Thank God for men like you!!

rayer:
I resent that statement.
I'm a dress size 14-16. While I've always been confident in the person that I am...I have struggled with my physical appearance - mainly b/c I'm not a size 2. I'm not gonna hate on you Andrae, b/c you've give me much love, but it's b/c of the statement above that you made and many statements like it [from other men] that I was MORE than hesitant to post these pics:
http://whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showthread.php?p=319039#post319039 I know I'm not all that - there will always be someone prettier and with a better body - but all be damned if I'm not gonna work what I got. I think the biggest problem with
size(s) in today's society is that most men (and some women) have an idea in their head about what they believe a size 12 or 14 or 16 looks like. And most people (men and women) think
lard ass when they hear the term
plus-size or
full-figured....BUT they make these assumptions based on the fact that a lot of fat women like to refer to themselves as
plus-size. I'm not hating on fat girls b/c God knows I'm no skinny minnie! But, oh how it pisses me off when people want to put the two pics below in the same category. For so many years, I've struggled with this issue that I'm not thin enough, I'm not pretty enough...and I probably will continue to struggle with that as long as there are men who, without thinking, throw out statements like
"someone who is a size 16 ain't hot". I would like to think if for some reason I were ever thrown back into the dating pool, that there would be men who appreciated my body and wouldn't be totally repulsed by the fact that I don't have a washboard stomach or a perfectly sculpted ass. There's a huge difference between being a
big girl and being a
fat girl.
I'm gonna go now, b/c I'm not sure I'm making any sense. :smt102