How do I get a white woman?

Athena said:
Exactly Whikle. Looking good and supporting yourself doesn't make up for a lack of personality and humour. I've been hit on by successful, built, educated attractive men but their mannerisms/personality were such a turn off, I couldn't consider anything past the first date.
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This here is a testament to the difficulties that men have with women. I'm not fat, I've never been fat. In fact, several girls on here have seen my pic and commented positively on my looks. The advice that I get from people offline is usually just "lower your standards". It's never "You should lose some weight", or "You should get a job", or "Maybe you should move out of your mom's basement", or "you should dress better". Those are all stereotypical reasons for being unsuccessful with women and none of them apply to me.

I am more of a solemn person. I have an old-world type of solemnity most of the time and I'm not the kind of person who's usually the life of the party. But I think that most women are unwilling to forgive me this flaw (if you can call it that) even though my positives outweigh my negatives.
 
whikle said:
You know, when I read this (and I've read it a thousand times from you and never given it much thought) my mind wandered to a guy that I work with... He's buff, he obviously spends a lot of time working out AND he has a very high paying job with a nice city high-rise apartment. But he's pretty awkward with the ladies and girls don't respond so well to him because of his approach. (My girlfriend and I have both experienced this first hand...)

So while those things might go a long way, they're not necessarily guaranteeing success.
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Athena said:
Exactly Whikle. Looking good and supporting yourself doesn't make up for a lack of personality and humour. I've been hit on by successful, built, educated attractive men but their mannerisms/personality were such a turn off, I couldn't consider anything past the first date.
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DJ_1985 said:
This here is a testament to the difficulties that men have with women. I'm not fat, I've never been fat. In fact, several girls on here have seen my pic and commented positively on my looks. The advice that I get from people offline is usually just "lower your standards". It's never "You should lose some weight", or "You should get a job", or "Maybe you should move out of your mom's basement", or "you should dress better". Those are all stereotypical reasons for being unsuccessful with women and none of them apply to me.

I am more of a solemn person. I have an old-world type of solemnity most of the time and I'm not the kind of person who's usually the life of the party. But I think that most women are unwilling to forgive me this flaw (if you can call it that) even though my positives outweigh my negatives.
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go back and read what I posted. you will be half-way there in being successful. remember, you arent a loser until you gave up. you just need to think on these if she turned you down:

1) she may have issues...like trying to get off drugs or something or she may have a man.

2) you could have approached her wrong so tightened it up. sugar attract more flies not vinegar. dont over do it with the compliments . Its a compliment when you approached her...she knows that.

3) when it comes to a compliment (obn the first date) just say you like the outfit or her hair style because women put a lot of effort in looking good for a date than a man so acknowledge. but dont over do it !!!!!!!!

4) always be dressed in a proper manner. You dont have to spend a lot of money to look good and always look decent at least when you are just hanging out because you will never know when you are about to run up on a hot one. you should at least look like this:

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because its classic and affordable. you can go to target (my favorite) , walmart, s and k , mens wear house and J.C. Penny's to get a low price out fit. you can put jeans on and still be fly. You can get those dressy T-shirts (no wife beaters) that have nice colors like black, blue grey ect...

then the shoes ....you can get decent shoes for about 50-100 bucks and be decent. as long as they are clean and dressy you are str8. you would at least need 3 shoes in your closet. 2 dressy (black and brown/moroon) and nice athletic shoes (leather)

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now you are suited and booted
 
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goodlove said:
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because its classic and affordable. you can go to target (my favorite) , walmart, s and k , mens wear house and J.C. Penny's to get a low price out fit. you can put jeans on and still be fly. You can get those dressy T-shirts (no wife beaters) that have nice colors like black, blue grey ect...

then the shoes ....you can get decent shoes for about 50-100 bucks and be decent. as long as they are clean and dressy you are str8. you would at least need 3 shoes in your closet. 2 dressy (black and brown/moroon) and nice athletic shoes (leather)

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barney_8091.jpg


Barney-Stinson-Wallpaper-172722974

now you are suited and booted
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Fortunately for me, I've always had good taste in clothes, and parents who were willing to buy them. Dressing well is not something that I had a problem with in my younger years and it's definitely not something that I have a problem with now. I just need personality and humor, as Athena mentioned - or rather, I need to work on expressing my personality and humor to women. Most women have no personality and humor at all, and so they want you to be the jester. With men, it's not as hard to be recognized as an interesting person because there's usually a mutual level of interaction; not one person trying to entertain while the other waits for the punchline.
 
DJ_1985 said:
Fortunately for me, I've always had good taste in clothes, and parents who were willing to buy them. Dressing well is not something that I had a problem with in my younger years and it's definitely not something that I have a problem with now. I just need personality and humor, as Athena mentioned - or rather, I need to work on expressing my personality and humor to women. Most women have no personality and humor at all, and so they want you to be the jester. With men, it's not as hard to be recognized as an interesting person because there's usually a mutual level of interaction; not one person trying to entertain while the other waits for the punchline.
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This!

To be fair I am beginning to suspect that changes later in life but people around our group are shit out of luck though lol
 
DJ_1985 said:
I just need personality and humor, as Athena mentioned - or rather, I need to work on expressing my personality and humor to women. Most women have no personality and humor at all, and so they want you to be the jester. With men, it's not as hard to be recognized as an interesting person because there's usually a mutual level of interaction; not one person trying to entertain while the other waits for the punchline.
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Perhaps it's most women that you've encountered lol. I've got personality and humour and need it to be matched in my mate. But hey, I don't live in NY and am not 20 years old anymore thank god, so as DK mentioned, maybe life just gets better with age :D Although I've always had a really dark sense of humor, thankfully in my line of work, it's considered a healthy coping mechanism and not a form of deviance. Good luck DJ, I know the dating world is challenging & frankly not that terribly fun if you're looking for a real relationship...
 
The Dark Knight said:
What's your definition?
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For me, a real relationship would mirror my desires: a woman who's fit, capable of satisfying my sexual needs when required, and financially supporting herself. Being somewhat intellectual wouldn't hurt either but I could deal with nonintellectual ones.
 
DJ_1985 said:
For me, a real relationship would mirror my desires: a woman who's fit, capable of satisfying my sexual needs when required, and financially supporting herself. Being somewhat intellectual wouldn't hurt either but I could deal with nonintellectual ones.
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That doesn't sound too hard to find
 
DJ_1985 said:
For me, a real relationship would mirror my desires: a woman who's fit, capable of satisfying my sexual needs when required, and financially supporting herself. Being somewhat intellectual wouldn't hurt either but I could deal with nonintellectual ones.
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I would think that being with a person who is not your intellectual equal would get very boring very quickly.

Smart people are better lovers, anyway.
 
The Dark Knight said:
I guess it depends on your needs. The only way I know for sure we both cum is if I'm in control. Just lay back and relax I got it.
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Now see, really smart women have sense enough to let you do just that. ;-) As a woman, the one place I do not want to be in control is in the bedroom.
 
TreePixie said:
I would think that being with a person who is not your intellectual equal would get very boring very quickly.

Smart people are better lovers, anyway.
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I generally find women to be boring so it doesn't matter much to me. I'm not like "Oh my god, it's a boring woman".
 
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