Feeling Guilty About Attraction to White Women?

[Tamstrong]

Although, it's hard to argue against ignorance or someones disdain of something, you have to admit, it's nice to know what people truly think and when their agendas are clear.

It doesn't take long for someone to start showing their asses. SHE knows what she's doing. Did you notice the statement about not trying to split anyone up? That tells me that she thinks she can actually accomplish that. It's a damn shame. This is what she needs...:smt021

 

[Inner Beauty]

This tag team action betwen Tam and Ib is kinda hot.

LOL!

I think Tam and I have the same stance as well as other women on this site, we know that we're not the cause of the BW to BM ratio. There are other factors involved and women outnumber men in population as a whole, so it's never even.

It doesn't take long for someone to start showing their asses. SHE knows what she's doing. Did you notice the statement about not trying to split anyone up? That tells me that she thinks she can actually accomplish that. It's a damn shame. This is what she needs...:smt021

Most definitely!

She knew as soon as she registered as "Bruce" and hit, "Submit reply".

 

[Tamstrong]

This tag team action betwen Tam and Ib is kinda hot.

Glad you like it. lol IB is right we feel the same way about this subject, and evidently we both get pretty worked up about it.

LOL!

I think Tam and I have the same stance as well as other women on this site, we know that we're not the cause of the BW to BM ratio. There are other factors involved and women outnumber men in population as a whole, so it's never even.


Most definitely!

She knew as soon as she registered as "Bruce" and hit, "Submit reply".

I had a little back & forth with her on the DJ Hero thread too. lol

 

[Inner Beauty]

Glad you like it. lol IB is right we feel the same way about this subject, and evidently we both get pretty worked up about it.



I had a little back & forth with her on the DJ Hero thread too. lol

It's hard when you know your interest or attraction is genuine and people just gotta hate, cause they're unhappy with themselves or just have an all around negative outlook on life. There is a big ass world out there. So much more to focus on. If you're happy with yourself, then you should be able to attract someone, period.

I'll have to go check it out...lol

 

[Tamstrong]

It's hard when you know your interest or attraction is genuine and people just gotta hate, cause they're unhappy with themselves or just have an all around negative outlook on life. There is a big ass world out there. So much more to focus on. If you're happy with yourself, then you should be able to attract someone, period.

I'll have to go check it out...lol

That's true. The way I look at it is if I'm not bothering them then they shouldn't be messing with me. There are too many bitter & unhappy people running around that want everyone else to be as miserable as they are. People need to take responsibility for their own happiness & quit blaming their lack of it on everyone & everything else.

 

[Inner Beauty]

That's true. The way I look at it is if I'm not bothering them then they shouldn't be messing with me. There are too many bitter & unhappy people running around that want everyone else to be as miserable as they are. People need to take responsibility for their own happiness & quit blaming their lack of it on everyone & everything else.

Amen on all accounts!

 

[palmer]

I will echo what others on here have said and that is to not feel guilty. Make sure you are dating white women for the right reason. If your heart isn't truly in it, then maybe you shouldn't date them because you will get a lot of pressure both the outside world and the inside as well (family and friends).

I don't pay any attention those people anyways. Usually they are annoying to me as their relationships aren't any better and a lot of times they are far more worse than the one I'm in.

I would also add becareful of the white woman you choose to date. If she has dated black men before, try and find out what kind of guy he was. You'll be surprised, but there are a lot of white women that love dating the loser type thug black man. I avoid those types as they usually aren't good to date for anything long term.

 

[Blacktiger2005]

I will echo what others on here have said and that is to not feel guilty. Make sure you are dating white women for the right reason. If your heart isn't truly in it, then maybe you shouldn't date them because you will get a lot of pressure both the outside world and the inside as well (family and friends).

I don't pay any attention those people anyways. Usually they are annoying to me as their relationships aren't any better and a lot of times they are far more worse than the one I'm in.

I would also add becareful of the white woman you choose to date. If she has dated black men before, try and find out what kind of guy he was. You'll be surprised, but there are a lot of white women that love dating the loser type thug black man. I avoid those types as they usually aren't good to date for anything long term.

Amen to that. I have found that it's the family and friends of your mate that you have to deal with first and foremost. That was the case for me prior to my marriage with my wife. As far as the world of idiots out there who disapprove of your union. You should never let those bastards make you feel guilty or inferior. Like I say women want a real man not a wimp who can deal with the machinations from the ignorant. Yes to real men and no to wussies. Thank god for the gift of these ladies that he has given us. The least you can do is be strong for them.

 

[thefieryphoenix]

You should only feel guilty if you're getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons. If you're getting into a relationship a WW because you feel like its gonna raise your social status or because you're trying to stick it to the man. Then I can see why you might feel guilty. Same goes for WW who only date BM to rebel against there parents, date BM because of some Mandingo fantasy etc etc. If you truly care/love someone, skin color should be the last thing to come in the picture. Me personally I dont have a preference (its all pink at the end of the day ), if I find you attractive and we click, then grab on and hold on tight.

I could not have said this better!

 

[thefieryphoenix]

I guess if you weak minded adult male then you would feel guilty about having preference for white women. If you were real man like myself then this type of bitch ass shit wouldn't even cross your mind. I will never understand why black men are made to feel guilty for dating ir. It's like everyone is entitled to date outside their race but us. I've watched non black women that date us get a lot of ridicule for dating a black man. However, you never see these men bitch each other out for dating women outside their race. I watch how black women feel like they are entitled to dated outside their races but as soon as a black man does it, he's wrong. He should only desire black women definitely if he's successful. If black women have problem with me preferring to date white women then that is there problem, not mine. I don't owe the black female gender absolutely anything. I don't owe them companionship, love, respect, support, etc. If I choose to give them these things then I will. The way I see it brother is that any black man that's feel guilty for being attracted to a white woman isn't man at all. He's nothing but a brainwashed pussy that's not man enough to think for himself.

I have often wondered why it is that men of other races can date people of other races and not get the flack that we BM get for dating WW. It's really inexplicable!

 

[thefieryphoenix]

As a black man, I have NEVER felt guilty about being attracted to hot white women. :smt060

What's NOT to like?

Alrighty then!

 

[thefieryphoenix]

Why are you even here?

Great minds have to ask the same question. If he wants to marry black, he should be on BlackPlanet, not here.

 

[thefieryphoenix]

You're right over the very short term, but when you bring up the child of a black man and white woman as a counter example, you clearly can't see the forest for the trees. You understand Mendelian genetics, but what you're missing is evolutionary pressure. The very fact that black man is having children with a white woman, and not with a black woman (who is likely single instead) means the evolutionary pressure is away from darker skin.

And about Europe, you totally mis-understood me. I didn't mean that Europe has become lighter skinned over the last two years or something, I meant the fact that "white people" come from Europe. White people evolved not because god created them or by random chance, but because 10,000 years ago it was all covered in ice so there wasn't much food around, men could only afford in Europe to have one wife. So their (Men's) preference for lighter skin lead to the evolution of white people in the first place.

Anyway I didn't mean to stir up a hornets nest, this is just something I've been thinking about and as a black person it bothers me... I guess it shouldn't since black white we're all people and if black people over generations become lighter so be it.

PS. If you want scientific sources there's plenty online:
http://www.sciencemag.org/cgi/content/summary/316/5823/364a

EDIT: Also you're confusing concepts, the population does not become darker if for example all black men only had children with white women. It actually becomes lighter, there's more people that society would consider to be "black" but in reality the genes that code for dark skin are rarer.

Also I'm here because I do date white women, and the white women/black men phenomenon is something I've been thinking about so I thought this would be a good place to discuss it.

:smt011 You're beginning to sound like the haters in the KKK and the Nazi groups. Really, WHY do you waste time with white women if you feel this way????

 

[thefieryphoenix]

I still think you're Brucette, not Bruce, but whatever....

Do you ever discuss these "feelings" with your father (and even your mother)? I bet that makes for a wonderful topic at the dinner table.

So many BM marry WW? Please stay off the gossip blogs with all the "swirl" threads and whatever media is hyping up IR. Like I said, most BM are with BW!

If you're so worried about Sistas being manless/mateless, there's always YOU... You're a viable choice, Bruce. Not all successful BM are going after WW.

I don't think you really believe your last statement. A lot of people look at IR couples and think something negative, when in turn, it could be genuine.

Great point, Inner Beauty. After all, we are the ones whom society looks at with raised eyebrows. Most BM are with BW and with the end of laws banning interracial marriages, BW do have Asian, white, Native American and Hispanic males as dating options.

 

[thefieryphoenix]

I'm not accepting any of this so-called scientific bullshit you're slinging MISS Thang! All the garbage that you've been posting tells me you don't belong here. The fact that you are anti wwbm is obvious. So go to one of the sites that are NOT IR because you won't find what you're looking for here. If you want to be a troublemaker, do it somewhere else.

Another good point by Tamstrong! Can somebody rep her, please?

 

[GQ Brotha]

I love dating white women and will continue to.

What does guilt have to do with anything. Guilt for what. I don't owe black women anything in 2011 and they don't owe me anything.

They are free to date other Black, White, Asian, Hispanic, Indian men in a free country.

I know what i like, white women, and I go for it, that simple. That is what is interesting to me and attracts me.

 

[SmoothDaddy101]

I see we have another dude playing a girl who's playing a dude...

 

[MissWacy]

You best believe BW that date IR never go through bullshit like this...nor do they have to explain why they don't date Brothers.

BM seem to be the only ones booking reservations for the guilt trip.

very true, ive often seen bw bash black men something rotten and get praised for it while uplifting their white bf etc as the "perfect father" "perfect upbringing" etc, the way ive seen black women attack black men for liking white women tis pretty sad to be honest, just shows you how intimidated people have gotten these days

 

[GQ Brotha]

very true, ive often seen bw bash black men something rotten and get praised for it while uplifting their white bf etc as the "perfect father" "perfect upbringing" etc, the way ive seen black women attack black men for liking white women tis pretty sad to be honest, just shows you how intimidated people have gotten these days

I know what you mean on that front. There are also some black men who do the same to black women when dating white girls.

This is my motto when it comes to black women.

1. I don't date them because I am not attracted to them
2. I don't talk about them negatively in front of white girls.
3. I keep things to hi and goodbye on an interaction level, never put forth any sense of interest in them, so they know the score when they interact with me after a while.

This is one brotha that isn't going to be trying to get that ass like some thirsty dudes they deal with.

When I hear a black woman talking rubbish about a black guy while dating a man of another race, it doesn't bother me in the least, because of that list I posted above.

I know what kind of black man I am, what my personality is like and why I like white women. So a black woman could speak until the world comes to an end and for me it will be like water off a ducks back, because I'm not checking for them in any interpersonal way whatsoever in my life.

Some people have to put down others because of their own personal motives. I'm not about to argue with a woman because she thinks X,Y and Z about a black man and I'm not a vanguard for black men and usually am in no mood to hear a lecture about their ills. I'm worried about my own darn life.

The reason I don't get upset about any negativity by black women is because I date interracially and I'm not attracted to them so therefore I can ignore them quite easily when they start yapping.

 

[MissWacy]

The way the game is played is,its basically ok for a nonblack guy to be with a black woman but as soon as a black guy gets with a nonblack woman,its problems.

Its gotten to the point now where men who ARE NOT WHITE are trying to keep white women away from black men. The guy in this video is from some where on the asian continent and is hating on Ww preferring black men over them Asians.

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yes ive seen this video too, alot of white girls in this country especially in the london parts do not like indian men, pakistani men etc period, you will get the odd rare coupling of a ww and asian guy but its very rare, alot of white girls ive known over the years find them repulsive etc, personaly im not attracted to any of them

the guys reasons are hillarious, hes screaming jealousy and ass hurt, especially saying when a white girl gets a black bf then her friends will want one lmao, hes mad cos no white girl wants his nasty ass, ive noticed these non white men tryin to keep away white girls from black guys, its weird