I will admit I have and will continue to chubby chase

[Esoterik Dreadz]

Absolutely, this is what some brothas don't grasp, some white dudes can't help themselves but run their mouth when they see a black man with a white woman.

Let us say a lot of black men go out with fat white women, why do some white guys still get so upset about Interracial relationships.

They do because it goes beyond the physical it goes to their core as a body blow to their ego. If it wasn't significant to them they would keep their mouth closed, but it still chafes at them because its the very idea of Black Man/White Woman.

Whatever kind of woman you like as a MAN, you go for that and do your thing. I'm not checking for who the next man is with, it doesn't impact me.

If you know you don't date fat white women then why stress what some "so called friends" have to say. As Max pointed out if you had walked in with the skinniest white girl on your arm, they would still utter rubbish.

The last person that can be given any credibility to speak when it comes to black men/ white women interracial relationships is white men, they are not exactly reliable sources at dealing altruistically with black men, white women relationships. I think history speaks to that.

...You date fat chicks don't you?

 

[Ymra]

All i'm asking for is brothas to raise their standards. I'm sorry if i'm hurting the feelings of plus sized women here on the boards but notice when you see white guys with black women they date the cream of the crop. Alot of black guys mentality is "if it has white flesh thats good enough for me" FUCK THAT SHIT. Raise your standards. And stop chasing after these heffers. A girl like Sweden is fine looking (although she looked her best in that first pic in the yellow) but dating some nasty obese chick is just wrong. Just saying.

You missed my point didn't you?

In any event, I'm not attracted to big women.........but if a cat like big women, and he likes big white women. hey so be it. If that is what the brutha likes, that is what that brutha likes. FUCK dating standards...

..truth be known the Negro needs to up grade a lot more important standards than the weight of the woman's he's dating.

 

[GQ Brotha]

I'm sure if you were 60 lbs lighter you probably wouldn't be fucking with black dudes. Same as white women who reach their 40's and suddenly realize they loved black men all along. If the white guys aren't hollering, guess the brothas will. Black men need some set of standards too. And this thread does nothing to help that.

Then how would that explain all the different kind of white women that are attracted to black guys, surely they aren't all fat.

This is why I can't get worked up about this, because I have seen black men with all kinds of white women. I've seen white men with fat white women as well.

I understand what you are saying about "SOME" brothas needing standards, but all you can do is you. Black men have been laced with stereotypes and I don't check for them because they don't apply to me in my personal life, values and morals. So those who speak about said stereotypes are just whistling Dixie. A confident man will handle his and not worry about others ignorance.

 

[Esoterik Dreadz]

You missed my point didn't you?

In any event, I'm not attracted to big women.........but if a cat like big women, and he likes big white women. hey so be it. If that is what the brutha likes, that is what that brutha likes. FUCK dating standards...

..truth be known the Negro needs to up grade a lot more important standards than the weight of the woman's he's dating.

And you're missing my point as well. Look, all black men can agree that we are judged on the whole not as individuals. Wht one black guy does reflects on the rest of us because racist white america views us as one entity. It's why we get pissed when we see a police report on tv and the perp turns out to be black. Or how i yell at black kids on the subway who curse and act a fool. If we can be critical of that, why can't be critical of how some brothas chubby chase? Shit ain't doing me no favors.

 

[Kushton Slater]

Thank you, brotha! Thats all i'm saying. I used to date this white girl from my old job at American Express who was this banging banging blonde from california. She looked like a young Heather Locklear. We went out on a couple dates at restaurants and clubs and every white man would be staring daggers and brothas would be giving me dap at the bar going "Thats how you do it, son!" Thats the type of game a brotha should be showing. Not rolling into the club with Lisa Lampanelli. You feel me?

If that makes me wrong, lock me up. But i know you guys feel me, you jsut too chicken to hurt feelings in here.

When I said lower/higher end I was referring to more than just body type, I was referring to attitude, personality, etc. Given the example you gave, I could still apply what I said, Heather comes off like she has manners, good personality, etc (high end). and Lisa Lampanelli is loud, unlady like, lacking in manners, etc (low end).

 

[GQ Brotha]

...You date fat chicks don't you?

SMH, That is the best you have brotha.

Come on with more than that already.

This had nothing to do with fat or skinny, it had to do with recognizing that some white dude and what he has to say about interracial relationships between black men and white women is not to be viewed credibly because just look at the reaction to interracial dating.

You said it yourself you walked in the bar with a fine white girl and the white dudes were staring.

That is what's up, it is the very idea of black/white that gets to them and makes them run their mouth foolishly. Bigoted people will say the darnedest things. Pure chatterboxes of regurgitated stereotypes. How much credibility can someone like that be given.

 

[Esoterik Dreadz]

SMH, That is the best you have brotha.

Come on with more than that already.

This had nothing to do with fat or skinny, it had to do with recognizing that some white dude and what he has to say about interracial relationships between black men and white women is not to be viewed credibly because just look at the reaction to interracial dating.

You said it yourself you walked in the bar with a fine white girl and the white dudes were staring.

That is what's up, it is the very idea of black/white that gets to them and makes them run their mouth foolishly. Bigoted people will say the darnedest things. Pure chatterboxes of regurgitated stereotypes. How much credibility can someone like that be given.

Please, they already think we take their leftovers and trash. So when you actually showup with a good looking white woman, they really get mad. Look at Lisa Lampanelli's whole schtick, hwite guys find her funny because they believe thats the type of white women we attract. I hate that bitches guts.

They don't care if we're dating those kinds of women, what they do care is when guys like Sam Jones III is dating his hot gf. then you see the hate pour in.

 

[GQ Brotha]

racist white america views us as one entity.

And you know what that is called "IGNORANCE"

Black men don't walk, talk the same, we don't all like the same kind of women, some are educated, some are thugs, some pull our pants up some don't.

That we are viewed as one entity says it all and attests to what I'm saying about not giving credibility to that kind of mentality, some white dude that is already bitter anyway about seeing a white woman who would dare to be with a black man, so she must be fat or white trash or low class or some other stereotype, it can't just be love.

Read between the lines brotha, its not just about fat or skinny, its the idea, look at the history of what happened to black men in this country for even looking at white women and you will see what's up.

The mental is more powerful than the physical stereotypes that the bigots manifest, when they open up their mouths.

If you are a confident, proud, assertive black man you have no reason to sweat that.

 

[cyn1988]

Agreed, GQ Brotha.

Look, to tell someone they need standards is ignorant. Some people, both black and white, are attracted to overweight people. Maybe their "standard" is that they don't want to date thin people! Imagine that!

It's tough to be an overweight woman -- I used to be one. You don't get much attention from guys of any race. So yes, you may well snap up the first guy to come along but he could be of any race. When I did get attention from guys, it was by no means only black guys. Plenty of white guys are "chubby chasers."

Can't we spend our time worrying about much bigger problems than this? No pun intended.

 

[GQ Brotha]

Please, they already think we take their leftovers and trash. So when you actually showup with a good looking white woman, they really get mad. Look at Lisa Lampanelli's whole schtick, hwite guys find her funny because they believe thats the type of white women we attract. I hate that bitches guts.

They don't care if we're dating those kinds of women, what they do care is when guys like Sam Jones III is dating his hot gf. then you see the hate pour in.

When you are with a white woman, you honestly care what a white guy thinks.

Man you are feeding right into them.

Lets see black men date fat white women, low class white women, she has daddy issues, she is doing it to get back at the white man, she is a liberal and feels sorry for the wrongs of the past, she thinks he is an accessory and its cool because of the Jewish media and the list can go on and on.

You would do very well my brotha to not care one iota what a white dude thinks, you should let that be his problem to rationalize in his own mind.

Ask yourself this why would a white guy feel compelled to talk about a fat white woman and black men, when they fully well know all kinds of white women date black men, just look around us in everyday life.

They do care when a black man is dating a white woman, or else they would never make such comments, they would not even think about it, but it comes into their minds because it affects them because of the nature of the relationship and history.

I don't talk about black women with white men and you know why I don't care about it, because it doesn't mater to me. I'm not checking for either one so I don't need to stress it or make lame commentaries.

There are black guys dating hot white women all over, so ask yourself this why do they focus on the "fat white woman" angle, because it is what they have left to be negative and off putting in behavior about.

Its easy fodder to appease their ego. I don't think one truly can undesrtand the idea of a white woman appreciating a black man over a white man in society, given the way black men are often stereotyped and what that means to an insecure white man. A white dude to your face will make those kind of subtle cheeky commentaries, if any at all, but nothing overt. They save that for behind closed doors and among themselves.

Keep doing you brotha and say fuck the ignorance.

 

[LA]

When you are with a white woman, you honestly care what a white guy thinks.

Man you are feeding right into them.

Lets see black men date fat white women, low class white women, she has daddy issues, she is doing it to get back at the white man, she is a liberal and feels sorry for the wrongs of the past, she thinks he is an accessory and its cool because of the Jewish media and the list can go on and on.

You would do very well my brotha to not care one iota what a white dude thinks, you should let that be his problem to rationalize in his own mind.

Ask yourself this why would a white guy feel compelled to talk about a fat white woman and black men, when they fully well know all kinds of white women date black men, just look around us in everyday life.

They do care when a black man is dating a white woman, or else they would never make such comments, they would not even think about it, but it comes into their minds because it affects them because of the nature of the relationship and history.

I don't talk about black women with white men and you know why I don't care about it, because it doesn't mater to me. I'm not checking for either one so I don't need to stress it or make lame commentaries.

There are black guys dating hot white women all over, so ask yourself this why do they focus on the "fat white woman" angle, because it is what they have left to be negative and off putting in behavior about.

Its easy fodder to appease their ego. I don't think one truly can undesrtand the idea of a white woman appreciating a black man over a white man in society, given the way black men are often stereotyped and what that means to an insecure white man. A white dude to your face will make those kind of subtle cheeky commentaries, if any at all, but nothing overt. They save that for behind closed doors and among themselves.

Keep doing you brotha and say fuck the ignorance.

 

[Arwen]

So i can't share my opinion? Last time i checked this was a public forum. Secondly, people are only as shallow as their situation allows. I'm sure if you were 60 lbs lighter you probably wouldn't be fucking with black dudes. Same as white women who reach their 40's and suddenly realize they loved black men all along. If the white guys aren't hollering, guess the brothas will. Black men need some set of standards too. And this thread does nothing to help that.

No offense to you.

Of course you can share my opinion. I was just messing with you about the "NEXT" thing because U have no idea about the fights there were around here about this topic
And believe me, I'm seeing more black men with thin women than white ones lately.

And I actually have been 60lbs lighter (wich looks kinds unhealty on me) and I've been "fucking" with black dudes anyways, hunny

Why can't you people just think that maybe some of us just like you? When I had my first black boyfriend do you think I had any idea about the stupid "standard" thing you guys had going on in the US? Who da fuck cared bout that? LOL
And LOL at you thinking that we are white men's trash. Oh baby, you really don't know

 

[Arwen]

I'm not gonna attack you about this, dude. So you don't like big girls. Plenty of girls who don't like big men either, but seriously why are you so bothered about people approaching you, complimenting you and thinking you're good looking? All you have to say is 'sorry I'm not interested' regardless of whether they're a size 2 or 20. And you also mention the stereotype of fat white women... do only fat white women chat you up? Do fat black/hispanic/asian women never do it?

I personally don't get why people complain about people chatting them up, even if they don't consider them to be attractive. Be complimeted that someone thinks you're cute. If you don't like them, why bust in with the stereotype bullshit? Just take it as a compliment, shrug it off and move onto the next one.

Babe, you always make so much sense. I agree with what you said.

.first off Sweden is a big girl...she is....and she's fine as hell too. But why is there is knee jerk reaction to pretend that big woman isn't what she is?

Who said we were pretending. Listen, maybe we have different views on what a big girl is. Big girl isn't TALL. There's a difference. Even though in the last pic she has some more chubbiness compared to the other pics, how can you say she's big? In the first pics you can even see the abs. Come on. Nothing is all black or white. BIG are the girls in the BBW thread for me. There are many shades of "chubbiness" between being slander and obese.
I guess it's just personal.

Very well said, Arwen (aka TS) except for the chubby part because you ain't "chubby".

haha babe, I'm not chubby, I'm obese according to these dudes, but u know what, I never had one single man complaining about my obesity in the right moments

Watch out brotha. They gonna come at your head now. People don't like to hear the truth around here.

I need to have a look at the DSM IV to see what all this might mean...

dating some nasty obese chick is just wrong. Just saying.

We accept your opinion, it's just that maybe you should hang out with a sign on your forehead that says "no nasty fat white chicks" so you would be happy? Just an advice.

 

[Esoterik Dreadz]

Of course you can share my opinion. I was just messing with you about the "NEXT" thing because U have no idea about the fights there were around here about this topic
And believe me, I'm seeing more black men with thin women than white ones lately.

And I actually have been 60lbs lighter (wich looks kinds unhealty on me) and I've been "fucking" with black dudes anyways, hunny

Why can't you people just think that maybe some of us just like you? When I had my first black boyfriend do you think I had any idea about the stupid "standard" thing you guys had going on in the US? Who da fuck cared bout that? LOL
And LOL at you thinking that we are white men's trash. Oh baby, you really don't know

Never said i thought you wer're white men's trash. I SAID THATS WHAT WHITE MEN THINK.

 

[Arwen]

hey, don't try to turn the omelette upside down now LOL

 

[Sweden]

(Pardon for my spelling)
Well like you all said, everybody has different oppinons on what is big/fat/obese.
I consider myself being quite overweight but I pull it off. I like my body and only wanna lose weight to be able to move around better and be more healthier.

I been with white men up until I was 20. Then met I black guy and after that I'm mostly drawn to bm. And it has nothing to do with my weight...I can still get white men aswell. I like how bm is more forward and not shy, they go after what they want.

We all like what we like and how would the world be if we all liked the same things....BOOORING.

Well I can only speak for myself but what ever happen to personality? Looks is one thing but it's nothing if you are an ashole!

 

[GQ Brotha]

(Pardon for my spelling)
Well like you all said, everybody has different oppinons on what is big/fat/obese.
I consider myself being quite overweight but I pull it off. I like my body and only wanna lose weight to be able to move around better and be more healthier.

I been with white men up until I was 20. Then met I black guy and after that I'm mostly drawn to bm. And it has nothing to do with my weight...I can still get white men aswell. I like how bm is more forward and not shy, they go after what they want.

We all like what we like and how would the world be if we all liked the same things....BOOORING.



Well I can only speak for myself but what ever happen to personality? Looks is one thing but it's nothing if you are an ashole!

And this is why I cannot take seriously and with any credibility an outsider commenting on someone's personal relationship that they know nothing about.

Black Men/White Women relationships always have to be laced with stereotypes and analyzed to infinite proportions. There always has to be an underlying condition.

Do people spend this much time on analyzing White men/Asian women, White men/black women, Asian men/white women, etc, etc.

Something about the nature of a white woman and black man really gets folks talking and seeking reasons for it.

I imagine its part of the American cultural history that plays into that mindset here in America.

It just seems to me that people need to learn respect and how to mind their own business, and not come out of their face about the relationship of people they know nothing about, which leads to the formulation of ignorant, stereotypical and uninformed opinions.

Its simple for me I'm black and I like white women that simple. No mystery or hidden reasons in that. Its what I am interested in.

 

[Ymra]

And you know what that is called "IGNORANCE"

Black men don't walk, talk the same, we don't all like the same kind of women, some are educated, some are thugs, some pull our pants up some don't.

Agreed on the surface but there are some common traits that bind us as a group. And he, you, and I all generalize. "You must like fat women" was a weak argument and so is "you can't say all"

 

[Ymra]

Do people spend this much time on analyzing White men/Asian women, White men/black women, Asian men/white women, etc, etc.

Yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss. I'm a member of an Asian message board and they talk about the same shit

They talk about the same shit on black board. This topic is not unique to black men liking whit women.

I agree with one thing you said. The whole idea that "White women that no white man would want are the only ones that date black men" is fucking STUPID.

No ignorant

STUPID.

And not supported by anything other than the bruthaz silly personal observation. Really just doesn't support this at all.

 

[GQ Brotha]

Never said i thought you wer're white men's trash. I SAID THATS WHAT WHITE MEN THINK.

And you know why some white men say that, because of their own bitterness and bruised manhood that a white woman would want a black man over them. That is usually when they will blurt out all the little stereotypical cliches like a fountain of sewage. Think for a second about why they do that. :smt115

How does someone know that someone is trash if they don't even know that person who is just walking down the street in everyday life.

You focus way too much on what white men think brotha. When I'm with a white girl I don't focus on what some strange white man thinks, free country, he can think about whatever he wants, that's his condition to deal with internally, may it eat him up if he can't get over it.

If you are a strong black man that is doing the right things and loving your woman then that is what its about, not what some irrelevant individual thinks.

It takes a miserable and bitter person to worry about the personal lives of others, nothing positive can be gained from that.