Never Satisfied why Nerdy black men can't find happiness

UnChosen 1 said:
Who said a janitor cant be a great conversationalist? I have had a great morning discussion with a lunch counter lady and a cleaning person than a stupid dick stuck up his ass doctor.
Your career does not refelct the depth of character that you have as individual. There are plenty of college educated immigrants in this country who drive cabs, clean toilet and work as a mall security officer. Their job does not define them.
Also higher education is overrated, there are plenty high school drop outs who are a lot smarter in life than a PhD fucker.
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Yes, but life exists in generalities. I have an aunt who is Thai, has a fourth grade education, and she owns a bar. Yes, she married my uncle because he's a nice white GI, but she's a hardworking person.

It's not a question of being intelligent or having a PhD. It's a matter of having this drive to say, "I want to be successful for my own sake." If that means Bob notes he's interested in being an electrician and goes to vocational school, foregoing Yale, good for Bob. If he's also a well-rounded invidual, I'll be interested in Bob possibly.

You're right on there are smart people in every walk of life, but I know for me what I look for in a romantic partner is not what I look for in a friend or what I expect from family. And I can only speak for me. Do I have lofty expectations for romantic partners? Probably, but that hasn't let me down when I've actively tried to meet people. Everyone has their own arbitrary standards. Maybe you only date women with red highlights, and you have a very defined argument for that. ;)

Statistically, it's shown that people on the same economic class level to start have more successful marriages than when there's a great disparity. All things being equal, I think it's one of the most important things. If I marry a janitor happily, I invite you to the wedding to come and laugh. Not saying it's impossible, just improbable.
 
madscientist said:
I think that the article is total garbage, and I feel the same way about the entire blog. She bashes black nerds as being very unattractive, and talks about black nerds as if they are horrible creatures. But the minute she sees one of them with a white woman, she will blow the trumpets of boycotting that black nerd, calling him a sellout, wondering why he couldn't find a nice black woman, etc.

Fuck that. I've read many of her entries, even entered a discussion on one of them before being permanently banned for having a different opinion. That place is nothing but poison. Her agenda is destructive, psychopathic, narcissistic, and fascist. Fuck that blog.

And like many others said, she seems to be relying on the image of Steve Urkel. But I am a true geek/nerd. Most of my true interests and mindset define me as one. And I hang around lot of geeks and nerds. The classic image of the geek/nerd does not hold up very well in real life. Sure, some fit that stereotype, and many geeks/nerds do have worse than normal social skills. But they tend to be smart, have their own flavor of "cool", are witty, are great conversationalists, curious, open-minded, enlightening, clear thinking, and a lot of times (such as Benjamin Franklin, Richard Feynman, Carl Sagan, Neil deGrasse Tyson, etc.) are charismatic and charming. But then again, my opinion is likely biased.

It is not the fact that she dislikes and trashes nerds that really gets me. She is definitely not my type. But if you won't date one of them, then don't get mad at who they date.
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You and me are here on that, she has a bad view on us nerds and geeks. Some of us are very outgoing and can share world views. She calls us bitter when it seems like she is the bitter one.
 
madscientist said:
Of course, the excuse they use for that is that "some other black woman" might want (read: could benefit financially from) the black nerd. The bottom line is they want to control us.
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This woman has issues I hope she gets some help, which is something she think we need.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
Yes, but life exists in generalities. I have an aunt who is Thai, has a fourth grade education, and she owns a bar. Yes, she married my uncle because he's a nice white GI, but she's a hardworking person.

It's not a question of being intelligent or having a PhD. It's a matter of having this drive to say, "I want to be successful for my own sake." If that means Bob notes he's interested in being an electrician and goes to vocational school, foregoing Yale, good for Bob. If he's also a well-rounded invidual, I'll be interested in Bob possibly.

You're right on there are smart people in every walk of life, but I know for me what I look for in a romantic partner is not what I look for in a friend or what I expect from family. And I can only speak for me. Do I have lofty expectations for romantic partners? Probably, but that hasn't let me down when I've actively tried to meet people. Everyone has their own arbitrary standards. Maybe you only date women with red highlights, and you have a very defined argument for that. ;)

Statistically, it's shown that people on the same economic class level to start have more successful marriages than when there's a great disparity. All things being equal, I think it's one of the most important things. If I marry a janitor happily, I invite you to the wedding to come and laugh. Not saying it's impossible, just improbable.
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Interesting points. So all things being equal love is rooted in economics as well as sentimetn and emotions?
 
I have to agree with the Brothers here. And along the lines with erictbrown1, hell I'm a Black ass nerd to the hilt, lol. But when it comes to White Women, all I attract are the fine White Women.

There is an assumption that the Black nerd can only pull a fat or ugly White Woman. And I laugh, because my history says a complete different story. Hell the Woman I'm married to looks awesome.

But if you let insecure ass Black people tell the story, we all get fat White Women. At least the heavier White girls are nice, with no trace of the sistahood. But here's the truth: most of those ladies on the other side are heavy as hell. Beasts. And that's what the average Brother is stuck with dating.

I ran into some good looking Brothers who work in grocery stores, they bring their lady around, and she looks like a damn beast. And I'm like "what the hell is going on".

But they think we who are working in the sciences get the unnattractive girls.

This is the way I feel: if you're going to date only Black, then you're going to be stuck with what Black Women say that you should be attracted to. They get to sex who they want, when they want. But you Brothers better be happy with them scraps. And love them big-ass scraps. Like they're a super model. LOL. Because after all, every Black Woman is beautiful. And why are you wasting your (resources) on that White girl, when you'd be perfect for some pretty Black Woman's behemoth cousin?
 
Nikon36 said:
I have to agree with the Brothers here. And along the lines with erictbrown1, hell I'm a Black ass nerd to the hilt, lol. But when it comes to White Women, all I attract are the fine White Women.

There is an assumption that the Black nerd can only pull a fat or ugly White Woman. And I laugh, because my history says a complete different story. Hell the Woman I'm married to looks awesome.

But if you let insecure ass Black people tell the story, we all get fat White Women. At least the heavier White girls are nice, with no trace of the sistahood. But here's the truth: most of those ladies on the other side are heavy as hell. Beasts. And that's what the average Brother is stuck with dating.

I ran into some good looking Brothers who work in grocery stores, they bring their lady around, and she looks like a damn beast. And I'm like "what the hell is going on".

But they think we who are working in the sciences get the unnattractive girls.

This is the way I feel: if you're going to date only Black, then you're going to be stuck with what Black Women say that you should be attracted to. They get to sex who they want, when they want. But you Brothers better be happy with them scraps. And love them big-ass scraps. Like they're a super model. LOL. Because after all, every Black Woman is beautiful. And why are you wasting your (resources) on that White girl, when you'd be perfect for some pretty Black Woman's behemoth cousin?
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Man you owe me a bottle of water for that post HAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH And what I don't understand if they don't want us corn ball nerds why do they care who we date? Can someone please answer that question for me?:smt102:smt102
 
erictbrown1 said:
Very true my friend very true I had to learn to be a lot more outgoing LOL
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yeah it is tuff. for me i have yet to date a ww because of that line. But I am dropping that fear (sorta speak) because in the end happiness is what it is all about. so you have to take the NO's to enjoy the YES's
 
Nikon36 said:
I have to agree with the Brothers here. And along the lines with erictbrown1, hell I'm a Black ass nerd to the hilt, lol. But when it comes to White Women, all I attract are the fine White Women.

There is an assumption that the Black nerd can only pull a fat or ugly White Woman. And I laugh, because my history says a complete different story. Hell the Woman I'm married to looks awesome.

But if you let insecure ass Black people tell the story, we all get fat White Women. At least the heavier White girls are nice, with no trace of the sistahood. But here's the truth: most of those ladies on the other side are heavy as hell. Beasts. And that's what the average Brother is stuck with dating.

I ran into some good looking Brothers who work in grocery stores, they bring their lady around, and she looks like a damn beast. And I'm like "what the hell is going on".

But they think we who are working in the sciences get the unnattractive girls.

This is the way I feel: if you're going to date only Black, then you're going to be stuck with what Black Women say that you should be attracted to. They get to sex who they want, when they want. But you Brothers better be happy with them scraps. And love them big-ass scraps. Like they're a super model. LOL. Because after all, every Black Woman is beautiful. And why are you wasting your (resources) on that White girl, when you'd be perfect for some pretty Black Woman's behemoth cousin?
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You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Nikon36 again.
 
andrae09 said:
I agree with you fam and in a world where being smart is better indicator of how one will survive over pure brute strength or being physically desirable wouldn't nerds be the Alphas now. The Ceo and Cfos who couldn't get dates in college so they weren't as distracted and worked their asses off. The engineers who got beat up in high school but send space shuttles to the moon and give us technology for our everyday lives wouldn't those people be the alpha especially since the desirable men she's talking about usually work for nerds. Show me a jock who owns as much as a Mark Zuckerburger or a Bill Gates. Better yet show me a jock who has accomplished as much as a Barack Obama. All nerds
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John Stallworth owned an consulting firm in huntsville alabama and then there is roger staubach (1970's and 80's cowboys quaterback). Robert Smith former vikings running back has a degree in medicine if im not mistaken. for the most part you are on the money. the dumb jock is over stated.
 
erictbrown1 said:
Man you owe me a bottle of water for that post HAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH And what I don't understand if they don't want us corn ball nerds why do they care who we date? Can someone please answer that question for me?:smt102:smt102
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like someone stated earlier it is about control. women not just bw are selfish and are hypocrites.

when a bm dates a ww they get mad see essence with reggie bush but when a bw dates a wm nothing is said from the bw or the bm.
 
erictbrown1 said:
That is the truth.
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I know this is going to sound dumb as s**t but how approaching a ww at store versus a sista isnt the same but less "swagga" but a little more sensitivity because of the line.

understand what im saying? I mean how do cross without crossing the scaring them line?
 
andrae09 said:
You should read the thread about Jill Scott and what she said in Essence about bm dating ww.
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I did not see the essence article . what month was it ? I did see the cnn interview.

in the cnn interview she stated that oversees she did not have a "problem" with IR because they dont have the history of racism like they do here. when she is here she cringes because she believes we should have some partnership.

well partnership goes both ways. they like to do slick sh*T to the bro's and when we get tired of it they scream foul. all we want is peace.
 
goodlove said:
I did not see the essence article . what month was it ? I did see the cnn interview.

in the cnn interview she stated that oversees she did not have a "problem" with IR because they dont have the history of racism like they do here. when she is here she cringes because she believes we should have some partnership.

well partnership goes both ways. they like to do slick sh*T to the bro's and when we get tired of it they scream foul. all we want is peace.
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Its pretty much the same except she talks about wincing every time a good brotha is with a ww. Really lame shit.
 
andrae09 said:
Its pretty much the same except she talks about wincing every time a good brotha is with a ww. Really lame shit.
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yeah. sistas ( well let me rephrase that because sistas dont back stab.) women like her need to mature. I hate to call her a woman because she has not fully evolve in certain areas yet.
 
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