying hi with a smile is incredibly misleading and false information. Feel me?
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Hypothetical situation....
youre in walmart after getting off of work getting a few things for your household. Still dressed in work clothes you spot a gorgeous woman with no ring on her finger. Not looking your best at that moment, do you not speak to her because of the timing?
 
GentlemanJ337 said:
Hypothetical situation....
youre in walmart after getting off of work getting a few things for your household. Still dressed in work clothes you spot a gorgeous woman with no ring on her finger. Not looking your best at that moment, do you not speak to her because of the timing?
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I ain't approaching no chick off the strength of me finding her attractive. I might as well hire a prostitute.
 
4north1side2 said:
I ain't approaching no chick off the strength of me finding her attractive. I might as well hire a prostitute.
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I feel that, what I'm saying is once that's in place, I'd like her to open her mouth to see if there's any substance to her. It's not just her grading me, it goes both ways.
 
GentlemanJ337 said:
curious to know what part of what I said you feel is fantasy. I mean lets be real, no man can or will get every woman his eyes desire. But the point is that if Im waiting for women to approach me for dating purposes then im a fool. So, having said that we have to play offense and be aggressive. You see something you like, go after it. If she says no, who cares. Before she's done making her 180 degree turn I've already forgotten about her and onto the next one.

Make more sense?
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Actually yes that does make more sense thank you
 
GentlemanJ337 said:
Hypothetical situation....
youre in walmart after getting off of work getting a few things for your household. Still dressed in work clothes you spot a gorgeous woman with no ring on her finger. Not looking your best at that moment, do you not speak to her because of the timing?
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Bad hypothetical I refuse to fuck with Walmart but I get your point. At this point to me women are liabilities unless proven otherwise.
 
RaiderLL said:
Very true. I think body language speaks volumes though. I *think* my body language and behavior makes it perfectly clear when I'm interested vs when I'm just being polite. Most of the men I'm not interested in will say their peace, see my response and say something like "ok then, well have a nice day" and we go our merry ways. The ones I'm interested in linger and talk more because I think they feel my vibe. I know every woman is different though, maybe some aren't as clear in their interest (or lack thereof).

I've said it before, I don't envy men with regard to the dating world!
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I have found that breaking stereotypes or initial fears has always worked with me. I try working, playing in a common area, club or social activity that is diverse helps. I find that women who see you more often, are less apprehensive when you approach them after they have seen you more often. IE diverse clubs, schools, functions.
 
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