Men have always been judged for their ability to provide for their mate. That's the way it's been, the way it's always going to be. Being willing to marry a doctor doesn't mean a nurse will only find doctors acceptable marriage material was the point; we're talking about women having unrealistic expectations for a husband.
For most professional women the standard from my experience is meet me where I'm at, don't bring both of us down.
It's not salary that makes some women's expectations unrealistic, it's all the other soap opera perfection many want in a relationship that dooms many of their love lives from the jump.
I feel like too many men have forgotten how to BE men in a relationship, which has nothing at all with living up to some women's stratospheric expectations. If a man doesn't know how to give a woman a 'reality check' and accurately assess his own value, he's not really cut out for being married.
Again, most of the women I know aren't bitches, they aren't dreamy high schoolers whose idyllic fantasies dominate their entire waking lives.
Yes there are women who sabotage their own relationships with their attitudes and expectations, but I know sooooo many adult men who would rather play video games than fuck their woman at night.
People are becoming more self-centered on both sides, which is not the best disposition to have in a LTR for both men and women.
If you're focus is 'ME' and not 'WE', guess what??? Eventually your marriage is going to turn into a steamy pile of doo doo that no one wants to own anymore.
There's no doubt that some women dig the asshole, maybe see him as a challenge perhaps. In all fairness though there's plenty of men that complain right here on the boards that they don't want a woman who would rather stay home and raise a bunch of munchkins, yet those very women are getting the most attention right here on the boards, as an example.
(As an aside: I believe that raising good human beings is a tougher job than any outside the home and women/men that stay home and do that have my respect.)
So it goes both ways which I guess is stating the obvious. I won't add more because TDK especially, knows how I feel about this topic...
Men have always been judged for their ability to provide for their mate. That's the way it's been, the way it's always going to be. Being willing to marry a doctor doesn't mean a nurse will only find doctors acceptable marriage material was the point; we're talking about women having unrealistic expectations for a husband.
For most professional women the standard from my experience is meet me where I'm at, don't bring both of us down.
It's not salary that makes some women's expectations unrealistic, it's all the other soap opera perfection many want in a relationship that dooms many of their love lives from the jump.
I feel like too many men have forgotten how to BE men in a relationship, which has nothing at all with living up to some women's stratospheric expectations. If a man doesn't know how to give a woman a 'reality check' and accurately assess his own value, he's not really cut out for being married.
Again, most of the women I know aren't bitches, they aren't dreamy high schoolers whose idyllic fantasies dominate their entire waking lives.
Yes there are women who sabotage their own relationships with their attitudes and expectations, but I know sooooo many adult men who would rather play video games than fuck their woman at night.
People are becoming more self-centered on both sides, which is not the best disposition to have in a LTR for both men and women.
If you're focus is 'ME' and not 'WE', guess what??? Eventually your marriage is going to turn into a steamy pile of doo doo that no one wants to own anymore.
artyman:
Yes but they are good and add to the discussion. So keep doing it.
