Going White

RaiderLL said:
Are you saying 85-90% of us date y'all because we have daddy issues? Even the implication that daddy issues would be an underlying force driving the majority of us to bm is insulting to both ww and bm. Give yourselves some credit. It's sad that you find it hard to believe that most of us love bm just because, without any sort of ulterior motive (or the need for y'all to be wealthy/famous).
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Thank you so much for saying this!

Only when we move beyond the stereotypes and generalizations will IRRs be seen simply as genuine, mutual attraction and expressions of love instead of overused clichés.
 
Apollonia said:
Thank you so much for saying this!

Only when we move beyond the stereotypes and generalizations will IRRs be seen simply as genuine, mutual attraction and expressions of love instead of overused clichés.
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True dat. To me its so varied that I don't think one can say why anyone likes anyone else with certainty. Attraction isn't something that can be measured accurately and certainly not what attracts folks to each other mentally.

I might like a white girl because she has a flat ass, the next guy might like another white girl because she has a fat ass, ditto short hair, long hair and these are just the physical things for starters. :D
 
RaiderLL said:
Are you saying 85-90% of us date y'all because we have daddy issues? Even the implication that daddy issues would be an underlying force driving the majority of us to bm is insulting to both ww and bm. Give yourselves some credit. It's sad that you find it hard to believe that most of us love bm just because, without any sort of ulterior motive (or the need for y'all to be wealthy/famous).
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miss pretty eyes for the win! :cool:
 
foxyred said:
I thought it was about time I actually started a thread and this is something Ive always wondered about.

Everyone knows the saying that once you go black you dont go back and in the case of some white women I think thats definately true. But do some black men have similar feelings about white women.

Ive known a few black guys who say they are not attracted to black women anymore or at the very lease prefer white women over black. But Ive never really been sure if that’s true or if they were just saying it.

Are there an black guys on here who wouldn’t date a black women anymore?
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I have a strong preference for brunettes and their black haired sisters, I don't know why but I do. I would date a black woman very happily but they aren't many in Cardiff. Cardiff is very cool in terms of IR but its also a very white city. Not that i'm complaining :smt080
 
RaiderLL said:
Are you saying 85-90% of us date y'all because we have daddy issues? Even the implication that daddy issues would be an underlying force driving the majority of us to bm is insulting to both ww and bm. Give yourselves some credit. It's sad that you find it hard to believe that most of us love bm just because, without any sort of ulterior motive (or the need for y'all to be wealthy/famous).
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Thank for this, I really appreciate your comment.
 
The Dark King said:
Things may be different now but that wasn't the case for the majority of my dating life. In fact my last gf was the only girl I dated who had a good relationship with her dad. The vast majority either didn't speak to their dad or he was dead
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Obviously I won't argue with your personal experiences, but rest assured there are many of us (dare I say most of us) who love you just because. I don't need to have daddy issues to know how amazing bm are.

Apollonia said:
Thank you so much for saying this!

Only when we move beyond the stereotypes and generalizations will IRRs be seen simply as genuine, mutual attraction and expressions of love instead of overused clichés.
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Agreed :smt023

medullaslashin said:
miss pretty eyes for the win! :cool:
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So sweet to me :smt008

Redex said:
Thank for this, I really appreciate your comment.
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Anytime. Just speaking the truth! :freehug:
 
RaiderLL said:
Obviously I won't argue with your personal experiences, but rest assured there are many of us (dare I say most of us) who love you just because. I don't need to have daddy issues to know how amazing bm are.
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Here I thought all along it was because we were Big, Black, Negro Bucks with Mandingo Dicks swinging down to our knees. :D
 
RaiderLL said:
Are you saying 85-90% of us date y'all because we have daddy issues? Even the implication that daddy issues would be an underlying force driving the majority of us to bm is insulting to both ww and bm. Give yourselves some credit. It's sad that you find it hard to believe that most of us love bm just because, without any sort of ulterior motive (or the need for y'all to be wealthy/famous).
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Again you're in the 10-15% percentile. Please don't act like daddy (or asshole ex) issues don't drive some WW's choices

Don't get me wrong, it works for me :D

My comment was half-facetious, please climb down from the PC soapbox
 
GQ Brotha said:
Here I thought all along it was because we were Big, Black, Negro Bucks with Mandingo Dicks swinging down to our knees. :D
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...that, and we have daddy issues, or we want to be a rebel, or can't get hot white guys because we're too old/fat/ugly...

:smt120

I never heard so many stupid reasons for why WW date BM until I joined this forum.
 
Ches said:
...that, and we have daddy issues, or we want to be a rebel, or can't get hot white guys because we're too old/fat/ugly...

:smt120

I never heard so many stupid reasons for why WW date BM until I joined this forum.
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No more than BM have to hear he "can't handle a strong black woman" or he "hates his mama, sisters, and aunts" or "white women are doormats and pushovers"

You had to join a forum to hear what BM hear IRL all the time :D
 
Richard Bare said:
No more than BM have to hear he "can't handle a strong black woman" or he "hates his mama, sisters, and aunts" or "white women are doormats and pushovers"

You had to join a forum to hear what BM hear IRL all the time :D
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It's not WW telling you those things. On here, it's BM trying to tell some of us why we date you.
 
Richard Bare said:
Again you're in the 10-15% percentile. Please don't act like daddy (or asshole ex) issues don't drive some WW's choices

Don't get me wrong, it works for me :D

My comment was half-facetious, please climb down from the PC soapbox
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"Some" doesn't equate to 90%. Didn't intend to make it seem like a PC soapbox, just calling bullshit when I see it. :)
 
Ches said:
...that, and we have daddy issues, or we want to be a rebel, or can't get hot white guys because we're too old/fat/ugly...

:smt120

I never heard so many stupid reasons for why WW date BM until I joined this forum.
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You didn't date black men until you were sixty lol
 
Richard Bare said:
No more than BM have to hear he "can't handle a strong black woman" or he "hates his mama, sisters, and aunts" or "white women are doormats and pushovers"

You had to join a forum to hear what BM hear IRL all the time :D
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And BW have to hear the following about IR....all of the time

Who do you think you are?
BM aren't good enough for you?
You think that you are too good for BM.
You just want light skinned babies with light eyes and 'good' hair.
You must hate people with dark skin/kinky hair.
You must hate yourself.
You must hate being black.
You must hate black people.
WM only want sex from BW.
WM will never marry a BW.
WM only want to live out their slave master fantasy with BW.
How can you even think of being with your oppressor?
WM are pedophiles/weird/corny/not enough 'swagger'.
He won't understand you/us/black people.
WM will make you perform weird sex acts.
 
Apollonia said:
And BW have to hear the following about IR....all of the time

Who do you think you are?
BM aren't good enough for you?
You think that you are too good for BM.
You just want light skinned babies with light eyes and 'good' hair.
You must hate people with dark skin/kinky hair.
You must hate yourself.
You must hate being black.
You must hate black people.
WM only want sex from BW.
WM will never marry a BW.
WM only want to live out their slave master fantasy with BW.
How can you even think of being with your oppressor?
WM are pedophiles/weird/corny/not enough 'swagger'.
He won't understand you/us/black people.
WM will make you perform weird sex acts.
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All the time? Get the fuck out of here. I don't know what you've had to go through personally so I won't comment on your experience but as a black person living in America my whole life I gotta call bs. BW/WM couples are far more accepted and mainstream. The first IR pairings in media were usually that combination but no one lost their damn minds like they did/do with bm/ww.
Also that wanting light skin kids with "good" hair is absolutely true, not in all cases but to deny the colorism issue amongst our people especially with women would be a clear farce. Lighter skin is access and a sign of beauty especially amongst our women so its definitely not outside the realm of possibility that a lot of black women want kids with lighter skin in order to bypass the colorism issue.
And quite honestly I do think A LOT of black women think they're too good for bm because the requirements they have for bm to be suitable mates never seem to be equal to what they accept of wm.
Certain cultural things are very really kid.
 
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