what do white women love about black men?

foxyred said:
Some things you just can't put into words. It’s not any one thing. Its everything.

Attitude is a big part. Black men are generally more confident, but it feels different with black men. It feels more like genuine, justified confidence and not just egotistical bragging or pretending to be confident like a lot of white men seem to do.

That attitude shows in everything they do (how they carry themselves, how they walk, talk, how they dress). It really shows in how they treat us. They're more direct, they know what they want and they go for it. They are more passionate and in control and that makes me feel sexier too.

Physically black men are always just so beautiful. They seem to take care of themselves more and the contrast of their skin on mine is so amazing.

And of course, the sex with black men is just mind blowing.
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Reading your passion about us makes me all the more better i joined this site. I think i speak for myself and other brothas on here when i say baby the feelings are definitely mutual.

I can't describe my love for you white swans reasons why i call most white women swans is because thats what yall are. To me anyway but still beautiful, feminine, delicate, understanding, and always ready to learn what you can about the brotha you with. Its speaks volumes over your black counter parts. One example from my personal experience.
A white woman that i used to work with 3 years ago was all into me like soon as i saw her i think instinctively we locked eyes for about 15 seconds and those 15 seconds alone was the most longest we ever had. Synchronized as we looked eachother up and down and then smirked and looked back n bit our lips. That right there was more than just a visual desire but its was spiritual. And we talked she was talkin to someone at the time as was i, but we were good friends for a while till i moved to a different state. But still black men and white women belong together it makes sense to me.
 
suprchic73 said:
yah, i agree...especially about the white dude thing. in my own experience, white dudes just don't like me. i don't get it...i guess it's good i like the brothas, b/c they seem to be the ones that like me the most.

from a purely physical aspect - the skin, the skin, the skin....i love the dark skin. it's just beautiful!! :wink: and lips - i love thicker lips...so sexy.

but of course it runs much deeper than physicality....i love the culture. i really appreciate the deep family ties in black communities, the spirituality, the african traditions that are carried down, etc. i've studied it, i've read on it, i've written on it...i minored in african american studies in school (only one of 2 white people, lol). it's much more than an "obsession" or a "fascination"...i can't really explain it...it's just part of me. you'd have to know me to fully understand it, i guess. i guess i can just tell you, like i told one of my african american studies' professors when he asked me while i was minoring in aas, "i just love black people!" :lol: :lol: :lol:
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This is deep...
 
sarah23 said:
Given your own past relationship and subsequent divorce, I can understand your comments about being manipulated by WM.
This is what I have also heard non WM say about white couples..
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True, I think a lot of it is maybe us projecting backwards too. So we see a white woman with a white man and we assume she's not happy, she's being controlled, not having good sex, etc. etc, but for the woman that is in that relationship, she might not feel that way at all
 
GAmomlisa said:
True, I think a lot of it is maybe us projecting backwards too. So we see a white woman with a white man and we assume she's not happy, she's being controlled, not having good sex, etc. etc, but for the woman that is in that relationship, she might not feel that way at all
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Is that your experience ?
I mean, did you feel that you were being manipulated.
 
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sarah23 said:
Is that your experience ?
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Absolutely! Honestly, I have never had a healthy relationship with a white man. I was never satisfied, and that actually probably comes down to my personal attraction, but I do sometimes project that onto many other white women, which is probably not fair. Talking to a lot of them tho, it is true with a lot of them! lol
 
GAmomlisa said:
Absolutely! Honestly, I have never had a healthy relationship with a white man. I was never satisfied, and that actually probably comes down to my personal attraction, but I do sometimes project that onto many other white women, which is probably not fair. Talking to a lot of them tho, it is true with a lot of them! lol
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BM in Atlanta will be happy to hear you say this. Lol
 
GAmomlisa said:
Lmao, if they want undersexed white women, the suburbs of ATL are filled with em! haha
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Can I get some details LOL??? I've got family in Atlanta who have ben begging me to visit.

Sorry, I know it's an old comment but I just saw it and couldn't resist. ;)
 
I'm glad I somehow stumbled upon this site. I need to take time to read through all the comments, before I actually respond to someone's comments, but I still wanted to make a statement regardless. I find it odd that every sexual preference or attraction is being given its day in the sun, but we still can't equally find a place to declare our love for White women or black men. There are no Interracial Partner rallies, parades, marches, etc. If there was ever a group that needed an open platform were we support of one another it would have to be us. We are perhaps the only sexual preference that is polarized by racists views. I watch some of the youtubers, and while they may cover some angles on why a Black man might possibly want to date & marry white women (usually negative), it never seems a consideration that they are in fact beautiful sexy, and down-right irresistible. While I do like Black women as friends, I have never been particularly attracted to them. Although I did (in my earlier years) give in to social conventions, and married a Black women, outside of skin color and some of the music we listened to, we had absolutely nothing in common. Rather, I found myself living a double life, and even though I loved my then wife, my heart & soul belonged in the arms of a white-women, and it became painfully obvious over time. Believe me, it's not that there aren't black women who are attractive, etc. But it's just that... there is just something magical about white women.
 
cbond1c said:
I'm glad I somehow stumbled upon this site. I need to take time to read through all the comments, before I actually respond to someone's comments, but I still wanted to make a statement regardless. I find it odd that every sexual preference or attraction is being given its day in the sun, but we still can't equally find a place to declare our love for White women or black men. There are no Interracial Partner rallies, parades, marches, etc. If there was ever a group that needed an open platform were we support of one another it would have to be us. We are perhaps the only sexual preference that is polarized by racists views. I watch some of the youtubers, and while they may cover some angles on why a Black man might possibly want to date & marry white women (usually negative), it never seems a consideration that they are in fact beautiful sexy, and down-right irresistible. While I do like Black women as friends, I have never been particularly attracted to them. Although I did (in my earlier years) give in to social conventions, and married a Black women, outside of skin color and some of the music we listened to, we had absolutely nothing in common. Rather, I found myself living a double life, and even though I loved my then wife, my heart & soul belonged in the arms of a white-women, and it became painfully obvious over time. Believe me, it's not that there aren't black women who are attractive, etc. But it's just that... there is just something magical about white women.
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In a perfect world people should love who they love and don't need feel sorry about it. A IR isn't take the easy way because this couples will always deal with some shit and it doesn't stop after marriage or kids, people will always give some opinion about them that no one asked.
 
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Ra said:
Can people, especially all of you who claim to be so pro-Black Men/White Women unions on all levels, please stop referring to our relationships as "a sexual preferences". How do you expect society in general to view & respect our relationships as normal when people who supposedly are about this community don't even view themselves as normal?
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Exactly! We get mad at people sexualising our relationships but apparently we are doing it ourselves.
Edit: Maybe we shouldn’t get too mad at them after all, they are simply telling us what their relationships are about, right? Maybe they haven’t got to the stage where they are in it for more than some sort of sexual attraction, so...
 
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Madeleine said:
Exactly! We get mad at people sexualising our relationships but apparently we are doing it ourselves.
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Sexualizing, trivilizing & playing into all the stereotypes we say we don't want society doing to us. Funny how some people do that especially when they have the option to tap out if/when things aren't all faerie tale fantasy how they build IR relationships to be in their heads.
 
cbond1c said:
I'm glad I somehow stumbled upon this site. I need to take time to read through all the comments, before I actually respond to someone's comments, but I still wanted to make a statement regardless. I find it odd that every sexual preference or attraction is being given its day in the sun, but we still can't equally find a place to declare our love for White women or black men. There are no Interracial Partner rallies, parades, marches, etc. If there was ever a group that needed an open platform were we support of one another it would have to be us. We are perhaps the only sexual preference that is polarized by racists views. I watch some of the youtubers, and while they may cover some angles on why a Black man might possibly want to date & marry white women (usually negative), it never seems a consideration that they are in fact beautiful sexy, and down-right irresistible. While I do like Black women as friends, I have never been particularly attracted to them. Although I did (in my earlier years) give in to social conventions, and married a Black women, outside of skin color and some of the music we listened to, we had absolutely nothing in common. Rather, I found myself living a double life, and even though I loved my then wife, my heart & soul belonged in the arms of a white-women, and it became painfully obvious over time. Believe me, it's not that there aren't black women who are attractive, etc. But it's just that... there is just something magical about white women.
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Welcome to the forum!
If there ever was an ir rally, parade or March I’m definitely not attending. My standpoint is that I’m very normal and regular so I don’t need a rally to convince other people that what I’m doing is normal. I’m convincing them by acting like it’s actually a very normal, regular relationship because it is. Understand what I mean?
 
Ra said:
Sexualizing, trivilizing & playing into all the stereotypes we say we don't want society doing to us. Funny how some people do that especially when they have the option to tap out if/when things aren't all faerie tale fantasy how they build IR relationships to be in their heads.
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Well, there’s relationships and there’s jungle fever.
 
Madeleine said:
Edit: Maybe we shouldn’t get too mad at them after all, they are simply telling us what their relationships are about, right? Maybe they haven’t got to the stage where they are in it for more than some sort of sexual attraction, so...
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I'm not mad at anyone just starting to venture into IR relationships and trying to figure things out. I'm looking at the dabblers who have been "dating" IR for years or decades but still sound & act like clueless idiots at every turn.
 
Ra said:
Can people, especially all of you who claim to be so pro-Black Men/White Women unions on all levels, please stop referring to our relationships as "a sexual preferences". How do you expect society in general to view & respect our relationships as normal when people who supposedly are about this community don't even view themselves as normal?
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Madeleine said:
Exactly! We get mad at people sexualising our relationships but apparently we are doing it ourselves.
Edit: Maybe we shouldn’t get too mad at them after all, they are simply telling us what their relationships are about, right? Maybe they haven’t got to the stage where they are in it for more than some sort of sexual attraction, so...
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Madeleine said:
Welcome to the forum!
If there ever was an ir rally, parade or March I’m definitely not attending. My standpoint is that I’m very normal and regular so I don’t need a rally to convince other people that what I’m doing is normal. I’m convincing them by acting like it’s actually a very normal, regular relationship because it is. Understand what I mean?
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LOL!!! @Madeleine , I had the same sequence of knee jerk reactions. People do have the right to like what they like relationally AND sexually. But I agree with the larger point that @Ra and you were making: these relationships should not be exoticized or romanticized. Problem is, one of the things most people are too scared to examine in themselves is how much of their personal relational/sexual attraction is influenced by toxicity (eg, racism, objectification, colorism, inferiority complexes, pride, you can go on and on....).

One of the differences between IR couples and some other underrepresented groups is that they (I can't say "we" 'cause I'm very very single LOL) don't need rallies or marches to protect their basic rights, etc. To the extent they need anything like that, it's pretty much subsumed under the minority civil/economic rights struggles. What IR couples need, as you've both said, is complete normalization. That's what will slowly (too slowly) help show these relationships to be less exotic and more like the normal, unremarkable, healthy options they are.

Fortunately there's been lots of progress on that front. But we still have a long way to go.
 
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